hello.  many thanks to all who may help:

i feel my marriage is ending although i have tried my best to make everyone happy (in my husband's family) adjusting myself to the various necessities and basically cancelling my needs.  i have done what they asked (basically they wanted someone to lookafter their mother) and even lost my dignity.  my husband does not say a word about my suffering over this.  as they weren't happy with what i was doing, i started working and still looked after "my duties" of being a good wife, mother, and daughter in law - i mean living like 70 years ago when women were just basically slaves and had no saying...).  they are still talking behind my back and saying that i am not doing enough.

what is behind all of this, and why isn't my husband reacting.  i don't expect him to go against his family, but why doesn't he give me the reassurance that all i've done is appreciated and why doesn't he speak of our marriage with me, our troubles, etc.,   he just keeps quiet or makes sarcastic remarks, also aluding that i'm not doing enough or turning things around, telling me to do one thing, then denying he said it.

i would like to know why and if i courageously make the decision to leave him, will i make it on my own, will things turn out for the best?

sorry so pathetic, but this is really a pathetic situation to be in!

i was born 20/8/69 in frankfurt germany, he 20/11/69 in verona italy.  we live in verona italy.

thanks so much in advance and i'm looking forward to learning the tarot using the mystic board.

daniela

Hello after reading your post (although I'm a training psychic /medium with a teacher and also a learner in tarot )i would like to try and address some of the above

whether you want your marriage to work or not you have changed you have become a stronger person -his family act as an intermediate for your husband and you to live your life the way they want you to live it your husbands stand in this is to be silent and I'm sorry to say hes learning his behaviour from them
if you stay you will always wonder what it would have been like if you had gone and if things don't change your love for your husband will go
if you decide to go you will find it easier than you imagined your life will be completely changed  but then you will be left with the memories of if you had stayed could you have made it work also there may be custody battles over the child/children
nothing is set in stone with a tarot reading this is how it is now and as things are  
you could take a different approach and in your own words just ask him to tell his family to butt out

may be a qualified reader could give you a reading now

Hi daniela,


I am very sorry to hear that you are still having these problems and I do hope that things improve very soon for you all.

You were very kindly given a reading less than a week ago and I am sorry to say I doubt if anything will have changed since then.  Relying on a tarot reading is not the answer here, you have to figure out these important decisions yourself rather than shifting the responsibility and blame for any decisions, that you will have to live with, to someone else.

I hope that you understand, that is why I have locked this thread.