I'm thinking about meeting up with an old friend, what am asking is, should i do it or am I asking for trouble?

With due respect there is so far not enough information on which I could build a useful reading.

There are friends and then there are FRIENDS, if you know what I mean.

One of the main source of any problems which you may encounter when meeting an old friend after many years of being apart is that the person whom you will be meeting in the present and the image of the person which you are carrying around with you in your head from all that time ago are probably so different that you will find it extremely difficult to believe that this is the same person whom you once knew. And your old friend (male or female) would probably be thinking exactly the same thing about you.

But I am probably getting ahead of myself before your reading even begins. Could you please provide some basic background information to make my task a significantly easier one than it is now?

I am especially interested to hear why you feel that going to meet your old friend should be a problem at all.

Since I cannot under the forum rules read this person directly by way of a third party reading, I will have to depend on you providing me with some useful and relevant information about your old friend in return for the favour I am doing in what are always felt to be your best interests.

EoT

Well its been many of years since i saw this person and I've used the  wrong word as in "meeting", I meant more as in connecting my old friend, since i know where my old friend lives at now.. We had a up and down friendship in high school, but even to this day, i still miss my old friend and I still kinda feel strongly connected to my friend. I never flet i got the ending that i wanted, cause things did kinda end on a bad note and i just dont wanna weird  out my friend  and really make my self look bad by connecting my friend..... my friend is Pisces by the way... Or should I just leave it in the past..

Star,

Whether or not you should leave things in the past depends heavily on why you ended your friendship on such a bad note all those years ago, and who was it exactly who decided to end it. You know where your old friend lives, but does your old friend know where you live, and if so has he made any attempt to contact you within the last year with the stated intention to bury the hatchet and restore peace and harmony between you to its former glory? And the really big question is with regards to how your old friend will be likely to respond if you either phoned him or turned up at his front door with little or no warning.

As I already mentioned in the lead up to this reading, which has only been confirmed by what I am picking up on now, the main decider as to whether this attempt by you to heal old wounds has an above average chance of success  is centered in your expectations about what you are likely to realistically achieve in return for all your efforts in this direction.

If you do not expect your first meeting after all this time apart to achieve anything beyond simply bringing each other up to date with regards to any important changes or developments between now and way back then, then I see little potential harm in giving it a fair trial. Your subconscious now that it has prompted you to get back in contact once more with your high school friend is not going to let you rest until you make the first contact, preferably person to person instead of through the telephone or over the internet.

My impressions are that being able to leave this all in the past is not an option that you would even consider. You are I feel one of those people who will not let this issue rest, until you are fully satisfied that you have tried every method which you can think of, and have done your very best to pour soothing and calming oil upon troubled and turbulent waters. Be careful not to unintentionally ask for trouble by bringing up subjects from your shared past which could easily inflame and escalate what is already a sensitive situation. Keep to the main subject of your conversation (getting your friendship back on track once more), as much as it is humanly possible.

Just going with the cards this time, the Ace of Cups (AOC) tells me that there is a healed relationship between the both of you in the making (your cup runneth over with both love and good wishes), but that if you go into this with unrealistic expectations and are unwilling to let go of of the conflicts of the past when it comes to having to do so to be able to continue to move forwards with your life old friend or no old friend, then your reading is saying for you to use all reasonable caution but go straight ahead with the intention to test your theory that all along your old friend always hoped to be able to see you again, but merely lacked the available time.



Most people do not. Hasn't it been said more than once before that life is often what happens to us while we are busily making other plans. If you do not face and deal in a balanced and progressive manner with the issues which lead to you drifting apart many years before then the past will come back to bite you on the behind, torpedoing even your best efforts to restore peace and harmony, where there was once only conflict and bad feelings all round.

In order to connect or re-connect with your old friend, you must first find out precisely why you lost that connection, and learn much of lasting value from your mistakes. Connection works both ways. If your old school friend is unprepared to dredge up these emotional issues one more time and examine them in the harsh light of day, then there is very little that you could do beyond what you are already doing to force him to return to being your friend as if nothing had ever happened to rock your friendship boat.

Worth the attempt, but certainly falling far short of any guarantees that it will work, or any suggestion that it might not. Have your contingency plans handy, just in case everything goes belly up during the final hours of your friendship rescue attempt.

Take good care of yourself,

EoT

thanks for the reading again, you rock... I dont think am going to be connecting my old friend at all, maybe life will place my friend in the right place some day, but its best left alone for right now......