Sir,
Please give me moral support the whole life is ahead of me. I don’t know how I am going to live. Everything is over for me. I have become all alone.

I am ruined completely and have thoughts of suicide. I have talked to Astrologers and I am tensed regarding planets. If everything is pre-destined then why should I make any efforts; astrologers say about planets and it again makes me further depressed. Like Saturn & Mars are in my 12th house so will I have some Finances like to take care of my basic needs of food, clothing and shelter & if married that of wife and kids.

I go to Astrologers to find good things but they tell bad things. I do not have any courage to face life. That's why I think to end the life. This astrology and planets have also broken by courage and paralyzed me into fear. Astrologers say I can't do stock market trading, real estate investment and speculation as planets don't support this and they will make me insolvent. Why did God created this planets? I am not able to bear any more suffering and misery. Astrologers put fear into my mind as this is not good, this is bad, this combination is bad and my life is destroyed.  

I completed MMS from India & MBA in USA but was unable to find work so had to return unfortunately.  

I haven't earned much when I was in USA, have personal debt, owe money to relatives & my parents have also spent a lot; right now I am dependent on my parents for my basic needs & take money from them.

I am ruined mentally, financially & emotionally as I couldn't fulfill my dreams. My reputation among family members has also been tarnished. I have to get an H1B visa, long wait list for green card 6-8 years.

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I got this as an PM, but I find this cry not to be so unusual, in today's society, and the demand put upon us from Tradition and expectations.

I have therefore, chosen to answer in public, because I believe that it can give some ideas on how to better ones life as a whole.

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The first thing you have to do is to stop thinking about suicide, or at least stop writing it...stop pronounce it.
Our Brain is our strongest tool, and by using the word suicide as an option, your brain start working with it, and might "lure" you to believe that this is  an option.
Well, it is not, it is a defeat, it is an action that can't be reversed, and the only thing you achieve is to leave behind many sorrows, and then you might struggle with the same thing in your next life....if we are so lucky that we get one.

You have to try to turn your way of thinking, from the negative to the positive.
This will take an effort, because you have been so far down, but it is the only way that will lead you out of it.
Negativity and helplessness burn your energies, and you manage less and less.
If you were so lucky to be offered an interview for a job, you would fail, because you negativity and unsureness would mirror you.

You need to take an evaluation of your present situation.
Then you need to see what gives you positive impulses, and what gives you negative impulses.
Then you need to be frank to your family about your situation, if they expect you to deliver something you aren't able to deliver, but keep your head high....you are not alone in this situation.....But you have now started to build yourself back up.

Now start to put down on paper every problem you face, small as well as big.
Then evaluate each problem you have....start to try solving those who are smallest....many times problem are connected, and if you get rid of some small ones, they might lessen the bigger ones.
Many times we ourself create BIG problems because we don't dare to talk about it, because we fear for our Pride, and by so we avoid to getting help from those who love us, instead we move them away from us.

Now you have to put up goals.
In order to win often, so you can build your self respect back up, each goal need to be easy reached but have an effort.
Since you the whole time need to build new goals, your progress will go forward, and you yourself can see that you manage thing.
Start to smile, start to talk to people.....but don't complain...avoid NEGATIVE thoughts and action.
If you manage this, then you will start mirror positivity, and a man who look for solutions, a man who want to change, and this is a man any company want to have in their stock.

Don't let plans for the future stop you from doing things today.
If your Dream is to go back to USA, well send the application, then forget about it (because it takes time) and work toward goals as if USA not was an option.
Maybe you then hit opportunities in your own Neighborhood that is far better (life quality) then a travel to a foreign country gives.

You must also work with your financially problem.
I am not saying you shall become a tightwad, but you need to put up a "balance" between income and spending.
It is very expensive to be poor....it is very expensive to use card that gives you loan ...like Visa...avoid them...or at least only use them if you can pay when due.  
Again it is important to be open with your wife (family), because if you overdraw your financial limit, they all will suffer from it, not only you.

So my best advice must be, Face the problems, try to fix the smallest first, start thinking positive, avoid negative thoughts and action..be honest with  your family and friends, and you might get help where you saw problems before....and throw the Pride far away....I call it many time our Curse....we shall have pride in ourself....but not let it kill us!

Good luck.

Dear Amar,
I am not any astrologer. But one thing i have realized in life is that the bad time and good time are just cycles. If you look at your own life, you would have surely enjoyed it better than now, So wait for the good time to come back again. It has to come and will come for sure, And when it comes you will surely feel like laughing at the past problems, thats life. Believe in god.

God bless you!

Suresh