Is a spirit ever forced to reincarnate? If so, then how can it be said that that spirit has "free will"?

The reason I ask is that I've been reading literature on the near-death experience for many years, and have encountered numerous times a scenario in which the spirit of the person who had died physically was told that, if it chose to stay in the Light, it would "have" to reincarnate later.

Am I the only one who sees a problem with this picture? That is to say, does this not contradict both the idea that we have "free will" and the notion that -- except for having to experience our negative actions through the eyes of others during our life review -- we aren't "punished" for things we do wrong on Earth?

The reason and purpose of reincarnation is our spiritual education and development. When we were still very young not knowing any better, our parents forced us to enroll in a school. Gradually over time, most of us learned the value and advantages of continuing with a formal education. A few however opted to drop out of school. But further into our future, we saw how those who pursued their studies were able to obtain to better positions and better living conditions while those who did not graduate were consigned to menial jobs and a life of poverty, suffering and want.  

It is the same in regard to the life in the spirit, in the World of Reality. Because we seek to advance and evolve, we choose to reincarnate voluntarily. Before we are even born into the world, we confer with our spirit guides, the Lords of Karma, for the purpose of formulating a plan of life -- our fate and destiny. Every situation, condition and experience that comes to us were first pre-approved by us. There before our birth here is where we exercise our free will. Many of us are unable to recall those defining moments in the Spirit World. Our non-remembrance often causes our frustrations and disappointments in life. But all of life is an opportunity for our continued spiritual progress. We have no cause to complain.

For more on this subject, you might want to check out:

http://www.innerquest.org.ph/secretsofthekingdom/iq3261reincarnationkarma.htm

A torture victim has no cause to complain? A rape victim has no cause to complain? A concentration camp victim has no cause to complain?

Sorry, but that just doesn't pass the smell test for me. In fact, it sort of sounds like the logical flip side of the ancient "divine right to rule" concept; only in this case it's the divine- or "higher self"-imposed obligation to let criminal psychopaths have their way with you (because you "pre-approved" the harm they inflict). How utterly convenient for the Adolph Hiter's of the world.

The only way I think there is forced reincarnation, constant recycling, is in fact for those dark spirits like Hitler. Maybe in cases like his, the spirit doesn't get to decide his life lessons and have guides to help him and his whole purpose is to try and destroy the light. We do seem to learn the most from negativity rather than positive experiences.

The key to understanding is in first realizing who we really are, our true nature. We are not our physical body.

Those who want to understand should now begin to think as God thinks. Think Spirit!

Then the mysteries can unravel. We will be able to know our real purpose in being born. We can then proceed more purposely towards the attainment of our true objectives.