Hello again 2U my good friend,
Because your updated request was not posted as a new topic, I nearly missed giving it to you, and fortunately just noticed that I had overlooked it amongst all the others. Effectively the fact that you are in a homosexual relationship changes nothing. A long distance relationship either with a woman or another man still has much the same challenges to be faced and hopefully overcome by both partners.
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| he's invited me to move cities as well to work and live closer to him. |
This depends largely on what closer exactly means to you. Yes I know that you would be living and working in the same city as him, but are you talking about living regularly under the same roof with him, as it felt that this arrangement would be an excellent recipe for disaster and the beginning of the end of your relationship with each other for all time?
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| He's a good guy who's sooooooo in love with me, and I am with him too, but I sometimes feel that we're not really a good match, we share a lot in common but what we don't have in common we seem to stand in extreme opposites. |
It appears that you already have a good idea about to what your reading is referring, when it suggests that you living too close to each other on a daily basis would soon drive you both crazy and further apart from each other each day you are living in each others pockets. In so many ways you are so similar in your interests and likes and dislikes, but in others you are poles apart or at the extreme opposite ends of the spectrum.
If you were the one who was to move to the city where he is already living and working, and your arrangement and relationship did not survive the challenges being placed upon them (and there is nothing in your reading that definitely says that it will or must fail), would you be able to move back to where you came from and be likely to get a job with a similar income in your field of expertise, within a reasonable period of time? In other words does moving to his city necessarily mean that you must burn all your bridges behind you, or place yourself in a financial and emotional black hole if your relationship which is no longer so long distance any more, stalled then eventually became terminal and unrecoverable?
If the move to his city does not burn every single remaining bridge behind you and leave you with no well paying job or emotional and financial support network to fall back upon if things get rough, I would accept his invitation, but only under your conditions. As long as closer does not mean in the same house or apartment 24/7, or in adjacent city blocks or local government areas, I feel that you need to give it a fair trial as not doing so could force you to live a life full of regrets for not having enough courage and respect for yourself and love for him to find out for sure if it just might have worked.
I sense that the best arrangement would be for you to live at least 10 to 15 miles apart, and visit each other as a guest for one night, and the following day after that at the most. Living together for much longer than that would cause you to keep getting in each others way, and could possibly lead to serious arguments about exactly who is pulling their weight in your relationship, and making a real effort to compromise now and then.
Putting you together with each other in a confined space for more than 36 consecutive hours at a time would be the equivalent of lighting a match in a room full of highly unstable explosives. It would not be a matter of if it would explode, but rather when it would be most likely to explode between you.
As long as a reasonable distance between you most of the time with relatively short guest visits to each others place of residence in between working continues to be observed, as well as the other conditions which I have already referred to above, I feel that your relationship does have an above average chance of lasting the first six months after one of you has moved to the other city.
Beyond that six months period, or if these conditions are not taken any notice of, your guess is as good as mine. To a large extent what happens during those first six months after one of you has moved to be closer to your partner will determine whether your relationship will last the distance. Logically there will continue to be challenges or obstacles placed in your path, but do not significantly reduce any chances of it working reasonably well by allowing your passionate love for him to get in the way of your good judgement or gut feelings.
Your intuition is working well and can be relied upon when it warns you that in some ways you are not the most perfect of matches personality wise, but this is not to be used as a valid reason or excuse for you both prematurely going your own separate ways. That is prematurely going your own separate ways BEFORE you have first given this move idea as well as the both of you a reasonable trial period and fair chance to make it work, under the terms and conditions described within the above reading.
Not a green GO light.
Not a red STOP light.
Your reading is giving your planned move and future relationship with him an amber or dark yellow PROCEED WITH SENSIBLE CAUTION traffic light.
You will need to have one or more backup or contingency plans handy, as a sensible and responsible precaution or insurance buffer against a possibility which you might not want to think or talk about, but for which you must be prepared regardless of what things appear to be like between you on the surface.
Be kind to yourself and to each other, wherever you are both living and loving at the time.
Namaste,
EoT
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