Coloratura,
The long planned computer upgrade is finally scheduled for this Thursday evening, so if I temporarily disappear off the board, please do not think for one moment that I am deserting my many good friends made here on these MB forums. This upgrade is long overdue but also absolutely necessary, if I am to continue to offer free intuitive readings on this site. My old computer (as myself) has seen better days?
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| I know this seems very silly, and to my friends, it is. However, every time I try to either move on or just to let things lay, it hurts. It's almost as if moving on and looking for someone else means leaving a part of myself or severing my connection to him. |
This sounds anything to me other than being silly. Even though you know deep within yourself that you must in your own time cut all energy connections with him in order to more fully be with someone else, it can often be a long and painful drawn out process, and it is I feel perfectly normal for a person with your sensitivity and degree of empathy to feel as if you are being torn apart or are being stretched to the extreme in two different directions at the same time.
In fact I would be very concerned if you did not feel this way to some extent. Yes it definitely hurts, but holding on indefinitely to a dream which will never come about during this current lifetime can have much more devastating and long lasting consequences for both your emotional and physical health, when compared to this relatively brief pain of your initial separation.
Unfortunately I know of no way to completely protect you from having to experience some of this pain now, in order to prevent you continuing to deny yourself the love you so deserve to receive in the future. But with the luxury of hindsight I believe that once the worst of this is finally over, you will recognise that what I have been saying to you was absolutely the truth at the time I said it.
Lasting happiness in the arms of someone who truly loves and values us for whom we already are often requires significant personal sacrifices to be made in the shorter term, so that we are then given valuable opportunities to enjoy a much brighter future with that special person. But the pain in our hearts which we cannot avoid experiencing in order to get to where and whom we want can frequently deceive us into believing that we will never make it.
Please therefore be assured that as many others have done before you, you will eventually in your own good time rise above the pain you are currently feeling, and that your way will then once more be opened to life's greatest blessing to each of us - LOVE.
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