Hello Chasingdreams,

I will not interfere with the reading that you have been given by Payewacker (which, by the way, I feel is all You!). As to the reading being disappointing to your expectations, that is neither Payewacker's nor the Runes' fault.

I don’t know about your sister’s situation, marital, financial and so on, but I think she has used you in the past and she will continue to do so, for whatever reason(s). I am not saying she is an evil person, but she needs to learn to respect those around her who give selflessly. You just mustered the courage to gain a bit of that respect and now you are all going softy-softy because of the kids. These kids have a mother for heaven’s sake; where is their father in this equation? Why is it that you should be auntie, carer, provider, foster mother and whatever else you choose to be for these kids? And then you ask ‘what my relationship with these little ones will be over a period of time?’ I really don’t understand this question and your motives for asking it.

If a reading ‘revealed’ that it would be wonderful and full of sunshine – what would you do? Would you carry on giving selflessly all that you have been doing so far in order to keep that status? Or, if a reading said that it would not be good, would you try even harder to make it to your liking and expectations thus making things worse between you and your sisters and consequently the kids?

There are times we have to let GO! You are not being cruel for doing this, but you just let things mould into their own pattern and shape – even if they are not to your liking.

You have fallen into this obsessive behaviour and in doing so I fear you will block all chances of you having kids of your own.

It is hard to see kids suffer, (and I do not believe they are being molested or being treated cruelly) but whatever the reasons for it, first and foremost the responsibility falls on their parents. Where are they? You cannot help everyone in this equation. If your sister has marital problems, it is her problem and she should sort it out. You can support her and be positive about her actions but, for God’s sake, stop this obsessive behaviour about the kids.

Good luck to you and may you find the answers and solutions within your own soul.

Cedars,

I am very greatful to Paywecker for being kind enough to give me a reading.
My post was addressed to paywecker, I do not understand why YOU have to get so worked up over a post addressed to another reader.


I did NOT ask you to interfere with payweckers reading.
I did NOT say anywhere in my post that its the readings fault or payweckers fault.


Paywecker,
Thank you for the reading. If you have also misunderstood my statement, then let me clear it. I said I am dissappointed with the 3rd rune which represents the outcome. I did not mean in anyway, that i am disappointed in the reading itself. I think you have given me a very good reading, and I appreciate it deeply. I should not of asked anymore question, because you had already told me that you are not going to interpret it any further. It was my first rune reading, making sense fo everything myself instead of the reader interpreting that for me was a little difficult for me, but I think i got the overview of it anyway. Once again thanks for the reading.

Chasingdreams,



You forget so soon. While Payewacker had promised to give you a Rune reading, you also approached me privately asking for a further tarot reading. I told you in my reply that I couldn't do that due to site rules and good ethics towards another reader.

Payewacker is a very talented reader and there was no way I was going to interfere with his reading (whether Runes or Tarot).
Believe me, if you had not approached me behind the scenes, I would not have expressed my opinion to your situation, albeit in the public forum.

You also seem to forget this is a public forum...

I apologise profusely that my 'interference' has caused you such anguish.

I hope you have all the answers to your issues and may you find peace.

Cedars,
I sent you a PM BEFORE accepting Payweckers offer for a runic reading. AFTER accepting Payweckers offer, I wrote back to you stating that any further reading from your side is completely your choice.
I did not want to disrespect you by saying "I dont need your reading since paywecker is giving me the reading".  I just let you decide that for yourself.
I was only being diplomatic.

I am not going to further debate on this. Good Bye!

I think this thread cry for a General Statement on how to behave on a Free Site!

It is always our own choice to take advices, or to thrown them away.

When we surf to a free site, and ask for advices, then it is free for all who feel they can contribute, with something, to give from themselves, in hope to enriches the life of other.

The receiving part are not obliged to follow any of these advices, or they can take them all....or do just what they want  with them.

I become very sad each time someone start quarrel that "I don't need your advice"...because if you don't do that.  just ignore it..or...go to a paid services, where you can choose, and get your chosen Reader to give the finish product

By starting a "public quarrel" about this, or to make it public, we destroy not only for ourselves, but also for other who comes behind us.

It is clear that any voluntary help, goes on the spark to help other people.

The more kudos we get, the stronger the spark will burn.....the more scolding we get....the weaker will our spark be...and one start to be afraid to give from oneself.

One shall carry this in mind, and show a great respect to any who voluntary try to give from themselves, even if we don't feel we need to listen to what they have to say....if they are out of order...I will take action...because we don't allow harassment from any side.