I would be really grateful if someone could do a reading for me as I feel like my head is going to explode!

Normally I do three card readings for myself and friends on an informal basis which I don't have a problem understanding and I feel quite instinctive and clear about them.

I've hit a brick wall with reading for myself in relation to a man I’ve had feelings for during the last couple of years and I can’t get rid of them in spite of having had relationships with other guys in the meantime. There has been a mutual attraction between us but we’ve never been single at the same time. I’m pretty sure he is seeing someone at the moment and I’m single.

I know I’m having problems because it's about my emotions and a man! I look at the cards and I just see a million and one different meanings, no clarity and voices in my head which say well it could mean this or it could mean this. What I can't distinguish between is - is a reading just representing my desires so not reality or is it indicating changes or advice.
For example the 2 of cups is it saying yes you will get an emotional approach from this man or is it saying that's what I want not necessarily what I'll get.

What I’d like to know is when I am I going to move on from this guy – I don’t think we will have a relationship – it’s sort of missed its moment. And are there any other men on the horizon who will replace him in my feelings?

hello Red29,

I understand your dilemma and more so with your last statement where you say, "And are there any other men on the horizon who will replace him in my feelings?" Quite a challenge here.

I picked some cards for you from the Rider Waite deck.

YOU NOW: The Queen of Wands.(Leo)
Busy, successful lifestyle, charming and stylish person. Can be direct in her business dealings, almost showing no heart, but she knows how to enjoy life, how to dress and how to have a good time. She holds a wand in one hand and a sunflower in the other. She is close to earth and reaps the benefits of her hard work. She is energetic, creative and can jump from one prospect or project to the other - very much the woman on the fast lane. Whatever your sex is Red29, your current state is similar to that of our queen or perhpas you should adopt some of her qualities for yourself.

POSITIVE INFLUENCES: King of Cups. (Cancer)
A loving man, husband, father figure whose heart rules his head (nothing wrong with that). He gives good advice, he is nurturing to those he loves, he is selfless and puts himself down for the sake (and love) of others who are part of his family and close circle.
His influence in your life is positive, whether he is a father figure for you or a man in your life who brings you love and understanding. Some might say he lacks vision and foresight, but I wouldn't say those attributes are what you are looking for in terms of his persona currently influencing your life.

OBSTACLES/ HINDRANCES (negative energies): Ten of Swords.
A state of having lost it all, diminished to the ground like this guy in the card lying flat on the floor, with dark clouds  in the sky and ten swords stabbing his back. The lowest that one can get in a situation and, depending on the personality of an individual, he would even look up and say with a cynical smile: " So what else can go wrong with me?" Not all, I might add, have that humour against adversity in life. However, despite the downfall, there is a positive side to this state: wouldn't you say that there was no other way but UPWARDS from a state such as this one? I mean, what else can go wrong when one has reached to this level? The next step to go is up and gaining control on one's affairs and life in general.

MESSAGE FROM THE TAROT. The Sun.
And indeed, rebirth, the dawning of a new day as this major Arcana card signifies. A rebirth like the naked child on the white horse and sunflowers behind him. The child signifies a sense of simplicity and innocense. This is beautiful card as it heralds a beginning which is clear and warm as the sun, and may even signify a trip to a warm climate to recharge your batteries and start afresh.

SUMMARY/OUTCOME: The Hermit.
Another major Arcana card where the hermit is seeking knowledge by holding his lantern in the dark. The knowledge may not be acquired quick and in a haphazard way; it is like holding the lantern low enough to the ground to enable you to see how you should take your next step. It is a time of introspection into your self and time to learn a few things about your soul, the person you are and what you would like to achieve in this life. This is a period for yourself where only you can see what your next path should be, but before embarking on that new path, some knowledge is necessary for your mind and soul. The lantern should serve you as the light and a beacon for your inner soul.

I dont know how this answers your questions about this guy in your life Red29. Between the King of Cups and the Sun, there is this phase of low energy in the form of the Ten of Swords. As to who the King of Cups is in your life bringing positive energies, only you know that. But I cannot put aside your last sentence about 'replacing your feelings' with other or An Other man. Is that really what you want? Replacing your emotions for this guy with someone else? Isnt this struggle in itself perhaps the lowest point for you in your current state? Am hoping the next two cards will inspire you.

I do hope this reading has shed some light on your situation and please do let us know how things pan out for your in the near future.

Would appreciate your feedback, if you've got a few spare minutes.

Best of luck and blessings in this current journey of yours.

cedars

Hi Cedars

Thank you so much for taking the time to do this for me.

The Queen of Wands is def me and yes I'm female. I run my own business and can be on the go all the time. I normally think of myself as a cross between the Queens of Wands and Pentacles. I'm a capricorn.

Not sure who the King of Cups - def not my father - could be the man in question but if it is not sure how he is a positie influence!!

10 of swords - I don't feel like this at the moment my feelings are more of frustration as I can go a few months by not seeing this guy and then I see him and the feelings are still there!!! But I'm hoping there isn't worse to come yet!

Sun and the Hermit - give me some hope!


As to your question yes unfortunately I do want to get rid of these feelings otherwise I fear I could still be in the same boat in a couple of years time and he'll be happily married oblivious to my feelings!!! By the way I'm not normally like this with men - normally I can move on really quickly- I f I was meant to learn soemthing from this experience I've still not discovered what it is!!

Once again thank you so much for doing this reading.

Thank you Red29.
Dont be so hard on yourself about still having feelings for this man, even if he is oblivious or ends up marrying someone else. Please dont put yourself down.
The fact that you wish to free yourself of these feelings is a step in the right direction......but feelings... they have a mind of their own, dont they?

You look after yourself and tell us how you get on.

Cheers and blessings.
cedars

Hi Cedars

You very kindly did the reading below for me in April which has been pretty spot on for the months that have passed.

I hope you don't consider it presumtious of me to see if you could do a follow up reading as we are approaching a new year and a personal milestone for me as I turn 40 in a couple of days.

The situation re this guy hasn't changed. He pops in and out of my life, brief conversations and every time I think that's I'm over him, up he pops, and I realise I still have the same old feelings. The only change is that I think he too is now single however I still can't see us having any opportunity to explore our feelings that's assuming he still has any towards me which I have no idea of.

I would just like some idea as I'm going into what I see as a new era for me personally what there could be romantically on the horizon for me either with him or someone else.

From reading other posts Cedars I understand you have not been well so I don't mean to hassle you at all, and I hope you are getting better. Please only do a reading for me if you have the time and if you are well, I'll totally understand you can't read for me.

Love

Red