Hi Cedars

It's me again. You've read for me last year and I was hoping you might have time to read for me again. I'm afraid it's the same old subject - my love life. I'm still single. Over the last year I've met quite a few men but just haven't developed any feelings for any of them. The guy that I've mentioned in the past pops up now and then and I'm ashamed to say I'm still attracted to him but I don't have any expectations of anything happening there - I think if that was meant to be it would have happended by now.

The rest of my life I love - so just searching to complete this one missing piece. So I was hoping you might be able to do a reading for me to see what the summer months will bring.

If you're too busy don't worry about it as I notice you've been requested personally by a few people so you must be inundated and kept busy.


Red

Hello my dear friend...

Good to hear from you.

I will be happy to look into your request, adding also my personal perspective if you don't mind.

Please bear with me and I'll be with you soon.

Okay, let’s stop here for a while:
So, if you haven’t developed any feelings for the men you have met during the last year, is that your mistake? No, and I am sure we are in agreement on that one. The last thing we need here is for you to go and feel bad or even guilty on that score. Could the reason for that possibly be this other guy towards whom you still harbour certain feelings? There no shame in admitting it – as you have done so above – but I am simply wondering if you are still not free from his emotional grip. There is nothing good or bad here; we just need to find a way to free you from that. But, in that, I see you have already gone and met other guys; that in itself is not a bad thing at all. You just have not met the one that you click with on an emotional level – (even though emotions are not always enough, in my opinion).
I think, and if my intuition is not playing games with me, you also want to know if there is any hope at all with this guy…even though you sound resigned about him?

I know this may sound like a cliché, Red, why do I feel that the more you go looking for, the less chances of finding someone? You seem to have settled in other areas of your life except the love and romance one. You have dated some guys and none has rocked your boat… OK. What do we do next? Do we look at what might or might not be on the horizon for you by way of a predictive reading? Are we going to sit and wait for that ‘might’ to come true or are we going to give up because no future possibility had been revealed in a reading? All I am concerned here is your state of mind. To hell with the guys! It is time for you; you call the shots in your life and not the men! But in order to do that I feel you need time on your own and take a break from this chase of finding Mr Right. The rut race is not doing you any good my friend and whilst there are two schools of thought about finding romance:

a. Don’t sit on your back side and go out and look for it.

Or,

b. If it’s meant to happen, it will happen wherever or whenever.

Which one of these fits you now?

I do not wish to go down the route of a predictive reading, as I don’t find them to be beneficial and anything can happen to change the course. I am more concerned about you and your state of mind.

I am going to use a spread which I have not used before but which I feel may shed some light over you situation.

Deck: Rider Waite.

I have taken out all the Kings out of the deck and picked one.
This will reveal the following: What are the qualities that the querent is looking for in a mate?

It was difficult to pick a card. I tried to do it by sensing the cards face down and I got no strong sensation from any of the four kings. Then I asked that the second card that I lay down would be the one. So, here we are.

King of Swords: Air sign.
He is not an emotional person. He has got a logical head on his shoulders; he is fair and astute in his judgements. He is articulate and goes for what he believes in. This does not mean he is a heartless person, but rather a case of his head ruling his heart. If he is shrewd, that is because of the hardships he has gone through and does not suffer fools gladly.  He can be relied upon for his strength of mind and personality. He may carry some scars from the past, but he does not moan about them or make a big deal of them. They are there, but he gets on with his life. He may not be outwardly expressive of his feelings, but they are deep and strong within.

Not sure how you feel about this, but perhaps it is something to contemplate on if you have been meeting people different to our King of Swords.

I have now put back the court cards into the deck and will shuffle the cards again asking the following questions:

1. What does the querent subconsciously want from a relationship?
The High Priestess.
I get the feeling from this that the kind of relationship that you want may be above the physical realm. You would perhaps like to rise above the daily mundane and be able to interact with a partner on a higher level than the physical. The High Priestess is full of mystery as well as mystique; she has a high feminine intuition and does not reveal things too soon. Might you not be willing to share your innermost feelings with a partner, I wonder? Or, would you possibly like to keep the mystique of the relationship for as long as possible lest boredom sets in and the fear of ‘where do we go next?’ There are some questions here which may be hindering you from approaching the relationship issue with some apprehension. I wonder if you have taken some time out to reflect upon your own approach as to what kind of a relationship you want and how to go about it?

2. What obstacles does the querent face?
Three of Cups.
Now can partying and having a good social interaction be an obstacle my friend? Or, could it be that when you are out and about, partying and ignoring the obvious, that things would be Okay? Or, could this mean that you have not given or not giving yourself enough time to be on your own to get in touch with your own spiritual side? This is a very positive card, but it has fallen under the section of a ‘blockage’. Can you possibly see why this could be?  Go within and try to find out. Or, could it be that you may be partying too much? Is there such a thing?

3. What is the best advice for the querent now?
Five of Cups.
All is not lost. OK, you have not had much luck during this past year in finding love and romance. Believe me it is not the end of the world. There are opportunities out there for you but I feel strongly that you need to make some alterations in your outlook on your current situation. You are single and that is a fact. Is it such a bad fact? We all would like to be in a happy relationship, but if it is not coming forth, what do we do Red? Do we panic and bring more distress into our life or do we just let things happen on their own accord? Sometimes it is best to let things come to us……. Number Fives are not meant to herald good news or happy tidings, but I am reminded to draw your attention to the man who is mourning his loss with three cups toppled in front of him whilst another two standing upright behind him. He cannot see or refuses to see that there are two other cups behind him.  So you have not been successful during the past year with men….. Shall I say it again? The hell with them!! There’s more fish in the sea; but you need to calm down and reflect upon WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT from a relationship? A relationship for the sake of being in one or a relationship to nurture your soul? >> The High Priestess.

I hope you will not think of this …….. what a load of balls…kind of reading and, instead, start reflecting on your yourself.

Blessings to you and lots of happiness.

Hugs

Any feedback Red?