Sindy,
N is the older of the two men by a few years.
Got it!.
While age is a relative thing, this information helps to get clear in my mind exactly with regards to whom the reading is referring at any time.
Effectively according to your reading you are being offered the unenviable choice between the benefits of experience and security if you decide to either begin or continue any relationship with N, and on the other hand a life which holds more potential for you gaining a greater understanding of yourself and your abilities.
I do not know whether or not N is still in another relationship, but I do get a distinct feeling that he would bring considerable negative emotional baggage with him if you do decide that he is worth getting to know even better and keep going. There are also some unresolved emotional attachments here between N and another woman whose exact identity is hidden from me in this reading. It could be an ex wife, ex girlfriend or perhaps his own mother (I am not suggesting incest, but she could still have a considerable negative influence over both of you, if you allow her to interfere with what are only your decisions to make).
N might honestly believe that whatever the problem is that he has successfully and once and for all put all of this behind him, but I unfortunately do not feel that he has seen the last of it yet. This probably comes over to you as though I am suggesting that N is not worth pursuing, or that by going with him you could be unknowingly spoiling the life which you could have had if you had instead chosen the younger S.
If I had picked that it was felt that either of these were true, then your decision would be a no brainer, and I would not then be wasting my time and energy attempting to give you a balanced picture of the two men if S was your only option. If or when these unresolved issues and emotional attachments (and possibly legal and financial as well), then for experience and long term security, N is the man for you by a long way.
Having or achieving anything important to us in our lives necessarily involves us taking risks. The secret is not to avoid taking any risks, but rather it is to minimise and make what risks we do take planned or calculated ones. N could potentially after most of his emotional issues are under control provide you with a life which is secure, safe, relatively predictable and conventional where you would not often be required to move outside of your personal comfort zone. If you want stability and comfort and a feeling of protection, this would be the life and man for you.
But if you are looking for some more variety, adventure and challenge and having a good time, then S is definitely the better of the two men, as long as he is older than you are. Hopefully by now he has got most of the wandering urge out of his system and is ready to settle down with one woman. His wilder years are now behind him, and though it has often been rough for him, and like everyone else he has made his mistakes, he appears to have learned valuable lessons from his younger days that could make him an excellent partner for the right woman (who could be you). He does not have as much life experience going for him when compared to N's, but what he does have could encourage and inspire you to be more assertive and self confident in not having to always remain in your partner's shadow.
While N might see your longing to stand up for your own right to decide what is in your best interests as some sort of threat to his masculinity and male dominance, S would not feel in any way threatened and actually could be what you are needing for your optimum growth and development as both a spiritual and human being. S has I feel much more of an understanding of and respect for you as a person in your own right, and not merely someone who does what she is told, and remains permanently in her partner's shadow.
But the downside of all this new freedom to be whom you truly are deep inside and still be loved by a man comes with a price (what's new?). The price which you must pay if you do choose S in front of N is that life could be much more unpredictable, and by taking these extra risks you could be making yourself more vulnerable both emotionally and financially to life's inevitable ups and downs. Does S earn his living through commission only?
The purpose of this reading is NOT to make the decision between S and N in your place. These insights into the two men as well as into the very different life which you could ultimately be living if you chose one over the other are ONLY to be used in combination with relevant information gained from non intuitive/non psychic sources towards you making your mind up about with whom you feel is the right and best man for you. I have given you food for thought, but you are the only person who can digest its contents and meaning, and then apply it to your love life. Your reading paints a picture of two men with two very different personalities and approaches to women in general, and in the end the decision as to which of the men you will have a relationship with must be yours alone.
Your reading ends with the footnote that if N takes longer to put most of his past issues and attachments behind him than you are willing to wait, then the decision could be easily taken out of your hands, and S will be your remaining choice. In other words if N does not fairly quickly get his emotional, legal and financial house in order, he could very well lose you to S forever, by default.
Hoping that this reading in some small way helps you to decide between N and S. You have obviously already been hurt several times in your past relationships with other men, and are therefore understandably hesitant to make any decision which does not come with a 100% guarantee that your feelings will never be hurt again. Unfortunately nothing or nobody on this planet comes with such a rock, solid guarantee as the one which you are seeking.
In its absence, you need to weigh up and balance the advantages and disadvantages of each of the men in turn, then use your two written lists to help you decide between them. It might sound too cold and clinical for you to use this method, but it may be the only way for you to make a wise choice without allowing your intense emotions to get the better of your powers of good judgement. Take more notice of your lists than what you may be feeling at the moment with this potentially life changing decision.
But do not on the other hand totally ignore or deny your feelings about the two men.
To do so could be a recipe for disaster.
80% to the lists when compared to 20% your feelings about N and S, is the suggested loading as a basis for making your final decision.
Take good care of yourself,
EoT
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