Hello Cedars,

Your last reading showed a 2 of cups for my carreer issues and I think I am really blessed for what I have been giving! You were right as always.

Well what happens now is that my marriage is going through a hard time! Our story is 20yo! I met him when I was 15. We got married when I was 20 and we have a 16yo boy and I believe there is a strong bond that keeps us together.

Our families have problems with our relationship. On my side, because I was born rich and was well educated and he was not so. My parents had issues against him but not anymore. They changed their mind about him as time passed.

But on his side, things are too crazy. He has a sister, Sonia, that hates me...there´s not a reason, she is a resentful monster that can´t accept other´s happiness. She always tried to destroy our relationship. She used dirty tricks. People say it is jealousy, envy but we took a long time to see what was behind all our fights, what was poisoning our love...and the thing is she is very powerful in the family, she controls everyone, including his mother.

2 years ago it became clear that she was working hard to see we separated. He used to visit her when we had issues or fights as she behaved like an older loving sister.

She is the only family he has here. All the rest lives in another state. And little by little she convinced him I was wrong for him because we come from different social level that I earn more than him and that these was too humiliating...and things like that... at the same time, in private she told me things about him that made me reject him even physycally as if she had to open my eyes as my best friend and simply made we hate each other. In our anger we haven´t shared what Sonia was telling us on other´s back, only when feelings got calmer... what a dirty work! And also in the shadows she worked with her magic.

She works with dark side. All psychics I have talked to have said she does... my gipsy guide Esmeralda says the same... that she hates our happiness and she hates to see us together and that we have to be very careful with her, because Sonia has a very evil energy that can put one in bed or even worst.

We got separated for less than a week and got back together. We really love and we have a powerful attraction that bonds us.

And I started praying and praying more than ever to remove this bad influence from us.

There are 2 years my husband avoids all kind of contact with her. But this keeps him out of the family. No one calls him anymore, except his mother that calls whispering on the phone as if she were doing a wrong thing.  It is impressive to see how Sonia controls everyone!

Well dear friend, the story is much longer...but in resume I think you can figure that I wish he had an understanding with her in a way to have his family back.  But at the same time it is dangerous ...you know, open the door to her influence again...it is clear she won´t ever be a better person and who knows how she would react...work on her black magic more than ever??

My tarot cards are confusing me about this issue! How can he reconnect with her? Is this a poison field or are we just paranoid?

My cards show she can´t influence me as I did my homework and I am well prepared inside, I am protected. But my husband is not! Yet he feels he had to he was never serious about religion or spirituality.

Thanks for reading Dear!
Viv

Hello Viv

‘Advice’ is the exact word that you need rather than a reading my friend. Please take this as two friends talking to each other and one is giving the benefit of his experience and, hence, advice. Of course you are free to take it or leave it  

I have to tell you though, while reading your request I kept seeing in my mind The Strength card relating to you. You have not deviated from that and I do not suggest that you do. That strength has guided you and your husband and will still do for both of you in order not to be unaffected by outside influences. You were always the stronger one in this relationship and I do hope that you do not make that too obvious to your husband, for with his less fortunate financial background, your character strength may have some negative repercussions on him.

With all respect to your culture (Asian perhaps?) I think it is absurd to judge someone’s happiness based on how much money he/she has and then feel inferior about it. Unless you make your husband inferior about his family’s lack of money, then the rest of them (both yours and his) can go to hell. Excuse the strong language. I see your family have had issues with this too and to me this feels like a class thing.

I cannot even think of giving a reading about or for your sister-in-law because she is not worth my energy and, besides, it is not allowed to do third party readings here. Your mother-in-law loves her son and I am sure she does not hold any grudges against you. She will want to see her son and talk to him.  Perhaps you can try and rebuild your relationship with her just for your husband’s sake? I know the sis-in-law may meddle and make her mother’s life a living hell, and that is where the strength of your husband comes in. And that is where he needs your help to empower him with that strength which you have been blessed with Viv.

This may feel like a constant battle for you, but if you love your husband then I believe you will fight the cause for both of you.

I have a feeling you will.

Bless you Viv and I hope this has been helpful for you.

Cedars

Correction to some typo and other errors. I was getting all carried away while doing this. All corrections in dark red. Sorry.

Hello Viv

‘Advice’ is the exact word that you need rather than a reading my friend. Please take this as two friends talking to each other and one is giving the benefit of his experience and, hence, advice. Of course you are free to take it or leave it  

I have to tell you though, while reading your request I kept seeing in my mind The Strength card relating to you. You have not deviated from that and I do not suggest that you do. That strength has guided you and your husband and will still do for both of you in order not to be affected by outside influences. You were always the stronger one in this relationship and I do hope that you do not make that too obvious to your husband, for with his less fortunate financial background, your character strength may have some negative repercussions on him.

With all respect to your culture (Asian perhaps?) I think it is absurd to judge someone’s happiness based on how much money he/she has and then feel inferior about it. Unless you make your husband feel superior for who he is, then the rest of family members them (both yours and his) can go to hell. Excuse the strong language. I see your family have had issues with this too and to me this feels like a class thing.

I cannot even think of giving a reading about or for your sister-in-law because she is not worth my energy and, besides, it is not allowed to do third party readings here. Your mother-in-law loves her son and I am sure she does not hold any grudges against you. She will want to see her son and talk to him.  Perhaps you can try and rebuild your relationship with her just for your husband’s sake? I know the sis-in-law may meddle and make her mother’s life a living hell, and that is where the strength of your husband comes in. And that is where he needs your help to empower him with that strength which you have been blessed with Viv.

This may feel like a constant battle for you, but if you love your husband then I believe you will fight the cause for both of you.

I have a feeling you will.

Bless you Viv and I hope this has been helpful for you.

Cedars

Well Dear, as always I talk too much! If I had just asked what I wanted to know... I said a lot and I didn´t say what I wanted to know in fact.
I am glad for your advice, I am really the Strength card in my relationship and I never felt superior than anyone. I am free from vanity or pride. Really free. For me we are humans. But not everyone thinks the same. Prejudice is still showing up here and there.

Besides, in every part in the planet, money is something that can bring happiness or a lot of pain. It depends on the values one has in the heart to use it as a good thing that spreads happiness and joy or a weapon to control others that have less or are dependent of someone who has more. It is like that all over the world.

My husband´s family really confuses me. I wished to know how to behave, how to deal with them. To make things easier to understand, I am Brazilian, we live in São Paulo. Sonia also lives in São Paulo. The rest of his family lives in Bahia.

In the weeks we stayed separated many things were said. He stayed on his sister´s house and she treated him like a king. It really seemed his family was reliefed and I god upset to see it because we were not happy. And in the end we wanted to get back. But I don't know why he was afraid of his family reaction.
When he came back home, he simply left her house without saying a word and never looked for her again. He is afraid of what she might say. And he still is. And he is avoiding all the family and all the family is avoiding us.

And I wish to know what is behind this... because even having a good relationship this is keeping us distant. I feel angry with because he is not telling me all and sometimes he blames me for this. So many wierd things are happening here and then and I feel I need to clear things up or else I won´t live in peace.
As an example his other sister is coming to São Paulo and she is staying at Sonia´s house, he said he is afraid we may not be able to meet her as we would have to meet Sonia too and he thinks it is better not... Or that ous son wanted to visit his gramma in Bahia, to enjoy Carnaval that is a famous Brazilian party, in reply to my email saying I was sending him, she wrote it was not a good idea as they would all travel that week!
This is a very strange situation...something is in the air. Can you understand me?

This is not a question for a 3rd person. It is about me because I need to know how to play in this game. I am always trying to be warm and open and make everyone get along together and they seem to be hiding things, feelings, avoiding contact...when I talk about it with my husband he agrees there' s an unconfortable flair around us but he does not know what to do. And I do not know too.
It's ok if you cannot answer me. But if you can I would be immensely thankful.
Blessings!
Viv

This is only my opinion and this is not a reading. I have not picked one single card to say this to you. I dont think the cards will say what you need to do. It is up to you.
However, if I were you, having a sister-in-law who has the ability to mess up your life, I would cut off all contact with her. The less you allow her to get into your life, the less her impact will be felt in and around your family's life.

If your husband left his sister's house of his own free will, then he is not as weak as one would think. Give him that credit.
There are no mysteries about this Viv; you just need to cut your cords with her and find your peace along with your family, even if that would mean that by cutting the cords with her, you may have to cut cords with other members of the family.

Are you willing to confront her face to face and ask her what her problem is? Yes? Do it. No? Just leave it and walk way.


Hope it all works out for you.

hugs
Cedars