I'm looking for some magickal help or advice with a relationship issue. It's quite complicated, but I'll attempt to simplify it as much as possible.
For a few years now, I've known this woman online. We've been good friends, and have talked quite a bit. Over time, I've come to have strong feelings for her.

She's had relationship problems, because severe abandonment issues cause her to get anxious and worry that her partner is cheating on her or something, even when they're not, and to get very possessive and clingy. She knows this, and doesn't want it to happen anymore.

The thing is, she is already in love with someone else, and only sees me as a friend. I know this is very common, but this situation is unique. The person she loves is just a 'friend with benefits'. And not only that...he already has a girlfriend, who he cheats on with my friend and at least one, maybe two others. She's so hung up on this guy because he rescued her from her previous relationship where she was basically her ex's emotional slave....returned her confidence and strength. And still she has some feelings for her ex.

I know that even if she succeeds in winning this guy over, he'll cheat on her. And not only that, she'll be so distraught if or when he dumps her or even moves away without getting into a relationship with her that she'll run right back to her ex.



I don't want her to be hurt like that...and I just know that if she gives me a chance, I can save her from all that, and I'm willing to make sacrifices to do it. I still want to talk to her, so cutting off contact isn't an option.
This is causing me a lot of pain and depression.

Do you see anything that I can do, or any course of action I can take?
Is there any spell or ritual I can do to help me?



Any help or advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.

Since you haven't asked for a Psychic Reading, but more for common advice, I will give you my view of your story.

1) There is no spell to cast that can transform a none lover into a Lover.....many would wish for such thing.....but "HATE" it if it was for real...because if you can use it against other...other might use it against you... it has also wider implications...but no need for them here.

2) If you are a friend that love this lady, then be there for her...support her.....but not in your own interest, but more in hers. We all live our own life...we have to be allowed to do mistakes.....mistakes is life lesson....and if you interfere then maybe you will be the one who are blamed when she think back on "What Might Have Happen" if she had been allowed to followed her heart in the first place.

3)If you can't help her on hers conditions, but only see your own needs and love, then I suggest that you withdraw, after you have given her the message that you love her, and that you can't see when she hurt herself with a partner you find little trustworthy....you most NOT do it as ULTIMATUM!

If you do it this way, then you have put the ball in her field....then she has to evaluate her feelings for you....and on her own come to the conclusion on who to follow.

If she don't choose you, then you haven't lost anything...because she was never yours....but you have won...because you can start to change yourself, so you can open up for another relationship that can bring more fruit.

As said...this is not a Reading so if other want to pop in with any other advice, or Reading...please do so.

Sorry but I will have nothing to do with casting magical spells or using love potions to force any person to do anything which they would not have done without it.

Please therefore either look to another site which unlike Mystic Boards condones this type of psychic manipulation and power playing as morally the right thing to do for a fee, or rephrase your question in such a manner that it turns back both the focus and responsibility of what question you are asking upon yourself.

My first impressions before your full reading even begins is that you would be far better off keeping right out of what is a complex and potentially self destructive situation which can ultimately end only in misery and self destruction for all people who are caught up in it.

Before deciding what question you would prefer to ask as an alternative to casting a magic spell over her with the good intention to protect her from getting her feelings hurt again (she has obviously had a serious of traumatic experiences which are still ongoing with other men, for which I feel a great sense of empathy), ask yourself if she really wants your idea of protection, and if you gave this protection would she be able to use it because she has already been so emotionally damaged by other men than yourself.

I am not debating that you have strong feelings for her, but it is what you decide to do with those feelings for which you are personally responsible. I sense that you pushing this issue in the direction of forcing her to do anything could seriously backfire on you, even though you wanted her only to be happy and free of her negative emotional baggage.

Your intentions to protect and guide her to find a better life for herself are both positive and honourable to the extreme, but in order to help another person they must first want to be helped in the manner you have chosen, as well as secondly being able to use the type of help which you are offering her because you feel that it is your place to do this.

In other words if as I suspect you decide to reject my advice not to continue to intervene in this sorry situation for everyone where you may potentially be killed by friendly fire and go ahead with what you originally planned to do, then you could realistically end up doing more further harm than good to both this woman as well as to yourself.

If you simply want to remain good friends and offer her comfort and support when or if requested go right ahead. You have a definite healing gift of empathy which could be of great benefit to her in helping her to keep her life together. But anything more than that I feel is doomed or destined to fail, starting from the word go.

Also it has been said many times by people much wiser than either of us that sometimes the best way to show a person that you truly love and care for them is to let them go or release them from any feeling of obligation to you. If they come back to you under their own steam, well and good. If they do not even though it might be painful to you never to see them again, you have done what was the responsible and right thing by both your soul and their soul as well.

Be kinder to yourself and do not unnecessarily become too deeply involved in other people's problems, anymore than they personally ask you to through both their words and actions. A good healer needs to keep a reasonable distance from his client, to be able to both remain effective as well as sensitive to her constantly changing needs and moods in a balanced manner.

Possibly this is all the reading that you may need at the moment to carefully reconsider exactly what you are hoping to achieve by forcing this issue because of your feelings for her.

You will not again become eligible to request the next one on either this or any of the other reading forums, until at least June 25th (one month after this request)  

Namaste,

EoT