It's been a long time since I last logged in here.
I think in many ways I've not allowed myself to look too close at where I'm at and where I'm going - for too long.
And yet, today I felt compelled to log in, do a lot of reading, and think about my future.

So, I was wondering if anyone had time to do a reading?

It's hard to think of how to specifically word the question on my heart.
In general, I have loved someone for so very long, and I've clung to the hope that we get to share a chapter of our lives together.  But as time has gone by, and "life" keeps happening, I'm wondering if perhaps I need to let go of that dream.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks and blessings!

Di
DOB 6/21/70
Gemini
(not sure what other information you need . . .)

Hello Di,

Welcome back!

I have just returned from my regular weekly day off from readings of Thursday to study your request, and some thoughts immediately sprung to mind as I was reading it. I have decided to go with these thoughts and see where they lead in preference to giving you a formal reading on this occasion using Tarot cards or any other tools of divination as a focus.

I am at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to directly reading his thoughts, feelings and intentions about, for and towards you as this would necessarily require me to g9ive you a third party reading which I am not allowed to do.

Yes it is perfectly true that I can partially get around the third party restriction by reading him indirectly through his relationship with you which no offence intended sounds as though it is going nowhere fast, but I must caution you that any predictions or insights gained through this more round about method often tend to be far less reliable than if the direct route had been open to us.

I get a complex mixture of feelings interacting or conflicting with one another when I intuitively tune into your relationship as it currently stands.

If you have been living under the same roof, it is if he is physically living there with you, but not equally there emotionally or in the way of making any long term commitment.

If you have never reached the stage of living together, I really cannot see it happening any time soon or at least during the next six months covered by this reading, if indeed it ever happens at all.

In the absence of a third party reading the number of possible reasons why your relationship has never managed to move to the next phase is only limited by one's imagination. And I am sure that your mainly negative imagination is working overtime in attempting to come up with logical reasons why he seems to have developed a severe case of cold feet when it comes to taking things to the next level and  making it clear to you what he expects of your relationship, and whether he is in this for the long run.

One obvious possible reason could potentially be another woman (has he ever been married or in a long term failed relationship before he met you) has got his full attention, leaving him little energy or time or inclination to want to settle down with you when he is getting extra benefits on the side from someone else who is not asking for any sense of commitment as I feel that you are.

But honestly with this man while he is just as capable of being unfaithful as any man can be, I do not get the right signals to convince me that this is the genuine reason for your relationship intermittently running hot then cold then back to hot again.

Perhaps it is more likely to be the situation that from his perspective, he is already getting all that he wants out of your relationship without having to necessarily profess his undying love to you. He has grown so comfortable with his situation, that he does not understand why either he or it should change.

While you are looking for long term security and some sign of commitment, he is looking to enjoy himself and make the most of what time he still has with you, while you appear to on the surface be content to leave things exactly as they are.

So your reading suggests that the current ongoing stalemate of your relationship could be not surprisingly due to a combination of factors operating t the same time.

A relationship involves at least two people, and as much as I recognise that most of the problems could be on his side, it could well be that you are also simply too nice and deeply emotionally involved with him to want to rock the boat by openly confronting him with your doubts and fears about where you personally feel that your relationship is not going.

My feelings based are that unless you do openly confront him with the same concerns which you have brought to this reading during the next six months and are not willing to accept the real risk that it could mean that he will choose to leave you any way, that you should be looking to another man to give you the true and lasting kind of love you so deserve to be given (but which up until now has eluded you).

Unless you come straight out and effectively communicate what you a feeling or thinking about the future  of your relationship (if it does turn out to have a future), then I feel that sadly your relationship is basically dead in the water, and that it is only marking time while waiting for a proper and final burial.

If when you confront him with these hard truths he turns away from you and exits from the relationship, and there is nothing in the reading which says he definitely will or he will not  turn tail and run, at least you will know exactly here you stand with him. At present your relationship is in a state of limbo or a self induced coma, where neither of you has a clue as to guessing what his or her partner if feeling or thinking.

There are too many attempts I feel by both of you to read each other's thoughts and feelings indirectly through telepathy or a psychic reading, when the most efficient method of all of finding out for sure what is going on just below the surface of any close long term relationship is effective, mutually honest two way communication between two people who love and care and respect both themselves and the other person enough to be able and willing to take the risks involved of hearing the truth (painful or otherwise) straight from their partner's lips.

Blessed be,

EoT