Dear Songstress,

It sounds to me from your request that your love life is currently completely up in the air as to me predicting in which direction it is most likely to move in the future. There are important choices to be made by you between at least two different men who are competing for your affection, but neither of your options is anything approaching ideal. Am I right in sensing that these two men do not yet know about each other, as I am picking up some degree of guilt with you with reference to keeping both of them in the dark at the moment while you are still making make your comparison?

And the fact that you seem not to be yet in a mutually committed relationship with either of them is only likely o make any such predictions unreliable at best, and less than useless at worst. If only I were able and allowed to directly read each man's thoughts and intentions towards you via a third party reading, then I would feel much more confident to be able to more fully advise you as to where this is ultimately leading, or if indeed either of these relationships still in the making is likely to survive over the longer term.

The Eight of Swords which was your main theme card for this month's reading strongly suggests to me that you are feeling trapped or highly restricted by your situation and that you are unable to see a relatively easy way out of your present predicament. On the face of this particular card a young maiden is blindfolded with both her hands tied tightly behind her back with a rope which to a large extent is not of her own making or her fault.

The large pools of liquid accumulating on the ground near her feet are thought to represent the negative effects that her confusion is having upon her emotional balance. It really looks as though she has already shed many tears because of her current plight, but either one or both of these men are it seems completely oblivious to or totally unaware of how much this is affecting her on more than one level at a time.

When each of us are encountering challenges in a specific area of our lives, the damaging effects often spread into or bleed over into other areas where up until recently things had been going reasonably smoothly, and without any significant obstacles being placed in our path. Your reading is perhaps referring to the potential negative impact that all of this sadness and confusion in your love life could be having on your ability to earn your daily living, or to do your job well and on time.  

Contrary to the mistaken impression that you may be getting that there is no way out of this predicament without having your self confidence in matters of the heart destroyed in the process, this card is basically saying that the most obvious solution is presently staring you squarely in the face, but you are either unaware that it exists, or keep deliberately putting off having to decide once and all between these two men, because you do not want to run the real risk that in the end you may lose both of them.

Procrastinating indefinitely between these two suitors at least leaves the door open for you to possibly continue to have a relationship with them further down the road, but you are feeling that once your choice has been made that there can be no going back and retracing your steps to select the other option (which it is your right to do so).

But over the longer term, putting off your decision for a tomorrow which never arrives is only calculated to cause much more negative emotional fallout and devastation, when compared to if you had made your mind up and had gone with your gut feelings with regards to which of the two men is best for you in the first place. Making no decision is equivalent to making a decision to remain unhappy, and I have observed in my on life that when procrastination is allowed to become a regular habit, my anxiety about making a serious mistake when I really have to finally which of the two options I most prefer only greatly increases as time moves forwards.

Yes there is always the risk that if you choose A over B (or B over A), that some of the possible consequences may not be as pleasant as you had expected  or hoped for, but the risks to your self confidence and feeling that you are lovable by continually putting off your decision until a day which never comes are undoubtedly of a much greater magnitude.

While it is difficult for me to tell you with any useful degree of certainty whether man A or man B is the right one for you, I can confidently predict that the longer you go on procrastinating and delaying having to make your mind up about which of them is your man, the more difficult it is going to quickly become hen you are eventually forced to decide one way or the other. Even the emotional survival strategy of constantly delaying your decision has a use by shelf date.

If you do not decide, then either of or both of the men will take it upon themselves to make the decision on your behalf, and usually in his own best interests, instead of your own. Do not permit this to happen under any condition, as the result to your ability to love yourself will be anything but pleasant or comfortable. You do not have to necessarily make your decision today, but you do have to decide within the next six months thought to be covered by a reading of the type given by me to you on this forum.

God bless,

EoT

Well I decided between man A and B.  Things were revealed the choice quite clear.  Then man C appeared and stirred up some trouble.  I'm trying to get it all sorted as I will be moving at the end of November.  I was clear with man C about what I wanted, but he doesn't seem to care.  Thank you for your reading.  I will be spending some more time processing it all.

While I am pleased to hear that you have decided between man A and B, things were revealed sounds somewhat ominous in possibly suggesting that that either of them dropped out of the race because you discovered something about him which convinced you once and for all that choosing him would be a decision that you could quickly come to regret having made.

Possibly in stirring up things man C actually did you a great service, although it seemed like anything but being a good service at the time to you. It may have indirectly brought things to a head, faster than they would have otherwise. Doing this would give you less available time to procrastinate and imagine everything which could potentially go wrong as a result of having made your mind up between A and B.

I am hardly surprised that you might feel the need to take some extra time to more fully process the information contained within your reading, although since you have already decided between the two men, much of it is now irrelevant and should not be seen as a reason for you changing your mind once again.

Remember that this reading was given before you had decided, to help you to decide.  In the end the decision must always be your own. Now that you have made it, the reading should not be used to overturn it, as it was never intended to do this. It is your life to live as you best see fit to do so, and consequently your decision to make and not mine.

I will not feel in any way put out or offended if you do not further process the information in your reading. Its intended purpose to assist you in deciding between man A and man B has already been achieved. Let it go, and focus your energies solely upon making this relationship which you have chosen work as well as it possibly can.

I wish you both increased health, happiness and success in your own terms of what you regard as the meaning of the word success.

Take care,

EoT