We are still waiting for my wife's treatment to begin and while her symptoms are not getting any better (they cannot be expected to at this stage), we both seem remarkably calm for two people who are normally chronic worriers and panic merchants.

Our responses are totally inconsistent with what we would have done if this had happened to us even five years ago.

I cannot be sure about this, but there are so many people like yourself from all over the world sending us their positive healing thoughts and prayers, that maybe it is the combined power of those prayers which are currently at work in our lives, helping us to remain calm and strong in the face of what her doctors might tell us is the long term outlook for M's remaining quality and quantity of life.

Your honest feedback did wonders for my self confidence. It is very revealing of your constant and ongoing need to feel needed and to help and to heal others, often at the expense of not at least getting some of your equally important needs met at the same time.

Here is one of my favorite books on assertiveness training. If you have not already read it, then I would strongly suggest that you should get a copy of it, and study it as soon as possible with the intention to stop your largely unconscious healing work from draining you so much.

"When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" by Manuel J. Smith Ph.D. 1975 [Bantam USA]

Also do some personal research on the internet to discover the important differences between SPIRITUAL HEALING and MAGNETIC HEALING. It is my feeling that you are unconsciously doing too much of the latter, and draining yourself unnecessarily as a result.

Doctors treat, but God heals.

EoT  

Hello EoT,

I hope your wife is doing well an I am sure she is a fighter. I tried to learn about the books and the description it gave about someone 'who feels guilty after saying no', sounds like me. I will try to find the book and buy it. I hope it will be able to help me out. Will keep you updated.

Keep well,
Lights of Love,

D.

I will of course be holding you to that promise. lol

And to keep you personally updated in return concerning my wife M's progress, both her radiotherapy and chemotherapy treatments started on the same day of Monday December 19th, and she is now doing remarkably well in both my opinion, as well as that of her doctors.

I will try to post any future updates under my thread at the top of the forum on a regular basis over the next few months until well after her surgery, to remove the need to update everyone individually.



L&L,

EoT