Hi,
Welcome to Mystic Board.
Please let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. It is still such a short time and so your pain and hurt will still be very raw and your grief very new. You need to take time and forgive yourself and become more acceptable of the changes this has meant to your life.
Often our loved ones come to us in a dream. We are relaxed and receptive and our sub-conscious mind is able to take over and allow us to interact without too much pain, the pain comes when we wake and realise it was a dream. I am sure that the last thing Phoebe would want is for you to be so upset and hurting. Life is a circle we are born, we grow, and then we pass on. At times like this it is our beliefs that can come to our aid and keep us strong.
Maybe try and ask what the dream is about but I am sure that deep down inside you already know the inner meaning of it.
Sending you many hugs,
Cassie x