Hello and thank for coming to help me.

i'm 19 and trying to get married in march. over the past 5 or so years i've always been depressed even if there seemed to be no real reason. i used the tarot generator here with the celtic cross. my question was "what is my cure for depression"

as a result i was basically told that im too overindulgent, that i will have marital problems and i'm being too hasty in all my decisions. also that i will be losing friends(which i agree with) ad that there is a lot of misfortune and bad luck for me.

so i'm wondering if i correct myself, could this marriage thats happening soon go over well? could i possibly have a reading from someone?

i'm stressing a little too much over this but i believe in the cards and he is the only one who got me to stop cutting. please help.

Wow, wow,Dragon! Hold on my friend, you are going too fast.

First and foremost - forgive me for commenting on this first - why in the world would someone of 19 years of age want to get married before he/she has has had a chance to live life? Are you being forced to get married or early marriages are part of your culture? If it is, I am very sorry to hear it. I can almost feel that marriage itself is driving you to depression.

And, what do you mean by ''I am trying to get married in March''?  Trying? A marriage as close as next month, where does ''trying'' come into it? You make it sound you are trying to reach a deadline by March 2010. What is this all about my friend?

As for asking a mechanised tarot system on answers for the cause of your depression, I cannot comment on that except that depression is a clinical thing and should be handled by a medical professional rather than the cards or any form of psychic forum. We do not here give readings on health matters and this should be referred to a doctor. Please check the guidelines about how to ask for a reading at the top of this forum.

My opinion of your impending marriage, whether it is going to go well or not is irrelevant, but I have certain reservations concerning your current emotional state.

It looks to me you yourself need help, let alone entangling your life into taking further responsibilities such as marriage.

Think well my friend.

Feel free to come back.

All the best to you.

Hi Girl,

I need to make this absolutely clear! The Pm you sent me, will be answered in this posting, which is public, as you requested assistance publicly.

You are Leo, as I am. Depression is not one of the negative traits in our "being" We are ruled by the Sun, and as such should have a progressive and totally positive outlook on life. And yes, at your age, Leos tend to be overeager, and just too impulsive, etc.... Read your Zodiac sign, but study it extensively, maybe you will understand yourself much better!

However, it can happen to any person, and inevitably you need to get to a dr, and most definitely a psychiatrist! Depression is also caused chemically within your own body! It relates to enzymes or chemical compound transmitted from one cell to the other. It happens that the cell wall is not strong enough, and thus, these chemical compound are scattered "helter-scelter, this is rectified with Anti-depressants. Cutting yourself, please don't do that it's degenerative and a viscous cycle. This is inherent created within your mind and it points to an un-natural influence on your earlier life!

You are in the prime of your life, my dear, get yourself together!

I want to venture as far as when you were small, although I have never met you, statistics show that negative events, happening to you when you are very young, lead to psychological problems when you are older. Sit yourself down, and explore your past, find that point, and deal with it, assisted by those who love you, and those who have the knowledge about these influences on your psyche.

The first and foremost point of advice I can give you, is to learn to love yourself first, before you know and understand how to love someone else. Getting married is not a "if" question. Either it happens or not! Just make sure you are getting married for the right reasons.

As Cedars said, an electronically generated reading, gives you only the very basic meanings of the cards, there are a lot more at stake and considerations when having a live reading.

It may also be in your interest to get yourself so busy, that you don't have time to watch soapies on tv, and ponder all your problems, driving you into a deeper state of depression.

Furthermore, depression is a mindset, you create over years, therefore don't think it will "suddenly" dissapear". You truly need to change your perception of yourself and attract a more positive approach. You, can do miracles in your own life, if you put your mind to it!

Blessed be.

thank you very much cedars and pay.

Someone had sent me a message saying they were sorry i got such mean messages  on my forum. I call it learning from my elders.

I'm a socially awkward person, so I felt i would be a bother asking for someone to give my a reading. Which is why I used the generated reading. Even then, the reading was spot on so it kind of freaked me out.

And Cedars, I said trying to get married because we dont have that hot a memory so we figured we should get married on the date to started dating. I realize i do need to try to be more responsible (which is another thing the cards said i'm not) but my whole life i have lacked the will to do anything. Most of my life i have felt like a  zombie. Ask much as i hate kids at the moment I realized all i want is a family. I want to raise my kids the way I should have been. And i will be more intelligent than my mom, i will wait a few years after marriage. Yes I should enjoy my life being young, i agree. But I never felt like i had much a childhood anyway, I want a family and I'm trying to prepare my mind for it. That is my only desire out of life. A child.

Paye,

I'm glad you replied here. I only sent you the message asking you to see my forum.

My sisters have always called me a baby and told me i always just make excuses for as long as i can remember. I always believed them. They always shut me out and brought me down. So it makes me happy to hear someone on me and my fiances side that it is just a chemical issue about my depression. My mom forced to go see professional help. i only went to two sessions and she already thought i was bi-polar and she wanted to give me drugs. So I stopped going, and also because i didnt want to make my mom waste her money. And as far as the cutting goes, when i was younger it was everyday. now i've gotten somewhat better and there is multiple months inbetween each cut. from how it was back then to what it is now, i feel like i have made an improvement.

I could go seek pro help but it all angers me. i feel that they are just in it for the money and they all want to hand out drugs and call that a cure. a reason i'm happy that i found this place. first i stopped coming here because it didnt seem like many people were on. i remember cedars has helped me out before.  So when i came back last night i thought i could get some help. here if people comment, i feel they actually kind of care. it may be through a computer but i get these vibes that tell this person is being an ass. Also, i could talk to my family but they would say the same thing they have been saying for years. "oh Dragon! You're not like that! you dont really think like that!"


So thanks guys for being honest. and thanks for the replies. at least it was something. Also want to apologize for this being so long and my first one for being  unclear. it was one or two in the morning, i was a little tired.

All this to me sounds like you are trying to mend the past by putting yourself into something even more complicated. If you don’t have that ''hot a memory’’ then are you sure you are right for each other? Why don’t you just take it easy rather than assume that marriage will give you hot moments? If you don’t have ‘hot’ moments now, do you think having a child crying in the middle of the night will add passion in your life or marriage? Your desire to mother a child I’m afraid is once again to repair and mend your past in some way or another which I do not have the right medical or psychoanalytical word for it, if there is one. There are no quick fixes to life my dear. You have to take and look at the past rather than assume another major step will heal or wipe off the past. It may do for a little while, but it will hit you back with vengeance at a later date.

You hate kids and you want one in order to amend and correct something. Some things cannot be amended or rectified in such a straightforward manner. Please, please think twice before you take that big step of mothering a child and then facing further issues in the process. Please take my next statement as a compliment rather than a criticism: you are a child yourself at the age of 19 and why would you wish to complicate your life with marriage, a child and all that which comes along with them….? Who says you have to spend the rest of your life with this man if you don’t find ‘hot’ things to do with him? Go back to being a friend with him and see if you are compatible in that arena..

You will have your child am sure sooner or later; have it when you are ready for it mentally and emotionally – not to correct something about your life by creating another life. I do not believe that is the answer.

Please seek help my dear girl.

Hugs and blessings to you.