Hi,
I need some guidance in my love life. Would like to know what is felt about S or D?

Sindy,

If you are as I believe you are asking us to directly read these two men whose names are respectively S and D with the intention to help you decide which of them would make the most suitable partner, this would be a third party reading which none of the readers on Mystic boards are allowed to give you under the forum rules (knowing that in the past you have asked for another reader to take your requests, instead of myself).

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12. Please do not ask for readings for others or third party readings as this is strictly against Mystic Board’s policies. Instead ask the person to join Mystic Board themselves, once they have contributed to the community by posting and introducing themselves they are much more likely to receive a successful reading in return.

Having said that I cannot imagine that either S or D are likely to themselves become MB members and personally request a reading from us any time soon.

Could I please suggest possibly as a more useful alternative that I could simply give you a general reading in place of a third party one, but one which focuses mainly upon the nature of any close relationships which you might have during the next six months?

Then I will leave it entirely up to you to decide which of the two men presently on offer is more suitable according to your own criteria as to what positive qualities you are looking for, and what negative qualities you could not accept in your man.

Kindest regards,

EoT  

OK THEN

Sindy,

The Ten of Wands which was your focus card for this month's general reading suggests to me the next six months or so are going to be heavily involved with you getting a huge emotional load off your shoulders, and working even more than ever before on your closest relationships with others. And these close relationships may or may not include a romantic one with either S or D.

I do feel that you are still carrying around with you beliefs and attitudes towards men which come from your upbringing and probably from your mother or even grandmother, and that these beliefs and attitudes are tending to get in the way of you being able to make this decision as effectively and quickly as you would prefer to be able to.

It is difficult for me to tell you from one reading exactly what these beliefs and attitudes were or are, but I suspect that they were both unwritten and largely unspoken by this significant parent figure during your earlier years. In other words these beliefs and attitudes towards men were only implied by the way in which this woman in your life related to men, and to a certain extent your own beliefs and attitudes followed hers, possibly without either of you consciously being ware that this was happening.

The gentleman farmer on the face of this particular Tarot card is carrying a large and heavy burden or load made of a bundle of 10 long poles or wands upon his shoulders, and is straining and bending under the load. It is as though he is trying his best to take all the world's problems on his own capable but limited shoulders as if he was completely and solely responsible for solving them single handedly and by yesterday.

He is seriously overloading himself with a deep sense of guilt and responsibilities which do not belong to him (they belong to someone else), and added to his own problems and responsibilities it is heavily weighing him down and is reducing any progress which he could otherwise make to a virtual crawl.

It could well be that this authority/parent figure in your life received her attitudes and beliefs about men from her own parents or a guardian, and that she has then unintentionally passed them in turn onto you.

If you could work out what these attitudes and beliefs are which are currently preventing you from being able to make your mind up between S or D (perhaps with the help of this parent figure if she is still living), I feel that your chances of being able to make a wise decision between the two men on offer to you would be seriously increased as a direct result of having more fully identify and deal in a balanced manner with your "inherited" and largely negative beliefs and attitudes towards men.

It appears from what I am hearing during your reading that you will eventually be successful at breaking through many but not all of these these mind barriers of yours towards men, but I cannot say with any reasonable level of certainty whether or not you will largely free yourself of your heavy emotional burden, during the next six months commonly accepted to be covered by the type of reading given on this forum by yours truly.

I sense that once you start making some real and lasting progress towards freeing yourself permanently of these attitudes and beliefs, that decisions like the one which you have now between S and D will automatically become much easier and clear cut when compared to how hard and confusing they are at present.

Without being able to go down the third party reading road, I am hesitant to further influence your decision. If you decide to either go ahead with S or D and the relationship does not for some reason go as well as you hoped that it might (nothing in the reading says that it must fail), put aside your need to always be right. We often learn far more of lasting value about ourselves from our relatively minor failures than we ever do from our life's major victories.

If it does not ultimately work out with one of these men, then it is always your choice and right to change your mind and go out with the other man instead.  If you wait until the decision is a 100% clear cut and dry one, you could be unknowingly robbing yourself of a valuable opportunity to prove once and for all that these self sabotaging beliefs or attitudes towards men have little basis in reality with these men, or this man specifically.

Not all men deserve to be tarred with the same critical brush or feathered, as the bad and manipulative ones definitely are?  Many men are still genuinely into forming close relationships with others mainly for love. Not all men are chauvinistic, insensitive and out to only get their next one night stand, but there are some who do make me feel ashamed and embarrassed to also be called a man.

EoT