Akido, with respect, you dont have to prove anything to anyone except for yourself.

I can sense we come from different cultures, but I feel there is too much pressure on you from home and for that I will simply respectfully bow out as I feel we have some cultural differences here.

My very best wishes to in your path my friend.

Just a short notice.

You have to live your life.....you have to carry the responsibility for everything you do in life...then it must also be your choices that control your life....it can be hard due to traditions and love and respect for family, but in the long run...your control is the only way to go.

If YOU manage to brake the circle, then your children will benefit from it, because you then know they must be allowed to explore life, and develop their own abilities.

There is a lot on net on family pressure, I copy one for you.

Good luck with YOUR life

Impossible to Avoid

You get messages from your family from the day you’re born. Some of these messages deal directly with work, including:

   • The jobs that are considered appropriate based on gender or income potential.

   • The circumstances under which it’s appropriate to leave a job.

   • The acceptable motivations for working.

Your family may have clearly stated some of these messages, or rules. For example:

   • “Of course you’ll go to medical school. Your father did.”

   • “It’s not appropriate for a man to be a nurse.”

   • “You can’t work for minimum wage!”

You may receive other messages subtly via comments about other people. For example:

   • “Can you believe she quit because she was bored? What about her bills?”
   Message: It’s more important to earn money than be happy in your job.

   • “Mr. Smith sure is doing well. He owns his own business now!”
   Message:Entrepreneurship is good.

   • “Boy, she’s really making a difference in the world.”
   Message: Social service is a worthy field.

These Messages Have an Effect

As you became an adult, you internalized some of the messages from your family. The little voice in your head that tells you to look both ways before crossing the street is the same one that “tsks” when you consider a career that is unacceptable based on the messages you’ve received from your family through the years. The conflict between these messages and the skills, interests and abilities you possess as an individual can cause lots of stress and, ultimately, lead to bad career decisions.

Let’s look at Brian again. His family messages included:

   • “A good job is a professional job, like a doctor, lawyer or accountant.”

   • “It’s better to be at the top of the ladder than at the bottom.”

   • “Income is the most important consideration.”

   • “It’s not acceptable for a member of our family to work with his hands for a living.”

It’s that last message that’s causing him the most conflict. Because Brian is listening to –– and following –– messages that don’t match his true desires, it is highly unlikely he will ever feel fulfilled as an accountant.
Get Back on Track

If you realize you’ve been following someone else’s career rules, it’s time to get back on track with your own. Follow these steps to get started:

Recognize the Messages: Articulate the messages and rules you carry around in your head. Question every assumption and bias you have about jobs and work. This can be tricky, because assumptions are often invisible to us. Keep asking yourself why, as in, “Why can’t a man be a nurse?”

Evaluate the Messages You Uncover: Scrutinize every family message you recall. Is it something you value? Is it something you believe? Most importantly, is it a rule you want to keep?

Keep the Good, Toss the Rest: Keep the messages that match your values and beliefs. They will serve as a guide in your job search and work life. Toss the ones that run counter to what you believe. They will only get in the way when you try to hear and follow your inner voice.

Learn More About What You Believe: You will likely uncover some gray areas where you don’t believe what your family taught you, but aren’t sure what you should believe, either. This is a good time to do some self-assessment work.

By learning to listen to what your own voice is telling you, you’ll be on track to find the career that’s right for you.

Cedars and Rhutobello,

Yes, i came from a different culture that have close family ties. I can see what you mean, i will try to focus on what i really want (pass exam) in life and ignore negative comments that will affect me/prevent me from achieving happiness and success in life.

Thanks for the wonderful insight.