Long story, will try to keep it short.
Years ago, when my father met a new woman and they were getting married, I had one of my moments when something just came out of my mouth.  I don't know where it comes from, it just is there.  It startles people and often they are irritated with me, until it happens.  
This time it was to a "friend" that the finance wanted him for his money.  
The "friend" said this to a friend of my father's fiance.  The friend told the fiance.  She told my Dad.  My dad is a multiple Scorpio, multiple personality, narcissist.  Our relationship has always been difficult. I knew he loved me and could count on that until..........a week after his fiance told him, he had a real head of steam up and told me off in every way he could and said I was no longer family.  It was devastating to me.  I put on 40 pounds in a month and have spent years to forgive myself and him.  The relationship has been very very difficult.  This happened about 28 years ago. He has never forgiven me.
I have been meditating a great deal and doing a tons of forgiveness work for the last several months.  

The person I said this to, I never saw again, in the 28 years, until today.
We ran into each other in the grocery store.  I couldn't remember exactly who she was/is, but was very uncomfortable with her.  She tends to talk in no win statements. Little zingers.  The Gods were good to me.  She said enough to let me know exactly who she is in my life.  My mother was with me and couldn't remember the woman either.

All of a sudden it was all there in front of me.  I knew the woman, her "betrayal" and I wanted out of there.  We finished shopping.  
I was at first taken back and then chose to start forgiving.  Forgiving her.  I saw the whole thing from a different angle.  She is so abrasive.  She must be a sad woman to need to be so abrasive and to take so much from people.  I suddenly felt compassion for her.  Deep compassion.  Forgive forgive.  I suddenly felt great compassion for my dad and his wife (they married).  He gave up the relationship with me over this without ever asking what happened or wanting to hear.  We have had a very shallow relationship for years since then, I am guarded and he is aggressive (he has the right to say whatever he wants to me or treat me as he wishes, I am his daughter, he uses that right when he wants and is cruel with his words).
Forgive forgive forgive.  
I have a great deal more forgiveness to do, with myself and them.  I am in a completely different place with all of them than I had been this morning.  
Thank you Blessed Lady for bringing me this opportunity to see it all and forgive and heal.

The Gods work in wondrous ways.  They brought me this opportunity to heal.  To forgive, to have compassion and to heal my self.  I don't know what will come from this.  I am still in the process.  
For some reason I was drawn to share.
The Gods work in incredible ways.  They bring us exactly what we need.  I ask for healing and this is before me.  
Trust that when you genuinely ask, it shall be given.  Be prepared to receive the gift and do the work you need.
Hugs?
Thank you for reading.  (be gentle, I'm still healing)

Many Hugs sent your way.  I can't imagine how I would feel in your place, friends turning from one due to things they hear is so much different then family.  Love and Hugs, I hope you find your light again

Lots of love and hugs !!  
You are a very strong individual and will only grow stronger from this ....

I hope you continue to heal as you forgive !!

Thats an amazing story and i thank you sincerely for sharing this with us.  I felt a resonance with your story.  I know you will continue to heal and know how long term damage takes time to heal.  People often say that words cannot hurt you but in my experience there are many people out there who are skilled in ripping your heart out with the most casual of comments.

There is nothing i can say that doesn't sound trite in my own ears, but please accept a large hug from me and I am so glad you have had an epiphany that helps you to see.

Suzi