Feeling a bit lost........lately I have soo much drama with friends and I seem to become the mediator which I hate...used to never have this problem!

Anyways my question is My Dad which I dont like to discuss it here but it has been bugging me he has done alot of things in my past and destroyed alot of relationships I had with people...I just found out another huge thing he did  in my past with someone ... and it makes me so sad.....I still inspite of all that talk to him and show him respect...Will I get over that hurt ....r we going ot be ever at peace.....

Everyone keeps telling me I will be moving to a distant land...When do U see that happening  That slightly scares me!



Anyways this board is a lifesaver...Thank U....Even if I dont post a question I try to read up on alot of things here and it cheers me up when feeling down
Thanks Again!
Take care

If you allow me, then I might give some words too....not from Tarot or from psychic....but from what I myself feel.

As you know, we are all different.

We look at thing in different way, and when we evaluate a situation, we evaluate it out from our own thoughts, and feelings, and that might not necessarily be the same as for the involved parts.

Most Parents love to protect their children, they hate to see them do the same "mistakes they did in their youth", (what we felt was good in our youth, might not be as good 20-30 years later )and in their eagerness they might do a lot of wrong decisions.

Let us take an example; a situation where a  "Fathers feeling for his Daughter" has another agenda, then the daughters feeling for her "Boyfriend", can lead to wrong decisions from her father.

His decisions and his action, might not have been taken to be cruel to you, but more to protect you, so when you evaluate your fathers doing, then please have this in mind.

But this is only for thing happen in the past, if he or they, still interfere with your life in a controlling way, then you need to be firm, and say you must be allowed to live your life, just like they was allowed to live theirs.

To be allowed to be a mediator, show that you have a "calm" nature, and an ability to see more then one side of a case.
Even if you hate this, because it put you in the middle of thing, it is a good thing to bring along in your life.

You need to take stand, if you feel that you are misused, then say so, and put your foot down.

We humans love that other fix thing for us, and if we allow them to use us in any situation, then this become a normal thing for them to do, and they can almost eat you up, without understand that it is their fault.

So you need to start to put up clear limits or borders, both for your parents and your friends.

This will lead to a more relaxed and open relationship with friends, and you will be surprised to see that you will manage much more then before, because the negative energy have been dealt with.

Learn to love yourself, in a good way....Learn to respect yourself....learn to give clear messages on an early state, this will many times prevent future quarrels and breakups, and it will learn all around you where you stand.

As for moving to a distant land, and the scary of it...my advice is...forget it....it never need to happen....and if it does...then it will do so in the future where your situation and thoughts are different from today.
If you shall go around suffering for this now, then it is just some negative energies that burns for nothing, and which prevent full happiness today...and for what?

Always remember that any Reading trade can't take anything away from you, can never give you anything, can never solve any problem...it is all up to you.

A good Reading points out paths, paths that you by your action can fulfill, or chose to avoid.

We have our free will, which make us unique, use your free will to take control of your life, let other give recommendation, or readings, but always do it so you have the last word

Good luck

Wow!!!! Thank U thats why this is the first place I turn to to get cheered up!!! Very insightful and helpful!!!!

I will try to stand up and put up some boundaries especially when it involves Toxic people.....I am so not good at that....So people hurt me over and over again and I just forgive them but carry alot of grief inside of me......but buried deep it does not affect my day to day life unless something happens to jog a memory or I hear more things my dad has done to me from the past!!!

You r right being raised in abuse and all I still always respected my dad like anything as he had alot of other good characters but he has destroyed a part of my life and hurt alot of people in that time..that was when I was 23 so I was not that young......I have moved on but some people r still hurt...I have a lovely family now......and yes though in my 30's he definately still tries to control me but I am a bit better as to staying away

Moving to another land seems  scary &nice actually when I keep hearing ti from people.....I have studied alot in another country so I have ties there....but it is not in my thoughts that much...If it happens it will....

Thanks again for taking the time to reach out to me.......I am soo grateful!

It is definately a me time right now where I am trying to make sure I am happy but certain things do happen which bring me down but that is a part of life anyways!!!

Hi Anu,

I'm going to say a few words to you. If I step on your toes so be it! .

Since March, you have been running around on the Boards hoping to get answers to your predicament. You have truly consulted each and every divinatory tool or let's rather say too many!

If I may, you are Libra, and the first thing that comes to mind is balanced scales and Justice in the Major Arcanum. When we do the Gematria, we find Justice reduced to Two-The High Priestess. By nature it seems as if you are drawn to the occult and mysticism. (WE SEE IT CLEARLY!). I also want to venture in saying "full cycles". Read the interpritations of Justice and the High Priestess. Find commongrounds and practise or apply this to your own life first.

In my personal opinion you are unbalanced! Start cycles and don't bring them to closure! Goodness me, you are confusing yourself, I wonder how about your partner!

In the last three or four months you have had 8 or more "readings" on all different forums, about the same topic! It is very seldom that a Tarot reading is valid for such short periods, unless you specifically add a timeframe to it, however you should restrain yourself and limit your requests, you are truly confusing yourself beyond what is good for you!

Perhaps you should find a second, night-time job. This will have two very positive effects in your life, Firstly you will have more money, and secondly you won't have time to adopt a "ROLL ON SISTER DEATH" attitude to yourself!!!

You may also find solace in buying "The Secret" and practise the advice given. Become positive and progressive in yourself first!!

You can't live your life according to if, but or maybe. Theories and perceptions. Most definitely not by the Tarot, nor any other form of divination. You are the one that change the future. My opinion, whenever a person looks into the future it has already changed! by your own perception and actions.

Please, you are an adult and mature enough to see things in perspective, face reality, and get on with a positive mindset, and you will find that you have all the necessary tools within yourself to be succesfull in any field, be it relationship, job, etc.

Perhaps consider Anti-Depressants, it may help! Get out of your Abyss, face the dulldrums, and fight back!!

I'm also certain that you have been asking the same question on other forums as well!!--Cycles!

Stop building ever expanding tracks, your train will derail!!

I hope all the best for you   , may you balance your life and environment! Find inner peace and happiness with yourself, start loving you!! Don't be fickle, you'll acheive nothing but heartache, and will forever be SAD!!

Rhuto, somewhere there is light!!! Don't remove this please!

Blessed be