Dear friend,

This entire feeling of confusion is indeed overwhelming.

Take a moment for yourself and understand what happened.You feel hurt for hurting her and upset that she had a 'crush' in the interim.Boils down to you two being humans.

But the beauty of it is both of you admit to having done something wrong ..'childish behavior' and 'having a crush'.I really do not know whether you have shared the same with each other.

If you both can move past this situation by accepting each other's hurt and loving each other inspite of each other's mistake...then you will have a strong foundation of togetherness.But that is something only you both know and can do.

I hope somebody can help you out with the vedic reading.
In the meantime sending positive thoughts your way

Take care

i didnt know that i will get such a response...

however as suggested by Rhutobello that i need to have a time out and ask some question to myself... I am doing that since the day we broke off..

But the answer that i am getting are confused and un reliable...

I went to church and pray to jesus that give me strenght to forgive her ..forgive myself...I get that ..i am ready to forgive her ..but the idea of re trusting her ..thats a little scary to me...i want to trust her ..i want to heal her also ..i cant see her sad..i cant...but i couldn't see myself in that much pain ...

Can i really really forgive her? Can i be such a big person? I dont know ..i want to say ..yes! and major part of myself says Yes ..everything will be allright when we are back together ...but is it something that i want to own her? is that why i want her to come back?

I wanted her to be successful and independent in her life. I helped her all the way to that point....than this happened ..

I AM DAMN CONFUSED..this confusion has caused my mental breakdown..

What should i do in a time out?

Can some one tell me that ...is she the one? if she is ..then i am going to put my life on line to make her happy..?

I am asking this because when i see my hand ( palmistry) i see two marriage lines.... which again makes me confuse...thats why i wanted to have a vedic reading ..

I checked the match making ..of her and me...and i got a score of 34 / 36.  ( Lord Ram and Mother Sita were the only couple with 36 / 36 score..)

I want her to be my soulmate..my everything..but i cant find a definitive answer...

Can some one help me in the vedic reading or anything to give me just a Direction?

vipin.kumar05@gmail.com

The first thought I get reading your messages is that you have reached the peak of joblessness, no responsibilities. Hence, love and your girlfriend is on top of your mind always and you keep thinking about it and have a made a big problem out of it.

If you really need her, let your love pass the test of time. Who knows she might settle for a better boy friend than you or you might get a better girl friend than her. Give yourselves a time of 1 year. Meanwhile, do not disturb each other, rather support each other. Do some good things, as in improve your career, develop a new hobby, change the way you spend your day, and last but the most important thing, be in company of your friends for more time. Do not move away from your friends. Trust me, one can cheer up a lot in company of friends.
At the end of one year from now, if you guys still feel you both need each other, get married.

Time certainly answers things, do not push it to answer you.

Also, start giving more value to life. Love is not end of everything. If you set yourself to do better things in life, you can get past all these thoughts. Get rid of Joblessness. I think you don't have much work to do and also you don't own any responsibilities from the way you are talking. So, being occupied all the time is the Key.

You believe in Jesus, You believe in God.....do they always do what you expect them to do? do you sometimes feel cheated? Do you sometimes feel they should have given you more justice....helped you more?
Do you then stop loving them....do you jump to another that can give you guarantees?

Don't take me wrong...I believe in a God...I just use this as a picture.

Nothing in our world comes with guarantees, no one can say they will never betray you, equal you can never say you will always be true to a person, for all future. Everything build on trust and the ability to forgive.

If you have problems to forgive her, then I ask you to forget her, because then you are not worthy her, and equal she must do the same.

If you both go on, with doubt in your hearts, then I can predict that this marriage will not last, because it is built on shallow ground, and can not carry the "hard days", because accusations will come easy.

So I ask you again.....exams your feelings...maybe also evaluate your own actions up against hers....if you not can say "I FORGIVE" then forget her, and go on with your life because then she is not appointed for you.

Good luck.

Dear Vipin,
Its hard not to be so confused and upset right now.

Can i really really forgive her? Can i be such a big person? I dont know ..i want to say ..yes! and major part of myself says Yes ..everything will be allright when we are back together ..

Can some one tell me that ...is she the one? if she is ..then i am going to put my life on line to make her happy..?
I really dont think anybody can tell you that....except you yourself.

I want her to be my soulmate..my everything..but i cant find a definitive answer...
I wish there were definitive answers...but its either you know she is the one or you dont.
I know its easier for an outsider to say all the above things.

Lots of positive thoughts coming your way and take care.