| suzisco wrote: |
my goodness, i have been a symbol for many things, but perhaps my avatar is telling shhhh and protect yourself just now. The good thing is you have a whole forum who supports you and your development.
I don't discuss this aspect of my life with my husband, purely because he is disinterested. He would never mock me. I have other people i know who belong to the local church and they think this forum is the work of the devil. I personally think they are a bit mad and behind the times.
I know that ultimately you are going to be fine and your developement will not stop or slow down.
Take heart
Suzi xxx |
Hi Chrisdee and Suzisco,
I couldnt help but want to barge in on your conversation.
I also found more so at the start of my development my husband initially feared me doing it to an extent. He was mystified that for once I was going out and doing things with other people that he just could not understand. Most of the people too he didnt and still does not know. so for him to see me so happy and chatty about a part of me that he feels left out of is hurting him a little. It took me a long time to see that he wasnt scared of my development but that he felt he was missing out on a part of me that he couldnt relate to and that I could so much better with other people.
I also found that with this growth came my own opening of physcial limits. I started letting people touch me occasionally and the women I really trust I will embrace and to him that was shocking for I would only ever hug him. At times I find it hard to hug my own mother and father due to an unrelated experience I had in my teen years.
so hubby has felt out of my loop as he sees me grow and live a whole different life, one that completes me and makes me so darn happy that at times I feel I will burst, and him being less than happy with his job, not enough good friends he can rely on and that fact that i believe he wishes he could have a relationship like women do with other women but him to be as close to another man just impossible as men just arent like us.
So at times he does become dis-associated, withdrawn moody etc etc but I cant hide my excitement or my talk about the things I get up to within my few groups and he is having to live with that. He doesnt want me to not talk about it and we still battle over my now outgoing nature as five years ago I never left the house and was just his wife and mother to his kids but now I have a totally other life....
Wow I have just gone on and on....I say though that your conversation has really struck me as I so truly know how you both feel and at times its so hard to deal with. We had an arguement and I said to him
"Dont ever make me choose between you and my growth spiritually/psychically because if you did I couldnt choose you. I have to be me now and I just cant stop what I'm doing even if I wanted to"
He tries hard to let me grow but at times just has to have his say, but because I love him etc etc I let him think he has the power and fool him into thinking he got his own way....lol..........