Dear Cedars,

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I fully understand if you are not able to answer as you very recently (and very kindly) responded to my query about losing my flat.

I will keep it short as i have a tendancy to be long winded about things.
I have always struggled with relationships in my life- i always attract teh negative. Men that i have NO interest in. Otherwise the men I like, never like me. At 25 nearly 26, I have never had a relationship.

I think as any normal person would be at this stage - I am getting concerned that i will be alone for life. I have tried hard to change things- but you cannot make someone love you. I have tried changing my minest (law of attraction), eft and many other tools to help. Nothing has worked.I have kind of given up trying now as a waste of time and emotional effort.

As things just do not change- I dont see why i would suddenley meet someone i connect with mentally and find physically attractive. It has only happened once in my life and he was acutally not well. And we couldnt be toggether for this reason.

Was wondering if you have time and I am not breaking the rules by requesting a reading too soon after my last, if you could tell me if anything will ever change in this area of my life?

Thanks so much in advance.

My dear Hope

This is not a reading, but you can call it a friendly insight or advice, if you will allow me to do so.

From your posting I have noticed and felt a sense of panic about meeting someone and having a relationship with. Everything around you, your age (which is a budding 25) and your experiences before, are constant reminders of your failed attempts and thus leading you to a so-called unworthiness to ever having a relationship.
Now stop this immediately!
Stop thinking that you will never have a relationship; stop even chasing a relationship! Let the relationship come to you for once! Let those worthy of you find you for goodness sake!

I understand what you mean by the Law of Attraction and about thinking and visualising the positive. But we are all human beings and it is not always possible to do so when we are surrounded with all sorts of other issues in our life. Don’t batter yourself if and when you fail to attract the One for you. I am sure all up there will understand…….

Send the message out once and then forget about it. Don’t make it a daily ritual of visualising your ideal partner. It is ‘their’ task to deliver him to you. I’m afraid we have no control over the timing of these events.




What is this saying to you Hope? You read your own words for a few seconds…… It is saying to me: Hope has been trying far too hard for her own good. Hope has been trying too hard with the people who did not deserve her. Isn’t there a message somewhere here for you my dear friend? I would like you to ask yourself what that message is – if it has not come to you already:)



Stop this right now, please! To hell with them all (if I am allowed to use such words here); look after Hope and have a giggle with friends, flirt with men, but do not, I repeat, do not see every flirtation as your future partner. Do not fall into that trap of thinking: this may be the one. Oh, this IS the one!   Just enjoy the attention when you are given and don’t think beyond it. Once you let go of this panic, perhaps things will start to move towards you and you may start attracting the right one for you.



Of course things will change around you (and I am not saying this out of any psychic or tarot interpretation) as I believe you have to dismantle the old you and embrace a new you, and don’t give a s**t if you meet someone or not. You have the gift of life and I suggest you go and LIVE it fully without viewing every possible encounter as a potential future partner.

Who knows? One day he may be looking at you in the face and you wouldn’t even know how it happened.

Bless you my friend.  

Hi,
What a wondrfull reply from Cedars, if i can add my penny's worth on the Law off Attraction. I think we all are by now well versed in the way it works.

I did this, make space for a potential partner, if you r going to be submissive partner, sleep on the left of your double bed, clear the righthandside of your cupboard, where the lifepartner will pack his things, park on the lefthandside in your garage.

Just think of making space?

Blessed be

Thank you Payewacker. Wise words from you too:)

Dear All
thank you so much for your kind advice and words. Cedars - your comments have resonated greatly with me. I was ina stressed place as had also los my job so felt genreally downbeat about everything. I now have a new job and realise losing the old was a blessing in disguise. Now that I have calmed down generally emotionally - your advice really resonates with me and I am not looking so much at everything with panic and despair. I will let things happen to me rather than chase them - it is less effort anyway!
thanks so much. and thanks to all of you that wrote me back.