Hi cedars

I hope this finds you in good health. I thought I would provide you with further feedback. Also as it is interesting for the readers to see how things panned out in real life vs the suggestions made within your kind reading.

The person you described (intelligent, gentlemanly, tactless) was the EXACT character of my blind date last week. He was incredibly sharp, challenged everything I said /proposed in an intellectual/witty manner, displayed the behaviour of a very old fashioned sort of gentleman (even though he was 27), however was also hard to read in exactly the way you have conveyed it.

At times, he seemed interested in me (I think) i.e told me in a heartfelt manner that he enjoyed the date and my company, flirted (i think, but he may have just been being polite and banterful in a friendly way vs any romantic interest on his part).

We had a fairly good rapport and a not dissimilar level of intellect and sense of humour - however I haven't heard from him since the date. Which tallies with your warning to 'watch out for someone that may sweet talk you, yet there is no substance or delivery in his actions' and also to not be too hasty about a person or situation. The date felt as though it went well, and that he would contact, so I presumed incorrectly and should not have been hasty.

The thing that was confusing with him/the situation in general and his lack of contact is that he is quite tactless - i.e if he wasn't interested in me remotely, I imagine him to just end the date without any mention of his intention to contact etc - he went out of his way to try to be affectionate , try to walk me home and of his own accord say he'd contact me. Which is weird and unnecessary for someone that is very blunt to the point of tactlessness, but could just be a result of his ingrained training in being polite/gentlemanly/good mannered.
Anyway, the outcome tallies with the comments you made in your reading of 'he has a habit of forgetting his promises and doing things on a whim'.

By the way, the change of place or direction you mentioned referred to the fact that we changed the date and venue of the date last week to accommodate his seemingly endless travel.
Additional feedback is that the woman you mentioned (can be a b*tch at times) is a business contact in my life.

So in regards to my concern about going on a date and there being a negative outcome, I am still glad I went even though nothing came of it. I had fun in exactly the way you mentioned in your 'possible outcome' text. As the outcome was that I enjoyed my date's company, he was gentlemanly, we flirted and he was very handsome, so these were all positives.
He was however a tad on the arrogant side of self assured, tactless a great deal and also made comments that suggested that he thought life long monogamy in marriage is a delusional concept - which obviously evidences the fact that he isn't relationship material.

So, I don't really feel totally put out that we didn't explore it further. The only thing that annoys me I guess are my lack of intuitive skills in not being able to ascertain if his seeming interest was just out of politeness, or genuine attraction. Anyway, onward and upward and thanks again for your time.

All the best

That is very sweet of you to get back to me with such detailed feedback. Thank you very much.
I believe you have done the right thing my friend and the experience will hopefully add to your life one way or the other... I also sense an element of maturity about your approach and this, hopefully, will eradicate any issues of self-esteem or self-doubt you have about your person.

I wish you all the best for the future.

Plenty of blessings!!