Hello again Mirror,
Here is your reading as I promised, and within the predicted 48 hour schedule as well.
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| The reason why we split is that, he was the first guy I've slept with and I told him I love him,think that scared him a lot. |
Your reading leaves me in no doubt whatsoever that you were spot on in observing that any hint or suggestion (no matter how subtle it might be) that he is required to make a commitment to your relationship, quickly sends him running in the opposite direction.
While I cannot read him directly via third party, I can do so indirectly through his relationship with you and I am getting a definite impression that this hesitation to make a commitment to any woman who gets too close to him for comfort stems mainly from his earlier relationships with women in general and his determination not to allow anyone to get that close to him ever again.
This is not an excuse for or a way of validating his insensitive behaviour towards you, but the reading is merely trying to help you better understand where he is coming from in treating you in that disrespectful manner.
Basically it appears to come down in the end to him not wanting to feel under any obligation for him to stay with one partner for the rest of his life. He wants all the benefits of having casual physical relationships with more than one woman at a time, but without the associated responsibilities and obligations that monogamy necessarily involves. He is attempting to apply a temporary bandage with the guaranteed to fail intention to heal his deeply wounded fragile male ego, by collecting women as his series of conquests, much the same as others collect trophies or awards to show everyone who is interested that they can do and have anything or anyone they want when they want them.
Yes there is always the remote possibility that he may suddenly undergo a major personality transformation and suddenly realize before it is too late for him to do so exactly what he stands to lose by not wanting to change hos behaviour for the better and grow up. There is a certain level of immaturity and selfishness about him, which is a crying shame as underneath the mask that he wears he is not really a bad person in himself. But the reading's advice is not to become too dependent on this happening anytime soon, or at least within the period of the next six to twelve months.
He still has too many wild oats to sow, to prove once and for all that he is God's gift to women and that they should accordingly be content to put up with a situation which they do not deserve. It is the old double standard where it is perfectly OK for him to have multiple partners, even while he is still physically involved with you, but if you were to sleep around then it would be viewed as a sign that all women including you cannot help yourselves purely because it is the nature of women to betray their male partner (or so he wants to convince both himself and others that this is the case).
He most likely does still have feelings for you which have very little if anything to do with our idea of what true love and caring is l, and it is felt that they are unlikely to have nothing to do with him feeling sorry for what he has done to you. His feelings are much more likely it is felt to be a hint of jealousy in knowing that you deserve better out of life and love where he does not, as well as significant disappointment that you were unwilling to go along with his plans, or accept a second or third rate type of love as a poor substitute for the real thing.
The question then is not so much will your ways cross again in future (very likely, but completely random and not leading to what you want to happen, or whether there is a chance that you will be together again anytime soon (no chance). In a certain way he was never truly with you this time. You were privileged to be with him, if it was only for a relatively brief period of time between his other sexual conquests.
The question you need to ask yourself is as to whether you feel that you do not deserve any better treatment from the man who professes to love and respect you. The longer you had stayed with him, the more I feel that he would have conditioned or hypnotized you into believing that this is true, when it is absolutely not. He wants you to feel obliged to him, without feeling any obligation or commitment to you in return for your obedience.
If the answer to this question is a resounding NO, then I feel that your chances of eventually attracting the right man for you within the period covered by this reading are well above the average expected by chance alone (50 - 50).
If on the other hand he has successfully conditioned you to accept that you do not deserve anything better, I do not want to frighten you but there is a particularly strong chance that you will continue to attract men who think and act much the same way as he did against all women who they will treat as trophies or as objects for pleasure at their convenience, and while under their control.
Would you really want to be back with him again under his terms and conditions? Would anything (including you having to accept that your feelings do not matter) be better than feeling temporarily lonely, or you not having a man in your life at this present moment?
Your answers to these questions are for your eyes alone, but could be shaping your love destiny as we speak. By holding on indefinitely to such self sabotaging beliefs at a subconscious level where it really counts, you could unintentionally be attracting more of the same type of men to you.
You may find the need for enlisting professional help, advice and support to be able to shift such deep seated, persistent beliefs, and to ultimately replace them with self confidence and self respect building or reinforcing ones which will in turn attract a much better quality of man to want to get to know you better.
Watch out especially for confusing negative body signals which you may unknowingly be sending out at present to all men in your vicinity to wrongly communicate to them that you accept that your feelings do not matter when compared to theirs, or that you believe within yourself that you do not deserve anything better than how you have been treated by this man.
Your mutual friends are very well meaning in wanting you to get back together with him, but they are not the person who has to live with the negative and far ranging consequences of her decision for effectively months or sometimes years, if you do eventually decide to go back to him under his terms.
Be kinder to yourself, and make a major positive vote for your own future physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health with your feet.
WARNING: TOXIC RELATIONSHIP ALERT!!!!!!!!!!
Infatuation is often the same thing as obsession and us holding onto something or someone, who is under the surface destroying us and our future.
It is a form of relationship addiction, frequently in a vain attempt to replace real or true and lasting love between a person and their supposed lover.
Take good care of yourself,
EoT
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