Birth Date 18 may 1981
Time 11:05 am
Place Patna, Bihar

I am starting to feel some depression due to my unmarried state. Living alone, I am missing the feeling of companinship.

I have been in a relationship for the past 6 yrs. However, since he is not in my community, my parents are not agreeing. They want me to get married in my community. Out of frustration from trying to convince them as well as frustration from my unmarried state, I have "given in" and agreed that if there is a suitable boy within our community, I will get married to him.

However, I have seen many boys over the past 7-8 yrs but none that I can feel I can settle with. To be honest, my community does not have many good boys. A number of them my parents even rejected.

When will I get married?

how come u have different dates of birth in your profile and in the question... just being curious

How can you ditch the guy just like that? Before loving the guy did u ever think ur parents will not agree?
If you love then standup in his side.  If you can't then what justice u can provide to ur husband?

there will be ups and downs in married life. Do u think u can shoulder/ be with ur life partner mentally?

Do u think u r mentally ready to marry?

Not a problem. Actually, this is the ID of my roommate.

I feel sorry to see that you are being too judgemental about this. But its understandable as empathy does not come too easy. You don't know a lot of things about me or my situation. Hence, you might find my actions unjustified. Similarly, I dont know a lot of things about you and your situation. Hence, I find your harsh response unjustified. The solution would be to look at this objectively.

"ditch" is too strong a word. Him and I mutually agreed on this arrangement.

Of course I thought about my parents not agreeing. But our groundrule was that we will only get married with their blessing. We gave it out best shot. Now what?? There always will be contingencies in life which people are unprepared for. Life is unpredictable. I has always thought that my parents would choose me over "society". I was wrong. Life will not stop if I was wrong. Life goes on. I have to ensure I move with it. Its not easy but what else?

Mentally ready? In a country where parents choose when their children get married, this question is besides the point. I might confidently say at age 50 that now Im mentally ready for marriage. Will it make a difference then? Nobody can be mentally ready for marriage as noone knows what awaits them. Only once its over n done with do ppl realise if they were ready or not.

If you still want to argue, recommend, suggest: lets do it in another forum.

Meanwhile I would like all readers' attention pulled back to the initial question I had posed. When will I get married?