Hi my name is Anthony Martinez i was born on May 2,1993 making me 18 years old and i am a male who is attracted to men and am wondering if i will find love soon with a man. If possible could you tell me when and where i will meet the the man to

Hello Anthony,

No it is not usually possible for me to tell you exactly how, when and where you will meet your future partner through a psychic reading.

However readings of the type given by me on this forum are commonly accepted to refer to the period of the next six months after your request has been made.

This means  of course that a negative prediction in a particular reading does not mean anything about what might possibly happen after those first first six months are up.

The same general rule applies equally to same sex relationships as it also does to man woman ones.

A relationship reading cannot be given about a relationship which does not yet exist.

Many psychics claim to be able to accurately and usually for an expensive price predict when people will find true love, but in my experience such efforts either create false or empty hope, or alternately they take away all sense of hope when there was in reality plenty of reason to hope for life's greatest reward.

Also it is not allowed for readers to try to directly read another person other than the member who requested the reading's thoughts, as this is an invasion of their personal right to the privacy of their own thoughts.

Readings directly about any other person than oneself are called third party readings.

See the forum rules for more detail about this.

"Please Read Before Requesting a Reading"



See especially rule number 12.

OK. So now that I have told you what a reading should not be expected to do to help answer your understandable question as to when true love will be yours, what can it be expected to do and just as importantly what am I allowed to do for you in a reading as your reader?

Turn the focus of your question back upon yourself.

Instead of wanting me to predict how, when and where you will find him, it might be better to ask what you could reasonably do on a practical level to improve your self confidence and by so doing attract a more suitable type of man to you as your prospective partner, than you might have otherwise.

There is nothing third party about that question as it is exclusively about YOU.

Instead of predicting what your future love life might be like (it would be just as accurate to flip a coin or roll a dice or stare into a crystal ball until you go blind than to try to do this), take a more active role in helping yourself to create a better love life for you as well as for I believe the special man who will come into your life in the future.

Unless I receive a negative response from you under this thread within the next 24 hours to tell me that you do not want to go ahead with the type of reading I am suggesting above (you must decide this and I will respect your decision), it will be given.

Regards,

EoT (male)

yes i would like you to tell me how i can improve my self-confidence to attract men to me

Hello gain Anthony,

I appreciate you being so quick to respond to my message, and will begin your reading without any further unnecessary delays.

The question being asked here is with regards to how you could actively over the next six months increase your sense of self confidence to the point that you would naturally attract a more suitable type of partner. One who would value and respect you for being who you already are now, instead of him wanting to change you into someone whom you are definitely not.

I am a married man myself but I strongly suspect based upon what I see happening with same sex partners who are also my friends that a lack of self confidence and self respect is often at the core of their difficulties, both in beginning as well as in maintaining a long term relationship, no matter how strongly the chemistry is working between them.

So it follows logically that anything that one could possibly do to increase his feelings of self esteem certainly should not do any harm to his chances of finding his soul mate, and could potentially make this happen much sooner rather than later, or not at all. But that is the logical view of things, while this month's reading in contrast looks at the question from a totally different intuitive perspective.

Since the way in which another man responds to you is a reflection of what is happening within you particularly in how you value and respect the person whom you are deep down in your soul where it really matters, in order to change their response you must first look within yourself as to why you might possibly be sensing out the wrong signals through your body language. It is not only what we say but how we say it which tells another person most about how we feel about ourselves, and most people judge us not only by what we promise that we will do (our words), but mainly by what we actually do (our behaviour).

If on one hand you say that you value and respect yourself (words of self love), but at the same time you behave in such a manner that it clearly shows the other person that the complete opposite is the case (you behave as though you do not value or respect yourself), who are you fooling other than yourself over the longer term? In the short term you may possibly get away with this act, but then you are also not showing respect to the other man whom you are deceiving into thinking that you have a very positive assessment of yourself as being honest and trustworthy.

If this continues to happen too long your partner will eventually realize often too little and too late to save his own human dignity and stop himself looking like a fool because he believed you that he is being tricked into continuing the relationship, and that you do not really love him at all. He may then do one of two things, primarily depending on how strongly he feels about you physically, as well as his own levels of self confidence and self respect.

If he feels a strong enough physical attraction to you, and his own self esteem is very low, he may choose to continue what is to be honest a dead end relationship of unhealthy codependency. Where your low self confidence and his low self confidence will effectively feed or build upon each other, until it destroys one or both of you. Such a dead, unhealthy relationship I would not wish upon my worst enemy, let alone on a decent human being and friend such as your very good self.

Or he could just decide to leave you!

I would much rather that you should both enjoy the strong physical bonding in addition to a reasonably happy, healthy long term relationship at the emotional and spiritual levels, simultaneously. Just as logically the best possible thing you could do to attract a better type of partner would be to do anything which you could to make your confidence in yourself grow but not disrespectfully using another person in order to make this happen, your reading is only confirming that most of the changes which will eventually make the loving relationship which you are you dreaming about a living reality must happen within YOU.

Look more carefully at what unconscious messages or signals you are communicating to your prospective future partners about how much you love yourself, and not only what you claim to feel about your own value of yourself as a person. It may turn out that basically there is nothing really seriously lacking with your self confidence (some degree of low self esteem is natural and par for the course) at all, but that your love of yourself (value + respect) is being unintentionally and not therefore your fault lost in the transmission.

In other words your reasonably normal levels of self confidence are not for some unidentified reason getting through to him, and as a result he is reading your opinion of yourself incorrectly as being terribly low, when it isn't any where near as low as he thinks that it is.

Based upon logic alone, do whatever practical, safe and respectful to both the other man as well as to yourself to increase your levels of self confidence during the next six months. Be careful not to overuse "retail therapy" and get yourself into crippling debt as a direct consequence of shopping until you drop, or your credit card melts down.

Based upon this reading focus your attention on the distinct possibility that there is nothing seriously lacking with regards to your feelings of self confidence, but that the problem more likely is one of poor or faulty communication of your core beliefs about yourself to your potential partner.

You may or may not need to ultimately seek professional advice and assistance in doing this, but while you are still, 18 and presumably still living at home with your parents (?) who accept your sexual preferences and proud to have you as their son, I sense that to do this would be somewhat premature and possibly a waste of time and energy and money.

Hoping that this reading helps you and does not unknowingly with the best of intentions scare or confuse you more than you already are about expressing your sexuality with a consenting adult who loves you as much as you love him.

May Love, Light and Peace be yours now and forever,

EoT

Thanks for the reading! But im kinda confused are you giving me advice about what i could do to attract men to me or that im going to attract a man that you are describing here?