hi all,

I am posting my birth details and my husband's birth details
On and off we have had lots of fights and patch-ups for the 7 years of our marriage. Sure, we have ego problems but in addition he also has this controlling attitude on me which suffocates me at times. We also have a baby now. I always worry about the future of our marriage. Friends, relatives , all know us as a "fighting , unhappy couple" , though we have our share of joys too.. this also makes me withdrawn from society.

1. Please analyze and let me know , are we going to live our lives like this or there could be some improvement. Because i am fed up of living unhappy.   no matter how much i try to reconcile by being submissive which is against my personality, he tries to over-power me that much and finally things go wrong.

2. Also after the birth of my child , i am jobless, my state was better when i was working, is there any job on my cards in near future.

3. Also he has Mars, Sun and venus conjunction in his 7th house and i have rahu in 8th house in my navamsha kundali.. Could you please check our navamsha charts too?

My details
Birth date : 16 Dec, 1978
Birth time : 14.30
birth state : karnataka

My husband's details : 02 Oct, 1974
Birth time : 17.55
birth place : mumbai

Thanks in anticipation

--silverline

Where in karnataka need to be specified ?

Sorry for the inconvenience..

Birth Place is Belgaum, Karnataka

thanks
silverline

Hello Silver line,
The two Horoscopes when studied individually and together indicates
the following in my humble opinion. I do agree postmortem is easier,
but let us examine the key problem areas.
When the two Horoscopes are compared, apart from the misguiding high
Kuta score based on the two Nakshatras, we find the following major issues.
A.The Dosha Samya , based on the malefic positioning of the five
Planets Mars,Rahu,Saturn,Sun, and ketu from the Ascendant , moon,
and Venus in the case of your Husband is far exceeding that of yours
by more than 50% . In other words the total Dosha content of your Husband
is high as compared to that of yours. When such a high difference exists, then
there is likely to be adverse effects in overall married life.
B. The two Lagnas in Rasi chart are in 6/8 position from each other showing
each of you differ in your view points and outlook on major issues.
C. The Naisargika Sambanda of the two lagna lords changes from friendly
Position[Mars-jup], to an enemy position in tatkalika sambandha. So also
between the lords of the moon sign. This shows a gradual deteriaration in
relationship over the years.
D. This marriage had to happen because of the Karmic bond based on the position
of the two Upapada Lagnas with respect to the Lagna position in each other’s Horoscpe.His Lagna is in trines your UL and your Lagna is in trines to his UL.
The two UL are hoever in 2/12 from each other.
Let us check the individual Horoscopes. Let us start with that of your Husband with greater Dosha  mentioned earlier.
1.The venus-mars-sun combination in the 7th house is not welcome.The seventh Lord is in mutual exchange with 8th lord. The 6th Lord in 7th. Venus as Darakaraka   is stuated in 7th Rasi. The Sun-moon in both Horoscopes are opposing each other  while the Sun is situated in 7th with above combo trying to create discord due to his ego, besides not  giving the tender love and care you are looking forward to from him.
The Mars and Saturn aspect the Ascendant and his moon. Rahu is in second from  his UL.. While the Lord of second from UL is conjunct Ketu.
All these point to a difficult married life. The good  aspect comes from Jupiter[R]aspecting the 7th Lord Mercury and UL in Rasi chart, fighting a lone weak battle against above odds.
2.In your Horoscope again though better than your Husbands do carry some problem  areas like Venus in 7th aspected by Saturn,combust mars aspected by both Rahu and Sun,besides being in second from UL. The  Lord of 4th House in Navamsa denoting domestic happiness , situated in 12th house of loss.
Enough of differences, but where do you stand, and what does the future hold for you is the question. My humble opinion as always been is that you should realize your weaknesses and misgivings, and pray to the great Lord for reconciliation and happy married life. Remember you have a lovely child to look after born inspite of problems.
I am worried about his Sun-venus Dasa in vogue which goes on till june 2010 which Is not very favourable. Besides Saturn will join this combo in mid sept , while the present  Jupiter shifts to Aquarius. Things are likely to get bad unless some remedial action is taken on an urgent basis. Remember God always helps for a sincere soul.
I would suggest fasting on Tuesdays and worship of Guru and strengthening it. Things will then start working out. But remember Human effort on both sides is a must too.
I can send you the details of prayer if you are interested.Nothing very complicated.
In the meantime cheer up. Have faith and everything will be fine.
I liked your name"Silver Line".
My humble prayers to the Lord to help you.
AVAM

Dear Avam ji,


          Happy to see your post after many months. We all really missed your expert views. We are all learning many things from your superb analysis. So please participate and give your views to the posts made by Raman where our Rishi ji has given his technical analysis.too.    


      My sincere prayers  for the happy life of silverline . Hope she will get happy days by following your remedies.(prayers)  



Regards,