dear learned members ,
A big thank you for reading for us and helping us. I wud tell my problem n ask for guidance but b4 that i want to tell Tarunji that his views and direction to one quernt that what problems we are undergoign are because of our prior karma and only we can do something abt it inspired me to write. I hope tarunji and other learned ppl wud give me guidance too.

My birth details
DOB  18.08.1973
TOB  2:45am
POB Jamshedpur'bihar
Lagne gemini
I got marr in feb 25 2001 , since thenits being too much, my hubby doesn't trust me and is abusive sometimes but from 2002 mid things got OK but never a lovely relation but i took as this is wot Bhagwan has meant 4 me.in dec2007 i found out he is interested in other woman and was professing his love to her; i tried to make him see reason n told abt our son but all in vain we  has horrible arguments and i decided to leave him.but my well wishers and my horo reading , made me stay as all said this wud go away and i must stick to my home. but she n my hubby quit onceor twice and ended it but she is back on scene again, she stays in a different country but comes here every 3-4 months, my hubby takes her on holiday and spends time with her.... I donno wot to do....
I have done many  prayers and pray to Lord but pls someone guide me what to do.....

-Kind Regards,,
Troubled Maddy

Just for in case
My hubbies details
26:01:1972
4:20 am
Delhi   (lagna scorpio)
And i have 2 beautiful sons

Maddyji,
           This is very unfortunate. Must be karma from previous birth, not sure what else I can say. You have Rahu in your seventh, your seventh lord in eighth and eighth lord in lagna aspecting seventh. If that was not enough, Rahu is your Atmakarak. Currently you are running the dasa of debilitated Venus. The antardasha of Saturn is in the offing. Not sure how much your prayers and religious remedies will help in curing your hubby of his straying ways, the other option being detachment which is easier said than done. I feel for you but I think some conclusion will be arrived at by 2012.

Dear Maddy,

First of all I must thank the lord that his words through my fingers have been inspiring some people to take control of their lives and move on. Thats great news.

Your case is indeed a very tricky situation.

The 7th house in your chart is practically ruined. The nodes are present there and Sa aspects (Sa is in Marana Karaka sthana). The Karaka Ve is neecha and none of the two planets potent of getting a neecha bhanga are in kendras to lagna or the moon so no relief from the suffering in relationships. Ok karaka is ruined house is runied lets atleast find help from the lord of the house and the poor bloke Ju is sitting neecha and retrograde in the 8th house and he also happens to be the badhakesha. So what do we do? hmmm . The lord and the sustainer of your marriage is Sa (lord of UL and lord of the second from it) he himself is in Marana Karaka Sthana. really difficult.

Ju will transit into Aq later this year Dec 19, 2009 that is a good sign because he is a great sustainer for the UL (in the second from it). there is no point talking to your husband before the 14 Oct this year since the Ju is retrograde at that time. he will not listen.

I would do the following:-

1. go to a ganesha temple and do abhishekam. Offer some dakshina for this reading to the lord

2. There is deva badhaka in your chart and so I would suggest that you go to the shiva temple on a Saturday and offer Dhoop, clothes for the priest, and flowers to Lord shiva and thereafter to Abhishekam for the shiva Lingam.
3. Once this is done every evening at sun set you should recite the maha mrutanjaya mantra with the vam vam sah added to the front. That should take care of the jala tattwa issues

4. In the morning chant Ganesha Mantra like "om Gum Ganpatiye namah" or "Gajvakraye Hum" atleast 4 times and do the durga kalpavriksha mantra Om Aim Hreem Kleem Durgatinashinye mahamaye swaha" 108 times

May the lord help you

Hari Om Tat sat

Tarun

Thank u very much for the reply and kind words .Yes detachment from everything and doing my dharma is what seems right to me.
Again many thanks.

Many thanks for your quick response to my query. I wud go to a Ganesha temple and do it but right nw am overseas and the swaminarayan temple has a ganesha deity . Shud i do abhishekam and dakshina there or wait as am goin to india in a month and do it at a ganesha temple.

I am reciting 11 times ganesha moola mantra.read tulsidas sundarkanda and read durga chalisa also.

Just wanted to ask u one last question does all this has something to do with pitru dosh or something related to father side as somebody said but they never gave me a conclusive answer. My father for last few year is in a court problem with his cousins as they r not giving us our share in partnership.

My congratulations to u for giving this selfless guidance , may Lord bless u.
Kind Regards,
Maddy