Hi im Sonia and Would be really grateful if someone can give me some clarity and guidence about my boyfriend and whats going on with our relationship.

Also My boyfriend recently told me that he would like me, him and my 13 year old daughter to leave our current house and move 121 miles away to his hometown and start a fresh.
Im confused and not sure if this will be beneficial to our relationship and my daughter. Should we stay or should we go?

My boyfriends name is Danny Mair.
D.O.B 29th August 1988.

My D.O.B 11th March 1981.

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Welcome Sonia,

As much as I would like to, I cannot give you guidance about or directly read your boyfriend's thoughts and intentions towards you on this forum , as this would constitute a third party reading, which is not allowed to be given on these Mystic Boards.



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Also it is not our role to tell you what you should or should not do. In the end the decision must always remain your own. Your situation is significantly complicated by you at the same time having your 13 year old daughter under your care and protection.

My initial negative impressions about the safety and wisdom of you and your daughter having to move 121 miles away to his hometown and in the process leaving behind her school and your and her friends and support network were only confirmed by this reading.

In order to achieve anything which feels important to us in our lives, we must often take risks. The secret however is to minimise those risks and make them as much as is humanly possible calculated or planned ones. I believe that the risks to both you and your daughter if your relationship with Danny does not ultimately work out as well as you hoped or expected that it might are high, but that if you do not burn too many bridges behind you and you have one or more backup or contingency plans in place, then I feel based only upon this reading (so be careful using this advice) that it could be workable. I would advise you to have a plan B, C or even a D in reserve to fall back on, if for some unforeseen reason Danny gets cold feet about making such a major commitment to both your daughter and yourself.

I would respectfully suggest that only his first name should be posted on the board (you can remove his surname easily using the edit button) for security and privacy purposes. No personally identifying information must be posted. There are however plenty of Sonias and Dannys in this world, so it is OK to leave them right where they are.

Having once been a school teacher myself, I think that this move could not come at a worse time for your daughter's development into a young woman, and for her education. She will need to leave her school and her friends behind, and adapt to a new school and new friends in his hometown. If she at the same time has difficulty forming and keeping friends, then her ability to cope is going to be sorely tested. Being 13 years old is tough enough for any girl or boy when their situation is secure and they are not moving, but the question is as to whether or not you feel that her interests are being equally taken into account by Danny.

Although I cannot read Danny directly as I explained above, my feelings about him indirectly through his relationship with the woman who requested this reading are that he does have a genuine affection for the both of you (for you as a a prospective mate and your daughter as her father - I am not suggesting anything improper here about how he would most likely relate to your daughter), but I really do not feel that he has thoroughly thought this all through and considered the longer term consequences of what he is asking you to do. Does your daughter get any say in this? Has he tried to gauge her fears and doubts as well as yours, about what he is wanting you both to do, without at the same time showing that he is responsible enough to accept such consequences?

Who is going to or being forced to start afresh by moving back to his hometown? Surely he would normally be wanting to not still be too close to his parents or siblings, and establish his family at a reasonable distance away from them so that they can be contacted if needed, but not be living in your pockets and interfere in what is only your and Danny's business to know and decide for yourselves. I must admit that this is just another potentially worrying part of the picture.

Does he need the extra security of being close to his family (possible), or is he planning to use them to make you do what they want you to? In other words to force you into a position which is next to impossible for you to reverse. You would have no house or anything to go back to, if it did not work out. Are you currently employed? Even if you only work part time or casual, this gives you a degree of financial independence. In his hometown will you be able to get a similar job with the same or more pay, or is he one of those men who believes that a woman does not belong in the work place?

I know that I have far more questions than answers about what is really happening by him asking so much of you now, but unless most or all of them are answered to your satisfaction by Danny and yourself sitting down together somewhere and communicating your thoughts and feelings about the move in an honest and open manner, your reading's advice is NOT to move.

Or at the very least the advice it is NOT to move YET.

According to how mature and emotionally capable your daughter is of being part of adult decision making (and only her mother can judge this), it is felt that she should be as much as is felt possible or advisable included in your discussion. Find out what her feelings are first, in order to help you get your own feelings clearer in your own mind, before deciding?

And please be careful as the decision to make such a major change and take such a major series of risks, should never be based ONLY on a psychic reading. The insights or information or advice contained within your reading must only be used in combination with information gained from other non intuitive, professional and non professional sources, with the positive intention to make your eventual decision the best all round one, for all three of you.

Make a fully as possible informed decision about the big move, although if you wait indefinitely for 100% of the relevant information to come in and be processed, you would never do anything. Remember that you need to balance the risks associated with making this transition against the potential gains and losses, both for you and for your beloved daughter.

THEN DECIDE!!!!

Namaste,

EoT