dear cedars

could u plz do a general reading for me .
hope it would be helpful in some way
thanks so much

Hello Sweet,





This happens to us at some stage in our life – you are not alone there – but building on it day in and day out, doesn’t make it any easier. And, to be honest with you, the constant thinking about it probably hinders any possibilities of love coming along in our path.



My dear one, I think you need something more than a reading here if I am to be truthful with you. I am not going to challenge you and ask: what are you doing to find love? In my humble opinion, your issue is not Love itself; it is perhaps disappointment in the connections and acquaintances that you make with the wrong people for the right reasons; for your perceived reason of that ultimate Love and, therefore, you face disappointment and do not find that warmth and passion in others. May be you should just let it be; when you meet someone do not ever consider that person as a candidate for the big Love thing. I feel your very perception and expectations on those lines are probably being displayed in your body language and your behaviour and possibly driving the other person away for fear of ‘’coming heavy’’ on them.



As I have said often to querents, the IF and WHEN questions are types that I personally avoid in the Tarot.



To answer your question about the unconditional love tells me one thing: that so far your experiences have all been with the wrong people – who have not loved you for who you are. As for the would-be lover not to have conditions and expectations, that is a bit of a Utopia that on this earth I find it hard to believe or even find. Ask yourself: by the very question that you have put forward to your would-be lover, aren’t you already putting your own terms and conditions AND expectations? That you want someone who will not have conditions and expectations from you; isn’t that you putting conditions and having expectations whilst not wishing or allowing your potential lover to have any?

I feel you should come a few notches down from this imaginary and Cinderella-type world of Love and romance that you have built in your mind and touch base with certain realities.

You must also disband this feeling of self-pity and martyrdom “Am I destined to have someone in my life….” So what if you don’t have someone in your life! Who said love is the answer for everything?
Of course there is or will be someone for you? Of course you are ‘destined’ to have someone in your life, but ONLY when you let go. You have been given the gift of life and the more you make a song and dance about this love thing, the longer your ‘waiting period’ will seem unbearable and you will fall into some kind of depression… if not already.



Of course you are not bothering me my friend. But what if I lay the cards and for the foreseeable future there was no sign of Love and Romance? Will you come “at peace’’ with yourself that this is it, and that you will give up on life?  We cannot know “all the answers’’ in our life; I wish we could.  But then again, life would not have its charm, charisma, mystique and the very sense of being alive!!

I am more than happy to continue this chat with you (and others can come in too) but a reading for the time being and the frame of mind that you are in, may be the wrong thing to do – whatever the outcome. I will be happy to give you a reading sometime soon, but I would like you first to examine yourself and please, please stop this self deprecating attitude and march on with LIFE….. THE GIFT THAT YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN.

I am not shying away from giving you a reading, but I believe any reading for you at this time will be the wrong thing to do.

I hope you understand this and appreciate my concerns for you.

Many blessings to you and lots of healing.

hmmm
you might  be right in what you explained !!
thanks a lot for ur feedback !

regards

You are welcome my dear friend.
Take it easy and live the life, enjoy life and all will be well for you.

Hugs

Hey sweet,

I rarely advice a book to someone, but this one helped me to see love in my past and present where I would ignore it because it wasn't romantic love, helped me to feel so loved in life that I was able to let go of a need to be with someone... I would have still welcomed it, loved it... but the pressure left me. A particular exercise in the book even made me cry from happiness when I thought of all those people that loved me, what htey taught and gave me. This book is called Fearless Loving, by Rhonda Britten. This book is not about rules, how to find someone... but it makes you feel rich about the people you've known and know, and not bothered by being alone anymore. It might help you to do what Cedars is advizing you on.

All the best!