A general reading is one where it is left entirely up to the reader's inner guidance to decide what it is felt is most important and/or urgent for that person to know about at that particular moment in time. If you are asking a specific question either about soul mates or anything else for that matter, it cannot any longer be a general reading.

I would be pleased to give you a general reading, using the above definition as to what general means.

However, I also wanted to if I may use your question to help clear up some common misconceptions with regards to what a soul mate is or is not. This information may also be of interest to other members who are following your thread who are equally concerned that they might not find their soul mate, or are with the "wrong" person (with their soul mate being the only right one).

There is no one person that you were definitely meant to be with. Your life is not over or without any purpose, if you never meet a soul mate. We each have several potential soulmates in any given lifetime. Which of these if any you will meet and have a relationship with, is not set in stone.

Being their soul mate does not mean that you will both be compatible with and live happily ever after with each other. In reality soul mates often repeatedly come together during successive lifetimes precisely because they have outstanding issues with one another, which need to be resolved in this one. This means that if you do have a relationship with one of your soul mates, that you each may know exactly how to push all of each others wrong emotional buttons at the same time.

Conflicts and negative issues within your relationship may turn out to be precisely because you ARE each other's soul mates. Conflicts are potentially how many such issues are eventually resolved. It is quite possible for any of us to never meet one of our soul mates, but still find true and lasting love with someone who is not our soul mate.

The idea that if we never meet one of our many soul mates or even worse if we meet but them for some reason lose them again that our lives are over and we are only effectively marking time until we come back to Earth again to try looking for them again only shows how the concept of what a soul mate is believed to be has been grossly misinterpreted by some of the psychic community, in order to make a lot of money and to establish a good reputation as the world's most accurate reader out of the loneliness and unhappiness of so many vulnerable people.

In closing soul mates basically therefore have certain lessons which could be more quickly and easily learned if they met and had a relationship with each other, but these same lessons could also be learned more than adequately with someone who is not one of our soul mates.

CU soon with your general reading and sorry for the delay in getting around to it the long way,

EoT  

Honey,

Understandably with you already being four months pregnant you are looking for an atmosphere of loving and caring and long time security in which to bring up your child, financially and otherwise. But the man with whom you are if I understand this correctly currently living under the same roof as one another is not willing to accept responsibility for being his or her father and provider.

I am not sure whether he is simply avoiding wanting to take on this huge responsibility and you want to establish beyond a shadow of a doubt through a reading that the child is his so he must take responsibility whether he wants to or not, or less likely that he is suspecting that he may not be the real father after all, and you want to show him that his suspicions have no basis in reality (because you have been completely faithful to him at all times).

Please do not feel offended by me suggesting this could be the case, but when giving readings I must not assume any thing is what it might first appear to be on the surface. I am not here to judge, but to help.

A loss of trust by either one or both of you in their partner is clearly at the core or heart of your current stalemate, at the very time which you need each other most if you are going to give this child soon to be born the best opportunities to grow up happy and healthy. And whether or not this loss of trust is warranted or based in reality, the long term damaging effects to your relationship and ability to be effective parents to the being whom is growing inside you could potentially be exactly the same regardless.

Once trust is lost between two people, it can often be an uphill battle to restore it to anything like its previous level, and it must be earned back over a period of time mainly through what the person does or does not do, instead of only what he or she says that they will do or not do. In other words for trust to be able to gradually be restored to the relationship, the person's actions must consistently reflect their promises or words to their partner.

If I were you, I would be especially careful when using a psychic reading by itself, as being valid or admissible evidence of anything. Readers such as myself are constantly aware that while we do this labour of love with the best of intentions in believing that we are at all times picking up genuine psychic impressions during readings, it is equally possible that we are picking up on your wishful thinking and fantasies. There is by itself nothing intrinsically wrong in having wishes and fantasies.

To a degree they (our wishes and fantasies) promote hope and are healthy, and often motivate us to make whatever positive changes in our lives are felt necessary to increase the chances that they will eventually come true, but wishes and fantasies and the law do not usually get on especially well with one another. Evidence based purely upon what might turn out to be fantasies or wishful thinking on the part of the member asking for this reading, is not admissible in any court of law that I know of.

And demanding that evidence may also only further erode or wear away what little trust remains between you. Surely if you really trusted me your partner could say, you would never need the proof which you appear to be asking me to provide to support your claim. Or something similar to that.

So the question is as to where you can go from here to earn back each others trust through your behaviour, rather than it being only based upon your words or promises. In some way your partner is going to show you by what he does that he is both able and willing to trust you and to provide you and your still unborn child a secure and stable and healthy family environment, where loving and caring for each other through both the easier and hard times is the top priority.

You on the other hand must communicate through your actions that you are learning to trust him again, and that you no longer require him to provide solid evidence that anything is true, because he has already demonstrated on numerous occasions that your reasons for trusting him are both sound and long lasting.

The success or otherwise you each have in doing what your reading suggests during the next six months could be the main factor which determines whether or not your relationship will see the new year. I feel that this situation must be resolved one way or the other before the birth occurs. Take special care of your own health as well during the remaining months of your pregnancy, with the guidance of your trusted doctor or specialist to help you.

Congratulations,

EoT

Thank you very much for the reading. I've actually asked several psychics for advice. I have lost trust (in my now ex husband). It's a really long story, he left me very hurt. I also believe this man is my soul mate. I almost want to go against all of the advice I've been given and still try to make it work with him, but people fear for my safety- physically, mentally, and emotionally with him. This leaves me very confused. He does not want to be a father, which breaks my heart.

There's another man in my life and he wants to be the father regardless if the baby is his genetically or not. I just want to know who the father is for my own peace of mind, but I suppose I will have to wait and see.

Thanks again.

You are very welcome for the reading.

And thank you in return for being so understanding of the sensitive position it places me in to be able to give you what comes through me on your behalf as completely and accurately as possible, but at the same time in a way that I feel protects both yourself and your soon to be born son or daughter.

I can recognise the seriousness of your situation with the baby due to arrive late this year, but because I am not you I cannot possibly know exactly how it feels to have your heart pulled in two different directions, with everyone of us trying to offer you the most logical solution to your dilemma.

Who of us can think logically and clearly when it appears that neither decision will be judged as being the right one by the other important people in your life?

In the end we can only do what we feel is best for both ourselves and our loved ones and while good practical advice from others is always welcome, we alone have the right to make the final decision as to where to go from here.

Love, Light and Healing,

EoT