I need a psychic reading for two specific questions. I say psychic because i think my first question can only be answered by a pschic, but i'm not sure. If it is possible to be answered by other methods as well..then i don't mind a reading from any other reader who is interested in giving me a reading.

It might seem strange but, exactly 2 years ago an astrologer told me that i will meet someone and be in a relationship with him and that will be one of my most transforming relationships. I was looking forward to this and exactly around the time she told i will meet him, that is about a year ago. I met someone and fell in love. I have never felt so strongly about anyone before. However I never dated him, I dont want to and I dont think he wants to either. I believe there is definitely some connection but I dont know what exactly it is.  
My question is: Who is he in my life? Is there a reason for us to meet? Am I or is he any kind of an influence in my life, good or bad?

Second question I have is: I want to know will I meet someone new with whom I will have a proper relationship, in the near or far future.  someone i love and he loves me back? Is there someone like that?

I know that the boy I met is not the one I will ever have a relationship with. I am not his type and he is not my type and I'm very sure that even if I want to date him, he will not be interested. I was really looking forward to meeting someone and having a long term commited relationship, I'm disappointed that I didn't meet some one like that, but at the same time i'm not dissappointed that I met the boy I have met..because I feel there is a reason for that. I don't know what the reason is though. Perhaps there is no reason at all and I'm only imagining that there might be..like mindless thinking!

Please help me with both the questions, if not both atleast answer one of these.
Thank you so much and l'm looking forward to reading your reply.

Hello again Mia,

I do not want to be seen as being picky or over technical about this, but every time you end as sentence or phrase with a question mark, that is regarded as one question. There are many more than two question marks included in your request, and therefore there are also far more than two questions as your subject heading suggested was the case. Normally we only attempt to answer a maximum of 1 - 2 of your questions in each reading, so this request has several potential future readings already included in it.

You fell hopelessly in love with him, but you do not want to actually date him? After having been told two years before by an astrologer that you would meet someone like him and that it will be one of your most transforming relationships, you are unwilling to take the risks always associated with any close human relationship? You feel a strong sense of connection with him which it appears will permanently remain purely Platonic and non physical? With due respect in your situation it is felt that you should not be asking these questions about him, but rather focussing instead on why you are resisting co-operating or fitting in with the plan which the Universe clearly has for your life with this person at your side.

Now I do not give past life or Akashic Readings, and honestly even if I did I believe that it would not be in your best interests if I did this. Before looking at possible past life experiences which the two of you shared, you should be looking first at your current lifetime. Could I suggest that your present resistance to having a physical relationship with him could be indicative of lessons still not properly learned from past incarnations, but all this past life analysis in the long run is not going to make any serious impact on your current difficulties in forming and maintaining close and loving relationships with members of the opposite gender. Him not wanting to go out with you could merely be a reflection of your unwillingness to go out with him.



How do you know these things are true? It sounds to me that you have a very poor sense of self confidence, and that you are unknowingly your own worst enemy? Are you afraid of having your theories about what he might or might not do tested by reality? Are you any more a mind reader than I am?



This is perhaps one of the most telling questions which you have asked us. Forget for now about what kind of influence he is likely to have in you. The really important question should be as to what kind of influence are you having upon yourself, by giving up prematurely on the idea of ever having a full blown adult relationship with this man? You have effectively surrendered or conceded that the war has been lost, before the first shot of the first battle has been fired.

You say that you are looking for commitment, and yet you will not voluntarily commit yourself to anything or any person. Isn't it rather early to be asking me to predict still another relationship is in the pipeline when this current one is still a work in progress? What is a "proper" relationship? One which only requires commitment on the part of the man, and not from yourself? What exactly is your type and how do you know for certain that he would not be interested in dating you if you were the one to take the initiative, and approach him first?



If you are disappointed by the man whom the Universe has selected for you, look more closely at your expectations with regards to one person satisfying all of your many different needs at the same time. Could it be that your expectations are completely unrealistic, and that effectively you are looking for the man of your dreams, and not a real living person at all?



Sorry but I will not buy into this argument or excuse for doing nothing to help yourself. There is or are definitely one or more reasons for the way that things are not turning out as they should between you, and unfortunately without being able to read him directly through a third party reading, I feel that much of the responsibility for your relationship not even launching lies squarely on your side of the net.

I am not telling you these uncomfortable truths to negatively criticise you or to make you lose what remaining self confidence you might have, but rather because I truly care about you, both as your reader and as your friend. You are unknowingly making yourself terribly unhappy and anxious and depressed about a relationship which still holds out great promise for the future, if you will only face and deal with your fears in a balanced manner that this man will reject you if you believed in yourself enough to take positive and well thought out action in order to significantly increase your chances that another relationship with another man in the future will not be necessary.

Start as each other's friends or only as companions, then allow things to progress as nature intended when the proper time arrives. You do not need to go out in public first if you are sure that it is safe, but only if you know him well enough to invite him unaccompanied into your house.

PLEASE TAKE SPECIAL NOTICE OF THE ABOVE WARNING IN BOLD PRINT, AS IN SOME SITUATIONS IT COULD HELP SAVE YOUR HONOUR OR EVEN YOUR LIFE.

Watch TV or a DVD together in your home with no pressure on either of you to take the relationship to the next level at this stage.

Relax more and enjoy the company.

Be careful, and have a trusted friend or family member phone you during the day when he is there to see if you are OK.  Don't on the other hand overdo the security and safety measures, or he will feel as if he is on trial or under strict observation, and understandably be frightened off ever coming again. He needs to feel reasonably relaxed as well, to give this a reasonable chance of working.

Blessings,

EoT  

Eye of Tiger, Thank you for replying. May I ask was this a reading or just good counsel?

Because I say he might not want to date me, I guess the impression you get is that I think I'm not good enough for him. While that is true some extent but that is not the reason why I dont want to date him. I love him and I wish the best for him but I dont want to date him, I dont mind just being friends with him. The reason is, he is not a good guy in my opinion. I don't want to get involved with someone like that. I say he might not want to date me because, yes, he has many easy girls around him and he doesn't want a girl like me who constantly tell him to change his ways. I don't want to do that either. That is why I want to move on and be with someone who is right for me.
The reason I ask if I am some kind of an influence on him or whether he is some kind of influence on me is, because, even though i dont want to date him..I wish the best for him. I just want him to make right choices, things that are good for him. I should not judge, that is what the holy book says, so maybe I am wrong in trying to tell him to do the right thing.Perhaps I'm just a wet blanket and nothing more important than that in his life. But because I have his best interest at heart and I am looking out for him even though he clearly says he doesnt need my advice, I feel there is something that makes me want to do that, like a strange connection. It could also be just obsession but I think its something more than that. Also he is much younger than me and so I'm kind of protective. I  beleive even platonic relationships like good friends,can be very transforming. I want to know if he is going to bring some kind of change in me, good or bad. I might know this eventually, a few years down the line perhaps, but for now, I would like know from a psychic whether or not there is some lesson that I have to learn from this boy. And if its possible to know what the lesson might be.

If you do not wish to give me a reading on this relationship, could you please tell me whether the universe is planning to send someone else for me in the near or far future.
Thank you once again.

Eye of Tiger, Thank you for replying. May I ask was this a reading or just good counsel?

It was both a reading and some counsel or friendly advice. Whether or not you feel it was good or useful counsel is your decision alone to make.

Because I say he might not want to date me, I guess the impression you get is that I think I'm not good enough for him.

While it is true that it is felt that your self confidence is low, your reasons for not dating him are much more complex than you thinking that you are not good enough for him. You yourself admit in the next sentence that this is only true to a limited extent, and your reading agrees with your theory.

While that is true some extent but that is not the reason why I dont want to date him. I love him and I wish the best for him but I dont want to date him, I dont mind just being friends with him. The reason is, he is not a good guy in my opinion. I don't want to get involved with someone like that.

Getting involved with someone does not always mean that you must necessarily currently be having a romantic or sexual relationship with them, although it might. You can be deeply involved with someone and remain their good friend only. By saying that you do not want to be or get involved with him, it makes it sound as though you believe that he is not good enough for you. He has too many easy girls around him, and understandably you do not want to be seen by him as yet another one of them.

I can neither directly read nor make an educated guess about exactly what his easy girls are thinking or the many demands they place upon him, but it is my belief that easy girls would be putting more pressure on him to change his ways and to get rid of all their competition in return for their sexual favours. In other words, it is felt that the easy girls or loose women would be significantly more demanding on him when compared to you in making him finally grow up and be a responsible and ethical man. He would expect him prefer to have you around him instead of them precisely because you would not be as constantly demanding of him as the easy girls would most likely be to change his ways for the better, and grow up for a pleasant change. Which makes his unwillingness to want to date you that much more confusing in the light of this fact.

I say he might not want to date me because, yes, he has many easy girls around him and he doesn't want a girl like me who constantly tell him to change his ways. I don't want to do that either. That is why I want to move on and be with someone who is right for me.

You are making many assumptions about what his reasons are for wanting or not wanting you as well as having his easy girls. You assume that he doesn't want a girl like you who constantly tells him to change his ways. Yet the reading is strongly suggesting that the easy girls would be more likely to pressure him into changing than you would be. Have you ever considered the possibility that your assumptions about his motives for wanting or not wanting you as his girlfriend or mind reading attempts are faulty? You may indeed feel that you love him and are doing what is in his best interests by moving on, but our hearts and minds are often in direct conflict with each other when making potentially life changing decisions, so what's new?

The reason I ask if I am some kind of an influence on him or whether he is some kind of influence on me is, because, even though i dont want to date him..

If you get involved with another person, whether it be as each other's friends or as lovers, you cannot fail to influence each other. If you have any type of relationship including a working one with another person, you are both irreversibly and permanently changed by your shared experiences. Why not throw out the word date completely, and replace it with simply wanting to be in each other's company?


I wish the best for him. I just want him to make right choices, things that are good for him. I should not judge, that is what the holy book says, so maybe I am wrong in trying to tell him to do the right thing.

You believe that by moving on you are somehow going to make him make the right choices next time? What are these right choices you would like him to make? Right for you, or right for him, or right for his easy girls? Are you wrong in telling him to do the right thing, when what might be right for him is wrong for all women who become involved with this man?

Perhaps I'm just a wet blanket and nothing more important than that in his life.

If you truly believe that he feels or would feel that way about you, then it is far better for all people concerned for you to move onto someone else. I am beginning to agree more with you with each passing hour that yours is an unhealthy co-dependency mutual obsession, and not love in any shape or form. You deserve much better treatment than he is capable of giving any woman.

But because I have his best interest at heart and I am looking out for him even though he clearly says he doesnt need my advice, I feel there is something that makes me want to do that, like a strange connection. It could also be just obsession but I think its something more than that. Also he is much younger than me and so I'm kind of protective. I  beleive even platonic relationships like good friends,can be very transforming. I want to know if he is going to bring some kind of change in me, good or bad. I might know this eventually, a few years down the line perhaps, but for now, I would like know from a psychic whether or not there is some lesson that I have to learn from this boy. And if its possible to know what the lesson might be.

The main lesson you have to learn from this boy who has not yet grown into being an adult man is NOT to continue to attempt to read their mind about what they are thinking or feeling about you. Some of your assumptions and conclusions might be true or correct, but others might be completely off the mark. You also need to get over the idea that by not being involved with him he is automatically going to begin making better decisions. I feel that you believe that you have a much greater influence over him to make him change his ways for the better, than you actually do

If you do not wish to give me a reading on this relationship, could you please tell me whether the universe is planning to send someone else for me in the near or far future.

I have already given you a reading about this relationship, but you clearly want me to put a rubber stamp on your decision to move on or to confirm that your impressions about him were correct right from the start. A psychic reading cannot do either of these in your place. I also cannot make your decision. If you are looking for any of the above through a reading, then I wish you well in doing so as readings were never designed for what you are expecting them to do in place of you exercising your God given gift of free will.

This is all which I am prepared to say about this subject and reading, as in all fairness there are other members who also need my help, and this forum is not for lengthy discussions or debating about the exact meaning of each element included in your reading.

Thank you once again.

You are welcome!

God speed,

EoT  

Eye of Tiger,

I think you misunderstand me everytime. I agree I was not clear in my first post as to why I dont want to date this boy therefore gave an impression that I think I am not good enough. When you suggested that I make a move rather than giving up before trying, I wrote back sayin I cannot and do not want to date someone who I think is not a good guy.  You took my response as disagreeing with your advice and probably took offense also, when that is not the case at all. I am only trying to explain as best as i can to help you understand the real question. It is very hard to write over the internet in a forum where hundreds of people read what we write..I cannot write what exactly he is doing wrong that makes me think he is a bad buy. Yes there are easy girls but he is not someone who gets pressured by those easy girls. When i said easy girls I said there are a lot of girls out there who dont judge him like i do and so he has many choices. When i said he is a bad guy i dont mean he is sleeping with every girl out there. Like I said its hard to write on the internet.
I also said i know i should not judge. By moving on, i meant leaving him make his own choices and learn from his own mistakes and just be there for him when he needs me.

I didn't understand your last reply. Are you implying he is wrong for me and that I'm hopelessly in love with someone who treats me badly. You said you gave me a reading in your first post where you asked me to be more confident and make a move and then you say in your next post that i am only obsessed with this person an he is wrong for me. This is confusing. Which one is the reading? Yes, I know he is wrong for me, that wasn't the question. I wrote that in my original post. I am not his type and he is not my type. I am a good girl with good values..and he is not so bad..but not what  a good girl wants. He doesn't treat me badly. He tells me he doesnt need my advice, i dont consider that as treating me badly..but yes, i wish he listened to me.
I thought you just gave me advice thinking I am not confident enough to make a move, which is not the case  but I did appreciate you taking the time to reply and also gave you further background.