Hello everyone. Last year was very difficult for me -- I was heartbroken. Thanksgiving someone came back into my life and it has been great since then. The first time we went out I told my friends I would probably marry this guy

If anyone is willing I would appreciate a reading. The previous guy (the heartbreaker) hurt me bad and I never understood why he treated me the way he did . I stuck around for too long because I thought he was confused. Wrong - he was not a nice man. The current man is everything I could have hoped for and more. We knew each other as children. He divorced six months ago and contacted me. We have talked about living together, growing old together, sharing our lives, marriage . I trust him totally. There is a Patty Loveless song that describes perfectly what I've been through... "I'd of never found you if he'd wanted to stay. He hurt me bad, in a real good way."

This guy is a keeper.. his love   is a gift that I had given up ever having. I'm not sure what my question is exactly but I still wonder why the previous guy was so awful to me. I didn't deserve such cruelty and that still bothers me. The current man is my friend first and foremost and I know he would never do anything that would hurt me. I am a little concerned about the short amount of time he has been divorced although from what he tells me the marriage was over for some time. Is this the love I've waited and hoped for so long? I feel it is because we are so comfortable and it works so easily... none of the confusion and fear that I felt with the previous guy.

me 4-21-1960
him 8-23-1960

Thanks in advance.

Hello Miimaa

First and foremost, I think you should stop thinking about the other guy and the reasons why he treated you badly. Just put him behind you. YOU are the important one here now and I wouldn’t even bother about giving a third party reading, which, by the way, is not allowed in here.

As for your present happiness, I wish you all the best. Whilst I understand your doubts and hesitations that you have expressed in your post, but gradual progression is the key word here. There are never guarantees even with the longest relationships or even the most loving ones that start with fireworks and so on….. Just go with the flow, be true to yourself and your feelings.

I picked three cards for you from the Rider Waite and here are their brief insights:

Queen of Wands: I believe this is you, feeling strong, confident and charismatic in and within yourself. You are there to charm whoever is in your life with passion, looks and some creativity. Use these qualities for your happiness.

Nine of Wands: Very protective of what you currently have and achieved; so much so that you are fearful that it may be taken away from you. Don’t be too protective, even if the temptation is there to do so.

Six of Swords: Leaving troubled times behind and sailing towards safer and calmer shores along with the protective guidance of someone with you.

I hope these gave you some food for thought and I’d say enjoy your life.

Blessings.

Cedars

Thank you Cedars. I have the Rider Waite deck and use the Queen of Wands as "my" card. The 9 wands and 6 swords make sense too.

"Nine of Wands: Very protective of what you currently have and achieved; so much so that you are fearful that it may be taken away from you. Don’t be too protective, even if the temptation is there to do so."

I've been divorced for 20 years and have gotten comfortable with my own routine and flying solo and I felt safe with that. It is an adjustment having someone there wanting to do nice things for me - I'm not used to it. He makes coffee for me in the morning and cooks for me. Very nice... I'm just not used to having that. He has made a comment about us living a healthier lifestyle and in my defensiveness I start to think "don't tell me what to do" kinds of thoughts.

"Six of Swords: Leaving troubled times behind and sailing towards safer and calmer shores along with the protective guidance of someone with you."

The past few years I let a lot of things slide and got into some financial trouble. I didn't think about the future much because I didn't see anything good out there for me. In a rather depressed state I lived to have fun and find what enjoyment I could and lived check-to-check. Ha ha... he doesn't live that way.

Things are looking good and we both know we will have wrinkles to work out but we have decided this is something we want and are willing to work on. Thanks again.

You are doing well Miimaa and am sure you are treating the curent situation with wisdwom and charm. Enjoy it as you deserve it.

Thanks for your prompt feedback.

Big hugs to you.

Cedars