his name is justin and he used to be in love with me for a few months too but now he's dating another girl and wants to date a lot more other girls. i still want to be best friends with him and i love him unconditionally. should i stay friends with him and hope i fall out of love with him or should i not talk or see him for a few weeks, he's my rock, i dont know what to do. he wants me to be friends with him but also casually date other guys. he loves me but he's not IN love with me. i feel like i love him unconditionally and im trying to honor his decision, but it hurts so much and we're currently casually dating with no commitments because he says he missed out in highschool and college and is making up for lost time and wants to go out and experience "life".

He loves the casual sex and having you as one of his admirers, available partners on demand or one of many female conquests at the same time.

He likes women to amongst other things too sensitive to mention here massage his seriously compromised and inadequate, fragile male ego.

Having him as just a friend on the very slim hope that you will eventually fall out of love with him is according to what I am reading a recipe for emotional disaster for you especially.

A man who wants you both to have an open relationship where both of you are free to casually date anyone you like lacks any of the maturity and respect which you deserve to have in your loving relationships.

This must go down in history as one of my shortest, sharpest and easiest readings to interpret.

This is NOT love.

He is a USER!

In symbolic terms you are his moth, and he is your flame.

A moth which flies too close to any flame will eventually become toast.

I feel that you deserve much better from life and love than what he is offering you, although I sense that you may still go ahead in spite of this well intended advice, as the emotional hold which he presently has over you in both your mind and woman's heart is very strong, and will be extremely difficult to resist.

EoT

I like being best friends with him though, should I just not be sexual with him and ill be fine?

I think that EOT has given you a very poignant and heartfelt reply there. Not easy to give such blunt advice and not easy to read,  but you really need to listen and look at the situation you are in.

I wonder what Justin might do if you found a great guy that You wanted to see more of and get serious with?  I bet he would go ballistic with jealousy? Or might he just shrug and walk away?

Matters of the heart are so important to us as emotional human beings. At your tender age you are in the middle of blossoming out and stretching your wings so that you can find Mr Right. Do you really think Justin is it? Can you imagine yourself marrying him, spending every day and night with him and then growing old together? Can you? If not then move on now and don't look back. It is hard, I know, I went through love's up's and down's, heartbreak, being used, being dumped, walking out and slamming the door too. But I do beleive there is a real Mr Right for everyone that wants one. Keep looking till you are sure you have found yours

thanks