I would very much appreciate someones interpretation of a couple of spreads that I have done involving a girl that I am attracted to. I once did a spread based on finding the "girl of my dreams". In the spread, I am not going to mention what positions they were in, I drew the Strength card, the Death card, and Judgement. Now, with every spread that I have done involving this girl one of those or the Lovers card has popped up. The thing is that I dont understand if it means she might be the one because we dont have the most stable relationship mainly because were from different backgrounds.

I just drew what I am going to say is my last relationship spread based on her and I will tell you what I got.

What she thinks of me: Three of Swords
What I think of her: Knight of Cups
Our relationship now: Nine of Cups
Our relationship in the future: The Fool
Advice: Two of Swords
And a really weird occurence happened when I drew the last card. The Lovers card literally jumped out at me and landed in the middle of the spread.

Can someone PLEASE tell me what this means or give me your own interpretation based on the information I have given you? Thank you.

I wanted to reply regarding the LOVERS card. It seems that it is about making a choice, isn't it. Or about something coming in between two lovers?
Did you think about looking at the LOVERS + FOOL  as a combination, since they kindof came together.

With relationships, I am cautious what I say.
I am more of a psychic who is now learning the tarot as a tool that helps my flashes get organized. So I'd rather other tarot readers who are more experienced give you their interpretations.

I will try Headbanger. And, before I do that, may I say that at this wonderful age of 20, I think you should try to be a bit more open to living life rather than wondering if it is 'the one' that you have found? Anyhow, this is my opinion and it is a very personal one. No offense was intended to your question.

I am using the Rider Waite Original deck.

What she thinks of you: Three of Swords: This card needs no further explanation in the way it has been depicted in the RW deck. It is not such a coincidence that the Two of Swords has also come up, albeit for a different question. As to what this lady thinks of you, is probably a fear that you may break her heart. You said your 'relationship' has not been a stable one. Has there already been a break up and a reunion before? If so, then she very much fears that the same may happen again?

What you think of her: Knight of Cups. This knight is very romantic, almost head in the clouds with romance, he is all flowers and candle-lit dinners, but somehow lacks realism at times. He is a slow mover, full of poetry, almsot forlorn with romance and love. He needs to be grounded and look at his feelings from time to time to give common sense and logic its fair share.I believe this could be you rather than what you think of her. I would say, this is what you might think of the relationship or you wish it to be so. All I can say is look also at the logical side of things and be grounded with your feelings.

Our relationship now: Nine of Cups.
This tells me like you both have it all. Fuliflled and contented, like the innkeeper in the picture who is sitting, arms folded on his chest and nine cups standing upwards behind him. Are you now in a phase of accord and a re-union which you did not have not long ago perhaps?

Our relationship in the future: The Fool.
New beginnings, fresh start or taking a chance? A chance at something new? There are many different views for the Fool. Some say it is the end of a journey and some say it is the start of a journey, but one based on instinct, some risk and a little bit, as the card says, foolhardy approach to life. Might you be considering doing something new together? Going somewhere? Or starting a home together?

Advice: Two of Swords.
I dont know who this advice is directed to? As you are the querent as far as this reading goes, I will say it is the advice to you. You have been impartial about something and have been holding your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Almost ignoring what is there, what is to be said and sitting on the fence hoping that if it is ignored, it will go away. Like this woman sitting with a blindfold and the two swords of impartiality unable to move forward. Only you know how long you can sit there in a stalemate position, but I am sure you are also aware that you have to come out and take off the blindfold and face the music -whatever that may be.

As for the Lovers card, I feel this is the card of love, yes, but in this case I sense it is the card of making the choice, the committment or move forward?

Forgive me, but I sense - outside the realms of these cards - that perhaps you need to examine your feelings with regard to this relationship. As it has been a turbulent one, perhaps you both need to say to each other what has not been said so far and then make that committment.

Hope this interpration shed some light on your situation.
Hope all goes well for both of you.
Blessings.
cedars

Hallo, HedBanger (I hope you don't make a habit of your nickname),

I can tell you what the cards you drew mean to me, but I would not place much faith on relationship readings. You should let the heart rule (and I mean the heart, not just a passing whim). It is like asking your mum (or hers, for that matter) what you should do about it: would you then abide by her decision? I am sure you wouldn't, so you shouldn't follow card's advice to the letter, either.

But I think in this case the cards are pointing out obstacles in your way to this and other future relationships, so you might profit from this information. That is why I give it, against my better judgment.

Ok, first let us have a look at those early cards concerning the girl of your dreams. By the way, I am using Rider Waite. If you use another deck, its meanings may be quite different, so take that into account.

Strength: this is a call to learn and apply emotional control, inner strength, self restraint and discipline. Why? Because, when contemplating a relationship, often our emotions do us in. Meaning we let ourselves believe what we are feeling is based on reality, when most of the time we are making the whole thing up, including what we think the person is like.

Death warns you that taking losses in love can hurt a lot. But it also tells you that you may be needing a whole new approach to this subject in order to have any success, so watch out for old habits that may be working against you.

Judgment is an impulse, an inner calling that moves you to act in a certain way, to change or recognize a change in yourself and your situation. It usually follows Death quite naturally: end of old you, birth of new you. It also means understanding something on a deep level, getting inspiration or maturing in some aspect.

Lovers is usually about making important decisions, as Farafina pointed out, or making them with the heart, as I asked you to do. It can also mean nostalgia for a past relationship, or a relationship that you value a lot, someone who you feel backs you up emotionally (not necessarily a lover, though).

May I ask you if you were only using Major Arcana on this first spread? Or did you get other cards besides these 4 Majors? Because, as you can easily see, Majors talk about certain traits that could be good or bad to have in this pursuit, namely: you need to take control of your emotions (Strength), be ready to change deeply if necessary (Death), follow your inner voice and instinct rather than what others may say (Judgment) and be sure to make the right decision (Lovers). You may or may not follow this advice, but it does not say much about the real situation, does it?

So let us see about your "last" spread:

3 of Swords: she obviously thinks you have the potential to hurt her very deeply, or literally, break her heart. Whether this is due to her own previous experience or the way she sees you, you should better ask the lady in question.

Knight of Cups: you see her as attractive but passive, not ready to commit (not surprising, considering the last card you drew).

9 of Cups: is about having fun and relaxing avoiding unnecessary worries, happiness and sociability. So you can have a lot of fun together but on a rather superficial level, since you are not ready to commit. So why not enjoy things the way they are now and see how they turn out later? It is obvious that your relationship right now does not need any pressure put upon it.

The Fool: is a blind jump of faith, meaning that no one knows what you would be getting into in the future. If you pursue this relationship, you will have to keep very open minded about it, be optimistic, have faith, follow your instinct. But beware of rushing things or taking sudden risks: temerity and irrational thinking will not help you here (remember Strength).

2 of Swords: warns about emotional tension leading to blocks and a defensive attitude. The more tension, the easiest it is to end up quarreling. It is also a good indicator that there are things you are refusing to look at clearly.

A card that turns up without your looking for it, usually sums up what you are asking about, in this case, The Lovers, a decision about a relationship.

I hope you got something useful out of all of this. See you around,

Cheers!  

Ooops! Sorry, Cedars: your answer was not there when I first started writing. I must have taken too long about it. I see we both say the same things, too, more or less (you with more detail: I am getting a bit knackered by now).

So, HedBanger, you may ignore my response, if you like: Farafina and Cedars are more than competent to answer.