Can someone please do a reading for me. This is the first time I am asking for tarot, so not sure what I need too.

My husband last week suddenly told me that he does not love me anymore and want to separate. He was very caring, loving and affectionate person before that.

I want to know what is in stock for me.. Can I save this marriage.

Please help me.

I am so sorry to hear about your case, and I am sure our eminent Tarot Reader will give you a reading.

I just felt the urge to give some of my own thoughts.

Be aware that such thing happen to "many" people, and that is not your fault, and you have nothing to blame yourself for.
In a marriage there is always at least 2 persons who must share the responsibility to have thing working.

It is sad, but sometimes some of us allow ourselves to fall in love with another person.

I say it this way, because many "fall in love" or have a "crush" on another person, but are smart enough to not follow it up.

If we bring our thoughts back to when we fell in love with our partner, then I am sure our love was equal high and our future equal pink.

I think you shall start to work with yourself, I don't think you shall "crawl" for him, and I don't think you shall go around hoping he comes back.

If he has left you once, he might leave you again.

You are still very young, you must start to believe in yourself, you must start to take control of your own life.

We all have many soul mates out there, the clue is to go out and find them.....don't sit at home, and wait for your former husband....that is waste of time and your youth!

I wish you all good for your future, and give you a big Grandpa hug!

Thank you so much for your help.

We were married 4 years and was together 10 years.. It's a very long time and its really tearing me apart.

Just 2 week back he was very fine and I thought everything is going great. He's not in job right now and I was thinking if that is influencing his unhappiness.

I am from India and getting divorced is not that easily accepted.. Plus I love him so much, that he was my world... Its like the world is shattered in one minute.

thanks so much for the hug, I really needed it.. God bless you.

No one :-( :-(

Hello HelpSurvive

Very sorry to hear about your marriage and the current situation.
It made a certain impression on me when you asked the question: “Can I save this marriage?” Well, unless you are at fault here, then saving this marriage should be a two-way street. It needs two parties to wish to ‘save’ a union such as marriage.

Before I lay the cards, I usually take a few moments to link in with you ‘clairvoyantly’ to see what images I am getting. I have to say I could not get any images except for the following words, whether they apply to you or to your husband, I am not so sure. I have a feeling they apply to him in this case. “Boredom”, “Depression”, ‘Fear”. Do you have any reason to believe he is suffering from any of these? Or that he may have had in the past?

I am using the Mirror spread and I have picked the following cards from the Rider Waite:

1: You – the Querent.
Seven of Swords.
Here is a man running away with five swords between his arms whilst leaving two behind. He is sneaking away and has no time or does not care about picking the other two left behind. At first sight of this card, one would think about a situation where there is cheating, treason, running away from the truth, someone not telling the truth...and things of that nature. This is a delicate matter for me to touch here my dear, but I am inclined to ask two questions: have you been running away from a situation, whilst knowing well in your heart that it should be tackled or should have been handled, but never did? If this card had shown as your husband, my immediate impression would have been, Oh, yes, he is cheating, and he is running away from a situation and so on. This could still be the situation you are in at present – your husband wanting to make a break. But, please, have a look inside yourself and examine if you had been avoiding certain issues hoping that they would simply resolve themselves?

2: The way you see the other person in the relationship.
Ace of Swords.
A rock, tower of strength, good communicator, the front line for all matters that need solving and, as a man of the family, he is the one who usually handles them. He is strong, has a sense of justice and for you he is the Ace, the number One!

3. The way the other person sees himself (your husband).
Nine of Wands.
When I look at this card, at a man who has worked hard and so protective about what he’s got and yet I see him so vulnerable in his efforts to guard what he has. On one hand I see that strength on him and yet there is that sense of insecurity, a sense of fear of losing it all. He is as though protecting himself by his own achievements, of what he has acquired so far, without letting others to come close to him or even trying to share it with others. In contrast to your perception of him as the ‘rock’, I don’t think he sees himself under the same light.



4. What the person represents to you.
Three of Pentacles.
The first feeling I get from this card is one of the ‘home maker’; the builder; the one who is looking after his home, a hard worker, a self starter. He has his hands at projects and seeking approval from investors and his superiors.

5. What you represent to them.
Eight of Wands.
Witty, fast paced, always the first to get there; always quick with decisions and actions in making things happen. You think about something and you make it happen – sooner rather than later. A fire energy; creative and imaginative. Whilst he may have those same qualities himself (Nine f Pentacles) but it takes hard work for him to achieve things rather than the way he sees you; it is as though he sees you as someone for whom things are fast and easy and on time.  As a man, he may find this perception of you a bit challenging to his manhood. I am also getting the feeling that he may see you as someone who is fast to react, fast to make a stance, quick to judge and passionate in your initial response to situations.

6. Obstacles within the relationship.
Death. (major Arcana)
Things have to change; certain chapters have to close in order for new ones to begin. I hear you said you had a very loving relationship before he made this announcement. But have there been unresolved issues from the past between you two? Are there things which have not been put to bed and sorted rather than shoved under the mattress? Sometimes we feel when we don’t talk about things, they will go away. Perhaps there are things which seemingly have gone away on the surface, but they possibly need to be revisited and put to their grave before the new chapter comes to light. I repeat here again: I know you said you have been in a loving marriage, but I can’t help but feel with this card that there are some unresolved issues between two. Has he or you done things or something in the past that needs to be put to bed? Could that be the reason for the present situation?

7. Strengths within this relationship.
Strength. (another major Arcana).
There is Strength in itself in this relationship which you both share. Whether you put it to proper use or even realise that you have that strength, is another issue. Here, we are talking about the ‘silent strength’; the one that moves mountains but one that uses tact, communication skills and calm temperament. With such qualities that the relationship has been blessed with, you should both be able to face anything.

8. Probable result.
Four of Wands.
This is the card of celebrations, almost thanks giving while you bring your harvest home to share with family and loved ones. It is party time with friends as these two women in the picture carry home on their shoulders baskets of fruits and flowers while their garden is decorated with all sorts of colourful flowers and people in the background enjoying themselves.

From step 2 to 7, there are challenges and personality issues. I am going to impress upon steps 6 and 7 which may assist in bringing a solution about this situation. I am not saying the solution is a re-union, nor am I saying it is not. It is up to you both to sort issues around you. If he said to you he didn’t love you anymore, I would suggest that you use your Strength, the gentle and tactful one with which you can move mountains.

However this situation ends or is resolved, I wish you all the best and the celebrations that the cards have shown.

I stand by the advice and support given to you by Grandpa Rhutobello in his previous message to you.

All the best to you and I hope this reading has meant something to you.

Please feel free to get back with your feedback.

Blessings of harmony to you.

Hugs
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