Hello Lora

You should try what Payewacker is suggesting and see what you get.
On one hand it is situation that makes you feel you are alive,  but on the other hand the anxiety and the waiting to know what the other one wants or is really thinking, is not so good. I suppose it is all part of life.

I feel your man does not know what he really wants. Or, even if he does, he is scared of something. Blowing hot and cold is not something reassuring for you and I would be tempted to walk away in order to save myself heartache. But, I am not suggesting that you do that. There is definitely a spark there and it is worth seeing it through.

I would say Ace of Wands is Passion and desire and, indeed, physical desire at that. The Eight of Wands tells me things are still up in the air and have not yet reached fruition. Whilst number 8 is not far from completion stage, it is that hanging in the air and waiting for events to reveal themselves is the burning question.  You should have picked a third card and should not have stopped at the Eight of Wands. Either one card or three cards. Never stop at two cards. And, please, dont keep on doing reading after reading.
The best reading you can do is talk to him and ask what he wants.
Most often, we are scared to ask that question in case we frighten them..... but how long can you take being in the unknown?

Did you ever ask him why he goes hot and cold?

I wish you all the best and filakia