Dear Rose Red

Hmmmmmm... talking to the pendulum. I am very new at dowsing/pendulum myself and I do communicate with it either on dowsing charts or with a simple Yes and No.
I use a crystal pendulum which I just bought from a mystic shop. It is just a crystal kind of a thing, perhaps not even real crystal. I started using a ring at first and I was still able to establish communication. The item you use is not of importance really.

Have you actually tried the simple Yes and No questions to begin to establish the pattern or the programme, as they call it?
do you get a Yes or a No to questions where you know what the answers are?

I guess we should firs start from there.

Yip you are completely correct that it does not matter what it is, thought maybe you were using a clearing crystal of sorts to help?

And yes, I do get the yes/no/def yes/def no.
I also had maybe - but decided to scrap that as almost all of my answers were maybe and that didn't help me.
I just find that dowsing is just so finiky. What I mean by this is that firstly you have to watch out for the whole time and love thing. And you then have to be really specific in what your questions are.

I used to own pet rats, haha much to my mothers dismay! And I would let them run around my room. If I was in a rush and had to put them away quickly and they were not responding to my calls; then I would grab the pendulum and go through the motions of which part of the room or cupboard they would be sleeping in. I never got the correct answer. Completely incorrect place.
I would always try figure out where the misunderstanding could come from. But never did.

But funnily enough I dowse really well for other ppl. Like I hold the pendulum, they ask the question in their mind and then I tell them what the answer is.

I have never dowsed for other people...... I am like you, sometimes the answers I get for my questions are not always accurate...... or, I may be asking the questions in an incorrect manner...... who knows? am still learning.

But dowsing for other people could be a real eye-opener. Should try that.

do you let them ask the question in their own mind and you simply ask the pendulum whether it is a Yes or No?

yeah what i do is first take my dominant arm that I would use to hold the pendulum, sit at a table or lean on a surface and support the wrist with the other hand, to make sure you are not 'cheating'
Then I just let myself relax, its kinda like opening myself up to a question. By doing this I'm setting the intention that this is what I am going to be doing: receiving a question from a person and then the pendulum must answer.
Then the person can be sitting next to me or standing and then they will ask the question silently. So they are asking in their mind.
I don't hear it.
Got a big thing about privacy so I don't even try hear it.
And then if you just relax your pendulum will start to move according to your fingerprint. (your yes and no movements etc)
And then once you have established an answer then I just say to the person that was a Yes, No etc

Yeah its great!
Helped many a friend get some help- just can't seem to do it for myself! heehee