as the title suggests, i am in search of love. i have come to realize that having a significant other is really significant in our lives. when will i find someone who will give me love. when will i find the joy of sharing my good  moments with someone who cares. when will i find a shoulder to lean on.
i am female, single and unmarried.
thanks in advance and you insight is much appreciated.

Please give me a reading.

Hello Starlights

Your question is conditional on the When element. I do not usually work on a specific time frame to answer questions such as the one you have asked. The conditional element of your question calls for many other criteria, as you may appreciate.

When will I find a lover?

When?

Whenever we ask a question, almost immediately we get answers such as ‘when this and that happens’…… Or, ‘when that is sorted’…….. Or, ‘when you do this or that in your life’….. You get the picture now? The ‘When’ element to our questions has invariably got other conditional answers attached to it. For example, are you making yourself available? Are you mixing and socialising? Are you being a hermit or going out? Do you have a circle of friends? In other words, what are you doing to bring about that significant other in your life?

Based on that I shuffled the cards, cut them into three groups and I picked the third pile. The third pile had only three cards in it and my intention was to find answers in three cards only. There you go…

Rider Waite:

The Lovers.
Page of Pentacles.
The Emperor.

Choices to make that will improve your chances of meeting someone for romance and love. Whatever those choices are, they belong to you and you know best.  There is a need for you to also ground yourself and get in touch with reality rather than be in a dreamy world. Potential lovers would not come knocking at your door; there is need for you to become practical and also realistic about this. Whilst a young heart, ready to feel and love, there is need for you to come back to earth and be in touch with the realities of life. There could be someone of the element of earth with whom you may make contact and who may show you the way on how to invest in the future that you seek in terms of love and romance. This could be the person himself… but before anything could happen, I feel you need to take control of your life and be methodical and disciplined about the possibilities of finding this love. A strong father figure may be instrumental in giving you guidance and the empowerment you need.


I know this does not answer your question about the When aspect of your query. But there are no magical answers to give you a timing as to when and who. You need to change certain directions and make certain choices in order for you to start heading towards realising your dreams.

Thanks  cedars. My social circle is small, and I am not interested in any one from my social circle. I dont believe in dating sites and such things. I am not constantly on the look out, and i dont know how to even if i want to. I hope i made sense.

That said, I agree with you that no potential mate is going to knock on my door. LOL. i wish it was that easy though. LOL

While I understand that the lovers card is about making the right choice as you said, i didnt really understand what you wrote about the page of pentacles and the emperor. Is it that there are 2 men, who will guide me through my journey in search of love?

No, it doesn't mean that but it could mean that. This is the paradox of the court cards.

The Page of Pentacles can be a messenger or a message of some means regarding investments, work situation, or it could also mean that someone who may bring your visions into reality. However, my feeling with regard to your reading is to have realistic aims and be grounded.

As for the Emperor, well, this represents power, order, authority and also the power of Reason. Are these messages to yourself? Do you resonate with these? If not, it could be someone of such attributes who may play a part in your quest.

The thing is in the way you ask the question. You asked your question in a very conditional way When this and When that..... There were many When's but not one question which asked What should I do...? What are my options to attain this or that? How do I go about attaining this and that?



That said, your social circle may bring you in contact with others..... or An Other with whom you may have some common interest or even a click of some sort. As to how you go about finding love, is really your choice. No one can tell you to go against what you believe or feel is or otherwise. Some dating sites work..... some dont...  I would never say which one is right and which one is wrong.

If you are not constantly on the look out, then I feel the urgency is not as high as you had portrayed in your original posting.

Whichever route you take, I wish you peace within and happiness ahead.