Hello,

I would like a reading, please. I do have a specific question in mind, but I almost feel selfish asking it, with all the things going on around me. I am secretly in love with someone for three years now, and I am wondering if I'll ever be with him. I am also married, but I wouldn't say happily married. No matter what answer I will get, it will help me move forward, but I would like to stay away from yes or no readings.

Thank you.

Hi rux.

You are asking a question which will not be answered by a reading. You are wanting us to walk where angels fear to tread!!

When you got married, you made a vow, which is in life and in death! Don't take this lightly! Therefore you are bound to your current partner, which is an institution blessed and sustained by God.

The only way for you to know if you would be with the person you have a crush on, is to seperate from your current partner, which in itself brings unhappiness and (for lack of a better word), a "curse" on you. There are but a few valid circumstances in which you may divorce your husband, of which having a crush on someone and being discontented is not one.

Once you are "happily" divorced, you can try to draw the attention of the other person! This is where the problem is, will he respond the way you want? Or will you have to lower your head in shame, as to what you did?

Don't consider this to be a lecture, or that I want to pit you in a bad light! It is reality and the consequence of a person's actions, which draw happiness or distress.

Think what you want and act responsibly to your commitments.

Blessed be.

I agree with PW, and will add some of my thoughts as well.

After we have been married for some time, our days become regular and very little excitement happen, if we not concentrate about making it ourself.

When we then meet a person, who we get a feeling for, then we bring excitement back into our life, and we start to wonder if this might be a better deal then what we have.

Now we need to take a "time-out" and start to think.

When you married your husband, I assume you also had warm feelings for him.
How has your husband treated you in those years you have been together...you have now learned him...is he something that you will grow old with?

If you can say yes to the above, then maybe the best bet is to avoid this new guy.
You yourself can believe you can keep it secret, but I am not sure. Your feelings for him will always be put up toward your husband...your excitement for him will be put up toward the "dull" ordinary life with your husband, he might not say anything, but you might slowly destroy the "love" he has for you, because you are NOT honest in your feelings toward him.

If you say NO, I would not like to grow old with him, then take a divorce as fast as possible.
But if you take the step to divorce, then you go back to start only with a new guy....and soon will also this become a ordinary life..where excitement must be created from the couple....or lead to a new flirt, and maybe this time from your new husband... and a flirt will always win to a "average everyday", so maybe when you know have learned to know him, you will sit alone in your old age.

Good luck whatever you chose.

I agree with all that, that's why I was hesitating to ask my question. I come from a more conservative background than you can possibly imagine. What I would have liked though, is for someone to take a look into the tarot cards for me.  Maybe just out of curiosity, for a lack of a better reason. Each and everyone one of us is special. And like it or not, I've come to understand that there are far more important things in life than how happy you feel about your relationship. That’s why I mentioned selfishness. I am doing so many things at once, and doing them well dare say, that is not very often that I think of my own happiness. I have also been through a lot.  So my request for a tarot reading still stands. I might have framed it in a childish, immature way, but I thought it may be better to stay away from general readings. However, my concern is of an emotional nature. Will I ever be fulfilled, will I have children, is something bad going to happen to me, because I do consult the cards once in a while, and lately the outcome looks bleak. For these and other reasons, such as profession wise and purpose of one's life, or the fact that very strange things have happened to me lately (and I do believe in signs), I am wondering if I am on the right path, and as such, ask you, if you're not already to annoyed by my comments, for a tarot reading.

Thank you.

I can in a way understand you, and I will in no way prevent anyone from giving you a Tarot Reading for your request....

BUT

I feel the case is very important for you, and what both PW and I want is for you to do the move out from your own evaluation...and not out from some cards....whatever they will tell.

Life comes with no guarantees, that is why any "Reading tool" can't predict how anything develop with certainty.

If everything depended on yourself, well then it should be easy....you feel you love this man...."you feel you will be with him to the end of time"

But

did you not feel the same when you married your husband?

This show that we change as time goes by, and since we shall live together with another human, there must be two who want this to function....if not...then it will slowly kill itself.

If you aren't happy in your marriage, then I think your answer to my above question (grew old together) must be NO, and then a divorce or separation is a way to go, in order to better ones situation, and if that is your wishes.

Marriage is something that must carry mutual respect, and the wishes to go on.

So I think you first shall concentrate about how you feel your marriage is, look less to the cards...and much more to your heart...and to your best evaluation skill.....because you are the one who must live with the consequences...not any Reader.

Many times when we "cry" for a Reading, then we hope to transfer such evaluating from oneself to an outsider, but who are really the best to evaluate such case, if not the one who carry all the feelings.