Hello,
I would like a general reading.I am undergoing emotional changes and healing right now. I would like an overview about it and how my life is turning out.

Thank you,

D

Hey Dhav,

Just to remind you that a general reading is one where it is left entirely up to the reader's inner guidance to decide what it is felt is most important and/or urgent for you to know at this moment in time. This means that although it is possible that the reading will cover the main areas of interest included in your request, this can not by any means be guaranteed.



As readings of the type given by me on this forum are thought to apply to the period of the next six months or so after your request, what I wrote in your reading in May of this year (link provided above) is still essentially unfolding or developing.

The most relevant part of your reading was as follows............

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It is primarily high time for you to begin breaking out of the controlling box that people around you continue to put you in with the intention to stop you from rocking their boat. It is a time for you to assert your own right to choose what is in your best interests career and relationship wise, without being nasty about it.  29 years is not the end of the road for either of these important life areas, but it could be if you allow people to push you around or into a job or relationship which is just not you.

To increasingly assert or stand up more for your own right to live your life as you best see fit to do so and to gain a greater sense of being in control over your life will continue to be the main challenge for you at least until the middle of November (six months on from May 15th).

So when you ask me for a general overview about it and how your life is turning out, you are basically asking for a progress report about how far you have moved in the direction between the 15th of May and now of gradually becoming more assertive with people close to you, without at the same time becoming overly impatient or aggressive with them, and as a result doing or saying something that you may ultimately live to regret saying or doing (but may not be able to easily if at all reverse the damage caused by it).

In order to measure your progress in becoming more assertive without at the same time becoming angry, stubborn and completely unwilling to listen to any advice from other people with the best of intentions to help you, we need something to compare it with. One of the most effective ways to destroy your self confidence is to fall into the very common trap of comparing your progress against what you see as being the progress made by other important people in your life.

This type of negative approach turns your life into an endless competition where you are continuously measuring your perceived achievements or failures against others and will always come up short of reaching them because they are their standards and not yours. You would therefore be far better off competing with yourself, rather than someone who is not you.

With this in mind, your reading is comparing your rate of progress in achieving these goals against what the rate was during the six months leading up to your May reading. When we use that method of measuring your rate of progress the result is positively dramatic to say the least. Would you believe that the rate has actually increased by a factor of between 3 and 5 times when compared to what it was before May?

Yet if you had stayed with the old self confidence destroying method of comparing your rate of progress with someone else's, the answer would have probably been relatively small or hardly noticeable. What you might view as being your significant progress might be seen by another person as not being anything to get excited about, but so what? If you live your life trying to be someone other than whom you are deep inside (your true self), you will never be more than a pale imitation or second rate copy of that person.

Wouldn't it be far better for you to try to be the best type of person whom you are capable of becoming? Nobody in this world is better qualified to be you and to better learn what you are capable of achieving when you put your body, mind and spirit completely into your efforts to become a better person overall, when compared to yourself. In summary this reading is a gentle warning which you can block your ears to at your own peril.

Comparing your progress in any area of your life to what you may see as being the progress made by others is poisonous or harmful to your self confidence and fighting spirit. It is far better to measure your progress against what your progress was earlier, but at the same time recognising that progress is rarely linear (in a straight line going up), and that there will continue to be bad days where you might incorrectly start believing that any progress you thought you had previously made was just an illusion. Your life and your progress through life is just as much about the journey, as it will ever be about your destination.

Forget about being "perfect" (under your own terms of the meaning of that word), and aim instead for up to 90%. Making yourself sick with worry in order to bridge the remaining 10% gap is simply not worth all the trouble and extra stress which this would necessarily involve.

Be kind to yourself and to those people whom you love (and who love you in return),

EoT

Hello Eye of Tiger,

I think I forgot to submit my reply. Sorry for delaying in replying as I was busy and sometimes I needed time. My life has progressed comparing to the reading of May 2011 but nevertheless I got to work on many things right now. I feel I can fall back to where I was. Thank you for your prompt reading,

See ya soon,

Lights of love,
Dhav

Hi Dhav,

Please do not concern yourself any further about the unavoidable delay which you encountered in responding to my earlier reading.

Saying that your life has significantly progressed or moved on over the last six months is felt by your friend and your reader to be a gross understatement of the truth.

With due respect the exact person who typed that posting in May of this year, effectively no longer exists.

It is as though your life has undergone a total transformation to the point that it would be impossible for you to recognise just how far you have come towards achieving your main life goals in such a relatively short time.

I know that you have yet to request your next reading from me, but I cannot turn my intuition off on demand, and make believe that I am not picking up impressions about you when you are not actually requesting a reading.

In other words I really cannot help being a reader, even when I am not formally giving a reading. It is now such a big part of who I am as a person and above all as your friend, that by turning it off other than during emergencies or when my energies are running dangerously low, I would seriously risk losing the real ME.

I always look forward to reading for and helping you in any possible way I am able to at the time. Your absence only makes our hearts grow ever fonder of you.





http://www.friendship.com.au/quotes/quonew.html

EoT

Dear EoT,

I am deeply touched by yous last post. To make it easier for the reader part of you, can you give me a reading?

Thank you,

Lights of Love,

D.