| dheaven wrote: |
Don't like bosses, |
Sometimes when I do a reading, it won't leave my mind after I think it's finished. This is happening now. When that happens, it is because something more needs to be said or done...that I have not completed my responsibility in some way. When an astrologer gives a reading, he (or she) takes upon himself a responsibility to the person to be complete, base his readings on established understandings of astrology, and to leave the person with a greater understanding of their life.
If I sit quietly, when a reading is yet unfinished, the thoughts come to me that are yet to be done. As so the following addition...
What I failed to give you was a good understanding of why you must change your attitudes.
When you said that you don't like bosses..for example.
A boss will feel this from you...the dislike, the anger, the mistrust. Being a human, the boss will dislike YOU and have mistrust for you. Yes, it would be nice if everyone would not judge you so quickly and return anger for anger, but this is only human. Don't you feel dislike for someone who shows that he dislikes YOU? It is the same thing...it is a human response. And everytime this happens, it reinforces your belief that all bosses are bad ones.
But, look at this closer. Didn't you first judge the boss? Didn't you dislike him simply because he was your boss? Did you give him a chance? Did you judge him unfairly? Yes, you did. You didn't even give the boss a chance to show you that he could be fair, so you see,
in this way you are behaving just like the way you accuse your boss of being!!!! And you brought the negativity to HIM first. You must start to take responsibility that the bad things in your life, started with YOU, not the boss.
So, you must change your own attitude to break this negative cycle. You do this by healing the old wounds...forgiving when you are ready, and if no forgiveness, then at least understanding that those who harmed you were only human, too. When you want others to give love for anger, it must begin with you by doing it FIRST to those who harmed you in the past. In this way, it will end.
When you can stop generalizing that ALL are bad, and begin to see yourself, and others, as just doing the best that they can, and to judge individuals instead of all, and opening your mind to the possibility that there is good in others just as in yourself, then you will have these problems no more.
Peace...