Over the summer I met a guy which I was very unsure about. He wasn't exactly my "style" or anything, but he gave me the look, flirted and asked me out very discreetly a couple of times, all which I rejected. As time went by, I realized I had more feelings for him than I allowed myself to have.

The problem is that when something first happened between us, it was weird afterwards. He said to me that nothing would change between us, but it did. I have now moved to England and he is still in Norway. I think about him all the time, but we never talk anymore. I found out today that he has gotten a girlfriend and it breaks my heart.

My problem is this: I feel like he has been using me the whole time and just wanted one thing from me. When he got it, he threw me away.

I need a reading, basically for how he feels about me. Has he used me or am I being paranoid? What does he feel about "us" now? How long will it take for me to get over him and find someone I actually have something special with (I really felt like that with this guy for the first time in my life)?

I use the tarot cards here as  guidance to answer your questions directly and support for my intuitions in answering your questions.
I did not lay a spread, but drew a card  for each of your questions.

Beginning with what was that ( the relationship, did he use me ).
We were given a very positive card here. The sun..
Related to joyful love affairs, pleasure, good health and vitality.
The answer is no, you were not used. The relationship was what it was. The end of it does not make the "specialness" null and void.

The next question I am looking at is how long it will take me to get over this and find a replacement for this something special.
Well I wont give a time frame for this.. The ball is in your court.. it depends on how soon you are willing to let go and move forward..
BUT The appearance of the Ace of swords here does indicate eventual success.
This isnt going to particularly easy for you.. it is going to be a battle, you just got to find the courage.


Im not going to speculate on what "he thinks".. but lets be straight here...
The relationship changed when you moved away, he didn't promise you forever, he continued with his life.. there isnt an "us" here at the moment. This is a time to remain graceful and accepting. being an ex girlfriend scorned now will create a very bad undercurrent and regret.  There are no regrets now, dont open the door to them.


Take some time. you will be fine.. it does hurt now.. but this pain isnt permanent.. when your ready to let go and accept you will be in a much better place. You ay you just found out today.. it isnt any wonder there is that painful jab right now, when your ready, simply turn the page.

I hope this has helped.
best wishes
Tammy, aka StormGirl Blue

Thank you so much for the reply. I'm relieved to hear that he didn't use me But if he didn't use me, that means that he was in fact love with me, and that sort of feelings just doesn't disappear because I move away. Is he still in love with me? Is he angry with me, is that the reason he got a girlfriend this quickly (they have known each other for 3 weeks).

Again, thank you for your reply!

Hi martined,
No problem, I am happy to help.
I can look into the status of the relationship which I did and found a positive view, unfortuantly looking to see what is exactly on his mind is crossing the line as per site policy in regards to 3rd party readings, and my own line. I know its a completely normal question to ask, but looking into someone else's thoughts is intrusive without permission. So this is my point of view.

Men have a knack of being able to give the appearance of being unaffected so deeply at the end of a relationship, weather or not he continued with his life out of spite or necessity is only something he knows. I vote for necessity.

Just because he diddnt mope around for you a we would like, doesnt mean that he diddnt care.
People, especially in this day and age dont mate for lifelike swans do.
  We have an incredible capacity to love a hundred ways and a hundred times.. his love for you may not be the forever and ever kind we read about in romance novels, but this doesn't mean he didn't love at all.

he didn't give you false promises..
Give yourself time.. this is still a shock to you.. but you will continue with a fulfilling life if you allow yourself to. I promise you this..
its important at this moment to keep yourself in check and balanced.. resist the urge to get angry with him and show it... dont go on hasty impulse for now.. it not recommended while you are still in shock.
this includes allowing yourself to jump to painful conclusions.