Message read and understood.

You are presently coming out of or are currently in the process of recovering from or psychologically surviving a failed relationship. Each person's method and rate of grieving or mourning for the "death" of a relationship which once held such promise but sadly failed to deliver it, is essentially unique to him or her. And you did not mention how long ago this happened. I am therefore assuming for the purposes of this reading that the relationship finally fell apart within the previous six month period to this.

So now you are looking to the future with much anxiety and apprehension and hesitation to allow your feelings to be hurt ever again, Because you are in the early stages of your self healing, your nerves are raw and you are unknowingly wearing your heart upon your sleeve on a daily basis, where it is extremely vulnerable to attracting further emotional trauma.

You are understandably of two minds (for your heart has a mind of its own) about whether or not to once again accept and take the real risks which are always associated with offering your heart to yet another man, but to be loved and valued and respected for being the person whom we already are is possibly our greatest spiritual need and therefore you feel strongly attracted to getting back into the water too early and fast for your heart to properly adapt to its new surroundings.

You may recover faster and more completely than the average person does from such an emotional ordeal in six months, or you may instead take longer to reach the same point. There is no way based upon this one isolated reading that I can tell you for certain to which of the two groups you belong.

My impressions are that your self healing progress will be faster in some areas than it is in others. It will often be one step forwards, closely followed by two steps backwards. There will be both good and bad days. Your only source of enduring hope is that as time moves forwards the good days will become more frequent, and the bad days will come further apart until they are more of an exception, rather than them being the general rule.

Now there is no easy way for you to get around this grieving process or bypass it completely. I know that you will be a stronger woman at the end of it, but that is probably of little interest or comfort to you while you are still in the thick of things. To be completely honest and upfront with you about what I am hearing are your realistic chances of starting another relationship before mid January, anything is in theory possible but in practice your chances are not likely to be above the average normally expected by the random turn of the Wheel of Fortune (50% you will, 50% you won't).

Your reading sees the following six months more as the best time or as a long overdue but well deserved opportunity for you to heal to the point that putting your heart out there again would be safe. If you waited until there was zero chance of your feelings getting hurt again, you would never love again. Some of your residual healing will only come to completion within another relationship.

I feel that it would be more reasonable to look at the second trimester (April 1st to the end of June) of 2012 as the optimum time for you to return to fully socialising, but between now and then you still need your family and friends as part of your vital emotional support network.

In other words it will probably be more in your own self interest over the longer term to slowly but surely reintroduce yourself to your social and love life over the next six months, than to try to do it too suddenly, and potentially undo all the healing which you had achieved up until then as a direct result of your impatience, undeserved feelings of self guilt and emotional over-dependence on men to make you feel better about yourself.

May you feel that your God is with with you always (for he or she is),

EoT  

Hi EOT

Thanks for your reading. Apologies for the delayed response. It made for quite difficult reading.I am very sad and disappointed that things between this man and I didn't work out- but must accept it. I am in pain, but also annoyed @ myself for thinking about/being concerned about someone that doesn't reciprocate any sort of concern for me (he jilted me). I must trust in my higher power, in myself and in the healing power of my kind and loving friends around me, and be thankful for such, rather on dwelling on what I can't change.

Many thanks again and love and light

X

Peony,

You are welcome, but it turned out to be a difficult reading for both of us.

Although I always am pleased to be given another opportunity to help you through a reading, it is never a pleasure to have to confront a friend with uncomfortable truths such as these definitely were which effectively remove all remaining hope of recovering or repairing your failed relationship, even if you had actually wanted to take the real risks which would be involved in doing so.

The fact that you already knew deep down where it counts that the relationship was over (and I sensed that you knew it) was not much of a comfort to either of us in the end.

However your positive let's move forwards and not allow this to get me down and I will survive attitude only gives me increasing confidence that you have not only eventually come out of this negative experience as a significantly stronger woman within yourself, but that your future love life is now looking considerably brighter because of it.

Take good care of yourself,

EoT

Thank you so much for your encouraging words , it means a lot. I appreciate that you have already answered the following questions in a way, but I thought I'd pose it to you in a more direct manner if you don't mind. I have been asked out by another guy, but I am wary for the reasons you mentioned, and also I am concerned that accepting the offer of the date will simply serve to satisfy my habit of boosting low self esteem through male attention- a self destructive addictive behaviour that I have had to work on for years. However, at the same time, I do not want to 'mourn' the 'loss' of someone that didn't even give me a 2nd thought given the way my last relationship/union (or whatever terms best describes it)- and I feel going on a date with someone else maybe in 3 weeks time or so (I don't feel ready now and am not interested to be. Honest in dating @ the moment) would at least mark my moving on. This guy also feels pretty disinterested, as per the attitude of the last one following our dispute. The most recent man's dismissive attitude started for no reason 2 days ago. Any advice/ views most welcome. But please do not wororry if this is not appropriate to ask/ too much to ask of you.

Many thanks for your time in reading this, and my reading above.

Peony