Hi Vipin,

I am not an expert or scholar in astrology. But I have a good respect for people who are doing service in this forum for others bogged down by troubling situations in their life. I came across your post and realized that you are in a helpless situation. I thought I can post in my comments for you here. Please dont mistake me. It is just a piece of advice.

First of all, I would ask you to take life simple and think simple. You seem to have your eyes closed. The world is very very big Vipin. Just by focussing on one single problem that you have, your stress level has increased a lot. You have to think that this problem is not the biggest problem and people with so many problems are leading life in a positive way. Take examples of people who have extreme difficulties in their life. So, see this as only 'a phase in your life' that will 'pass way'. Remember you cant get around a problem. You have to get through it.

Second of all, you have mentioned that your girl friend had a crush and hence she started feeling guilty and asked for your forgiveness. You have to remember she 'only' had a crush. It is not a mistake. Really not a big mistake to feel so confused. Everyone might have come across a situation were they had crush. It is a very very normal feeling for a human being.

Third of all, there is nothing to forgive here. If you love her, accept her and make her feel better that she need not feel guilty. Just give in to what you heart says. The most important thing is, you should not think that you are doing a big thing by 'forgiving her'. If you have that kind of feeling, that you become a 'big person', by forgiving, you are mistaking. Take it naturally. Everyone does the act of forgiving in their life even in small small things. We should not assume we become a big personality if we forgive. It is part and parcel of life. If you adapt this mentality, then, you will not feel bad later on for accepting her.


If at all you feel that this relationship is not going to work out, just make up your mind and get yourself out of it.. When you  try to get out of a relationship, it is really painful. But later on, you will understand that the world is too big and you have so many things going around you to make yourself happy and fulfilling.

Remember, mistakes are normal things that everybody does in their life. When you girl friend realizes that she made a mistake, there is she is out of it.

First of all thank you all for your advices

but

i wonder, how easy is to pass judgement on some one elses situation...How easy is to just declare that the other person is a wimp and can't handle the situation the way he should have...If i say that i should put myself on something else ..divert my mind , look for positive things in life ...there is much beyond a girl in this life to cherish..develop a hobby...

However i would just like to ask one thing?

Just how many of you had gone through the situation of holding a bottle of poison in your hand / holding a blade in your hand / standing on the top of the building to jump..in other words...HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE ACTUALLY FELT "THAT" HELPLESS ....???

I know ..i am being judgmental by judging on you people advices...Which consist of nice and kind words actually... no second thoughts about that.

There was one gentleman , who was the first one to reply to my post, who said that he has been in such situation...but alas ..he didn't mention how did he get out of it...

Life as i know ..is a big teacher ..the only thing that i want to learn right now is to be how to accept the fact that i am HUMAN!.

Thank you all.

especial thanks to neeta...you have actually given me something to think.

I was in a similar situation not too long ago.

How did I get out of it? One day, I just did. I realized there is more to my life than that.

This too shall pass.

Dearest vipin.kumar05....I don`t think anyone is passing judgment on you...your requests for help are being answered...you seem to be so defensive toward those who only wish healing for you...your own soul is where all your answers reside...when we get stuck it helps to ask for guidance...this can help us find our way...but ultimately its up to your own soul to figure out the next step...take what you need and leave the rest...give thanks and proceed....the people in this forum only wish to encourage you to expand and grow...my piece of advice would be to look around and see all the things you can be thankful for....gratitude is powerful....even giving thanks for the little things in life can produce powerful results for you...see yourself as happy and in a love filled relationship...you can create anything you wish in life....unlimited possibilities are available to you...but if you continue to focus on what is wrong in life...you will continue to attract the things and feelings into your life that you do not want... my friend you are worthy of all the good things life has to offer...be open to receive them....


you`ve asked if anyone has experienced such darkness as you have...and I say yes I have lived in darkness...it took a long while for me to find the light...but it is was there for me  and it is there for you as well...shining brightly and calling to you to come see and experience the brightness of it.....and once you find the light you will look back and see that your experiences have served you with tremendous soul growth....

please don`t think that jumping off a bridge will solve your problems....your soul will continue to be given the same lessons to learn again with even tougher  circumstances....choose now to accept this as a soul growth experience...see the light within...you are a miracle...and you have the power to create a life filled with everything your heart desires....believe my friend....believe in yourself....you are a beautiful soul....

Dear Friend,
Thank you so much for your honest response.
I am really sorry that you are feeling judged here and I am sure there must be some crazy thoughts going in your mind.
All of us have been in similar situations..some more severe and some less and we only wished at that moment of time there was one person who would just listen to us without judging us. But all answers come from within.

I might not be able to give you any advice but all I can say that you will always be loved  no matter how you feel and whatever you decide in your relationship and we all are with you till you find your ground provided you are ready to make that effort . It surely gets better....and that I am sure of.

Take care