I have read this several times and I know that for perfect match making full horoscopes are needed. But I don't have the birth time of this man. But I know this for sure that I have Mars in Taurus and he has Sun, mercury, venus and Rahu in Scorpio. Scorpio is 180 degrees ( opposite to ) taurus.

Please tell me if this is a hint that when my mars is in opposite sign to his Sun, venus, mercury and rahu, then what is a indication of serious love, attitude and personality clash, which will end up being a, if not abusive, but frustating one. I see him as a good man but you know how people can hide their anger before marriage and takes the monster in them out afterwards. I want to be safe that's all. Don't want to get trapped

[quote="suran78"]I have read this several times and I know that for perfect match making full horoscopes are needed. But I don't have the birth time of this man. But I know this for sure that I have Mars in Taurus and he has Sun, mercury, venus and Rahu in Scorpio. Scorpio is 180 degrees ( opposite to ) taurus.

Please tell me if this is a hint that when my mars is in opposite sign to his Sun, venus, mercury and rahu, then what is a indication of serious love, attitude and personality clash, which will end up being a, if not abusive, but frustating one. I see him as a good man but you know how people can hide their anger before marriage and takes the monster in them out afterwards. I want to be safe that's all. Don't want to get trapped[/quote]


This may sound a bit judgmental and confusing to <some>, but if true love cannot be *felt* then we may need to change the definition of LOVE!

I wish there were a way to examine the thought processes of these individuals, not all of whom were mythical!

Romeo and Juliette
Heer and Ranjha
Meera and Krishna
... etc

May we just accept for the time being that if there is any doubt, even a sliver of doubt, let us NOT call it love!

Mind you, it may grow up to become LOVE, but hasn't done so, at this time!

Let us go easy with the adjectives and wishes and focus more on the here and now!

RR

But love does not always need to be painful.  True love can be blissful too if and only if couples not only love but are compatible to each other.

 Love + compatibility = happy ideal true love marriage.

1. compatibility - love = dull and dead marriage for sake of maintaining duty and sometimes are pretentious

2. love - compatibility = tragic love stories that either end up in not getting married or divorce or death

I want to avoid the second one at all cost  becaz the pain of not consummating such a incompatible love is far less severe that being married and separating later.  And don't forget such tragic true love marriage end up harming others as well who care for you or your children who are dependent and have to experience rollercoaster life.  Children who come from such dysfunctional families mostly have psychological problems.

Hi,
 Great reply Rohiniji!! It's usually a maze....wat u write...but always interesting! My two-sense here......when you use the word "Love", being a verb, people take it like so. Love is felt...it's not something you do...or don't do.....it's has nothing to do with the ego...so the compatibility issue should be thrown out.
 When you love somebody, you don't bring ur ego in that relationship. There are many couples who are compatible, but love simply doesn't exist. But there many relationships where two people are very different, yet love brings them together and they are happy...even when arguments occur due to the differences.
 I'll tell you...i would much rather have 50 bad days with my lover...than 100 good days without him. Many people simply don't have an understanding of true love.
 Anyhow, nice posting RRji!!!

Ashna,

Please read message again. I was using the word as a noun and not verb :-)

Call it a maze or a net or whatever, I believe firmly that it is best to teach people how to fish (verb) and make them self-sustaining for a lifetime as opposed to net the fish (noun) for them and make them dependent on me for the wealth of information that they already contain!

And you are superficially right about compatible people not having any love. But think for a moment! Is love, just of one kind, the stereotypical sense in which it is sometimes confused by passionate people who want/think/imagine that they have arrived at the idyllic image of it in their lives? But then why to such individuals who think they have already arrived, so many uncertainties still plague and questions surround their hearts like a gloomy storm that never ends? Or seems to anyway, given their tone of urgency!

RR

[quote="Ashna"]Hi,
 Great reply Rohiniji!! It's usually a maze....wat u write...but always interesting! My two-sense here......when you use the word "Love", being a verb, people take it like so. Love is felt...it's not something you do...or don't do.....it's has nothing to do with the ego...so the compatibility issue should be thrown out.
 When you love somebody, you don't bring ur ego in that relationship. There are many couples who are compatible, but love simply doesn't exist. But there many relationships where two people are very different, yet love brings them together and they are happy...even when arguments occur due to the differences.
 I'll tell you...i would much rather have 50 bad days with my lover...than 100 good days without him. Many people simply don't have an understanding of true love.
 Anyhow, nice posting RRji!!![/quote]