sweetsunray, thank you so much....
Im going to go away and absorb properly what you wrote...a lot of it seems to make sense to me now that its been clarified.
Your help is much appreciated:-)

It's not always easy... I've been living by myself for 10 years, single, yet dating off and on without anyone ever much wanting to commit (admittedly I did not wish it either always)... until the past month, and plans are on the way to live together. Sometimes I didn't mind being single at all, sometimes I craved for please someone to fall head over heals because it became so tiring. People told me that never to lose hope, because there would be someone la-la-la-la... but 10 years is very sobering.

But regardless of how it will pan out... keep yourself open to opportunities and as happy and positive you can be when single. If you can't be happy with basic life by yourself, a partner won't be able to fix that. You will need that basic happiness in order to stick through the difficulties of a relationship, for understanding another human being, and to love yourself in a way you can select a good partner who will respect you as much as you respect yourself, and you can love that partner as much as you love yourself.

Thankyou for posting that sweetsunray!!
Im glad things worked out for you and i wish you the best of luck!
Im just out of a 3 yr relationship, with someone who obviously wasnt meant for me, but feel i am ready to meet the right person , why ive turned to the tarot for a little insight. x

Much good vibes for you

What a nice spread...I'll do it for myself as soon as I get home xD