hi there I do have a familiarity with playing cards. I see two women here tho which concerns me. It looks like competition so to speak, I don't know if your the queen of hearts or the queen of diamonds, but I feel like he is keeping his options open, it also look like someone just bought something next to the queen of diamons.  I would keep my options open on this guy.

Hi Jess37

Thanks for the post, I quite like playing cards as a refreshing change - kind of like when I use whole sign system in some chart interps in astrology.

Now to me, the underlying theme is about finances and where both are willing to invest/spend, but then they do say that money=love and of course Venus in astrology is associated with both.  In fact, I would say you and he have a lot going on with Venus in terms of aspects in the synastry of your charts.  So that might be interesting for you to look into.

Ok, so there is another woman's influence on him in this but as far as I can see it's only opinion only, and she may not even no the details about you.  She is a point of reference for him for some reason.

I mean I get a feeling of her like she's a talk show host, or a relationship writer, or maybe just a woman at work or somewhere who has a lot of opinions on relationships, it could even be his mother.

Basically he thinks you won't budge, be in it, and so he's taking the silent treatment approach, or just being aloof.  But because he is taking this approach he's almost starting to feel like you are non-compliant, or even just holding out on him and so he is beginning to feel like he wants to teach you a lesson - you seem to hold all the cards.

You appear so capable with everyday things - like you really have got it together - he thinks.  Maybe it could also be that you measure up to an internal tick sheet of what he is looking for in someone and it almost irks him that you can be so cool, wonderful and collected while he feels like a crazy guy.  So yeah, I think the other person is you, but possibly you are at this stage only a cardboard cut out to him almost - probably because he doesn't know you at a deeper level.

So to me it looks like a money issue but perhaps its just an investment of love.  He's ready to jump in and throw cares to the wind whereas your a bit more conservative and thoughtful.  I like you, you are sweet and he sees that too.

The problem is, you are not quite sure of his maturity, is he 'with it' enough to encompass the kind of values and direction you would like to be headed for, you think.  Security, and balanced decisions mean so much to you and you get a little stressed when you feel you are being asked to jump in and say "sure why not, I'm a gambler" but you are not a gambler so you like some more concrete ideas in order to make a decison.  Being deprived or used up, worries you and you tend not to put all your eggs in one basket.

Truth is though, you are fed up with this stand off.  You can see the value in going with what you like, and you don't like to play the heavy and hold out on people until they show promise.  So yes, I would say you have a wonderful empathy and compassion for others, you don't like to cause undue distress.  So I guess it will come down to your own sense of security.  You are able to live a little 'dangerously' at times but usually only when you've made some sound assessments and get to a point where you can handle the worst if that is how it goes.

I would say you will get involved/invest of yourself with whatever the situation is - and I get quite a clear feel that this will be right for you at this time, it will be OK.

The message  - though not always to be followed on every decision - the guy has good gut instincts, he has good intuition for what is right for him and will be a good thing, and he is often right - I'm thinking he has some strong Mars in his natal chart.  And lastly, the hurting you factor appears to be that he is holding him self as aloof as he can but it is a struggle for him, he's trying to 'teach you a lesson' but this is not deep seated nastiness on his part more just a way he uses to get people to be more up front.

good wishes

oops wrong nick addressed on previous post, teehee